Umntu ngamnye unemvelaphi yokuzala. Kwaye kukho ubungqina besayensi. Iingxelo malunga nokungabikho komnye umzulwana onokuzixubusha ziyakucingelwa ngokungabikho ngokuqinisekileyo. Kwaye ukuba umntu akafuni umntwana, zikho izizathu zokuthi. Kule meko, into ephambili yabasetyhini akuyi kukhankanya kwi-blackmail, kungekhona ukubeka iziqulatho, kungekhona ukugxininisa kwindawo yabo.
Musa ukuba nobuqili. Ukufezekisa injongo yakho ngobuqhetseba kunokuchaphazela ulwalamano lwakho. Kwakhona, akufanele unyanzele umthandayo ukuba abe nosana. Abahlaziyi be-hysterics, ukunyanzeliswa kwexesha elide kunye neziqulatho ziyakunciphisa indoda evela kuwe.
Esinye sezizathu zokuba umntu engayifuni umntwana ukungaqiniseki kumlingane wakhe. Ukuba abakhethiweyo bakho babonisa ukungafuni ukucaca ukuba nabantwana, kufuneka ucinge malunga nokuba unobungqingili olwalamano. Ngoko ke, zama ukubonisa loo mntu ukuba unokukuthemba kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uthembekile kuye. Zama ukuqonda ukuba le ndoda ayanele, ukwenzela ukuba ukuba kunokwenzeka, ungayilungisa.
Iseluleko esilandelayo singabesifazane abayeni babo abashishini bezentengiselwano, ngokubhekiselele kwaye bahambelana ngokucacileyo nobomi. Kule meko, into ephambili ukuthetha ngokuzithoba ngcoko malunga nobuhlobo bamadoda kubantwana. Kwiimeko ezininzi, loo mntu uya kukuxelela malunga neemeko zentlalo kunye nemali intsapho yakho kufuneka ibe nayo ukuze ucinge malunga nokucwangciswa komntwana. Oku kuthetha ukuba unyulo lwakho unenjongo kwaye ucinga malunga nethemba lexesha elizayo, kwaye kufuneka uxhaswe kulo.
Ukuba unabo bahlobo abasanda kuba ngabazali, kuya kuba luncedo ukuwavakashela. Kukho amadoda ambalwa kwihlabathi abangenakuchukunyiswa ngumbono onovuyo omtsha kunye nomntwana wakhe omncinci. Phakamisa umntu ukuba adlale nomntwana, yibambe ezandleni zakhe. Kodwa kufuneka ushiye le ngcamango, ukuba inkwenkwe ingenangqondo kwaye ingathinteki. Inokugqibela iyothusa umntu kwaye iqinise ukungafuni kwakhe ukuba nomntwana.
Ngokweengqondo ze-psychologists, kulula ukuba amadoda athole ulwimi olufanayo kunye namakhwenkwe eneminyaka emithathu. Kule minyaka, abantwana bazimeleyo kwaye baziphathe ngokufanelekileyo kuluntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa umntwana efikelela kwiminyaka emithathu ukuba umntu unemvakalelo eyayihlonishwa kakhulu.
Kukho indlela yokuchaphazela isigqibo somntu, usebenzise uncedo lwabazali bakhe. Sitshele ngomnqweno wakho wokuba nomntwana nonina noyise. Kwamadoda amaninzi, unina ngumfazi oqikelele kunabo bonke emhlabeni, kwaye ubaba nguye ogunyazisiweyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ngabazali bayamkhathaza malunga nokuba ngaba lixesha lokubanika abazukulu, kuya kunceda lakho iqabane ukuba awuyi kukhetha ukuba nomntwana, ngoko uqala ukucinga ngawo. Kodwa sebenzisa le ndlela yefuthe kufuneka ibe kuphela kwimeko yobudlelwane obuhle phakathi kwakho kunye nomntu okhethiweyo kunye nabazali bakhe.
Ekugqibeleni, zama ukuchazela ngokuchanekileyo ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana bubungqina obubalulekileyo bokusebenza kwakhe kwindoda, eyona nto iyanelisayo kunezihlunu ezithintekayo kunye nemishini ebiza. Ukongeza, xelela indoda ukuba ukuvela kwintsana yakho ekhayeni lakho iya kukukwenza ube ngumfazi owonwabileyo kwihlabathi kwaye uya kuthanda ukuthanda ubaba osandul 'ukwenziwa ngakumbi.
Ukuba njani, ubuza, ukuba akukho ncoko kunye neengxabano zanceda ukugcina umlingane wakho ekungafuni ukuzala abantwana? Sincoma ukuba uthathe i-breather kwaye uhlalutye ngokucokisekileyo ubuhlobo bakho naye kunye namathuba okuphumelela. Ngamnye wethu ufuna ixesha lokuba enze isigqibo esinzulu kwaye ashintshe ubomi bethu.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni, ungazami ukumphoqa umntu ukuba athathe isigqibo esinjalo. Kufuneka zize ngokwazo. Nika ixesha lakho elimthandayo, kwaye uya kulixabisa.