Ziziphi iimfihlelo kwaye ungabelana nobani na?

Xa umhlobo wakho evuma ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba "ngasese" watsho malunga nokuhlukana kwakho no-Masha, kwaye yena wathembisa ukuba akukho mnye umphefumlo ophilayo oya kukwazi ngako, udla nje kuphela. Wabona ngokukhawuleza ukuba kutheni usuku lokuzalwa lomhlobo wakho womtshato, amantombazana afika kunye nabagijimi bawo, akukhangela ngesikhalazo esifihlakele kakhulu, ngokugqithiseleyo ungavumi ukuhamba kwesinye isinyathelo sabathandekayo bakho. Le meko, ngokukhethekileyo, iyaziqhelana nabaninzi bethu. Kodwa ukugcina imfihlelo kubugcisa bonke!


Ngemfihlo kubo bonke ukukhanya

Kungenzeka ukuba ekuqaleni uya kuba nomsindo nomntu ofanayo "obonakalisile kwihlabathi yonke ngasese" imfihlo yakho. Kwaye kwakufanelekile ukwenza oko? Cinga ngokwakho: unokwenza ntoni ngokwenene kuloo meko? Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba nzima ukuba uphendule lo mbuzo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba wena ngokwakho ungeke ulondoloze i-SVOYuTINA, unokuzifuna njani omnye umntu? Ewe, kwaye ngokubanzi, ngaba unolwazi oluxabisekileyo kwaye luyimfihlo? Ngendlela, kwaye yintoni imfihlo yoshishino ye-nasamom yokukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza ekuhanjisweni kwazo zonke iimfihlelo?

Njengomthetho, ukuthembela kuye nawuphi na uhlobo lwemfihlelo, sisoloko sengozini yokuba i-vis-to-vis ekhethiweyo kuthi iya kubetha. Kwaye, nangakumbi, ngokweengcali zeengqondo, ukuvuleka kwethu ngezinye izikhathi kusishukumisa isifiso sethu esinqumlekileyo sokwenza okokuba ingxaki yethu ibonwa ngabantu abaninzi. Ngoko ke, ukufuna umhlobo wakhe ukuba "agcine yonke into efihliweyo ngokupheleleyo," kusenokuba kukho ezininzi iziganeko.

Okokuqala, ngaphambili

Enye yeendlela ezilungileyo kunye neendlela ezibonakalisiweyo zokugcina imfihlo sele ithathwa njengomgaqo olula: "musa ukuxelela nabani na." Kodwa nathi kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ngokufumana ulwazi kuphela, thina ngokwethu siya kuthatha uxanduva kuyo yonke imiphumo. Ngamanye amaxesha umthwalo okhethiweyo ukhe usenokungenakubekezeleka. Nangona kunjalo, qhubeke uqhubeka ujikeleza wedwa "ibhokisi yeemfihlelo", ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba "uphule" ukuziphatha kwaye ufumane ukuphazamiseka kwemihlaba.

Yintoni, emva kwayo yonke into, kufuneka yenziwe ukuze kugcinwe iimbulunga ngendlela elungileyo kwaye ungagqithisi kakhulu? Ngaphambi koko, umntu kufuneka acinge ukuba kuyintoni na ukufaneleka ukuxelela. Kwaye, ngendlela, akudingeki ukuba ulayishe umntu osondeleyo kune-nipopadia.

X-Ifayile

"Isifuba kwindawo yokutshata kwintsapho"

Phantse yonke intsapho inemfihlelo yayo, njengoko kuthiwa: "Olunye usapho luyintlango emnyama!" Kwaye, njengommiselo, le mfihlelo idla "ihlambela uhlanga".

Ngubani oza kubelana naye? Kule meko, kukulungele ukwabelana ngeemfihlelo zentsapho kunye nabachaphazelekayo ngqo. Ngokukodwa xa unquma ukuzisa umntu omtsha kwintsapho, kufuneka atshele iimfihlelo zentsapho. Kwaye nangona kungenakunqikazeka ukuba uqaphele oko, kungcono ukuba umntu omthandayo uyayifumana malunga nawe, kunokuba ungummelwane onobungqingili. Ngendlela, ngokubhekiselele kwixesha elidlulileyo "elimnyama," ngoko ke, kwi-fortune enkulu, ngoku baninzi abanomdla malunga nokuhlanzeka kwegazi.

"Uthando aluhlali apha"

Ukuvuma kumthanda kulula, kunokuba kuvume ukuba kudlule. Ukugcina imfihlelo yeemvakalelo, sinyanzeliswa ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi-ukwesaba utshintsho, intlungu, ukuhaha, umkhwa kunye nabanye abaninzi. Njengomthetho, wonke umntu apha unokufumana isizathu sakhe.

Ngubani oza kubelana naye? Iziko. ucinga ukuba akaqatshitshwanga nonke. Kwinqanaba elincinci, umntu uvakalelwa "ukukhupha" kumntu wakhe. Abanye banomonde wokunyamezela ubunzima. Kodwa nokuba yintoni na, musa ukulayisha abahlobo kwesi sihloko - kuya kuza kuye.

Esinye isixhobo sisebenza apha: ukuba uqinisekile ukuba akukho nto iya kwenzeka kumntu, kufuneka uvume kuye. Unelungelo lokwazi! Kwaye unelungelo lokuhlonipha ukunyaniseka!

"Ixesha lokusebenza"

Ngaba uyayeka okanye ufumane malunga nokukhuthazwa okuzayo, okanye usebenza ngemali enomsebenzi "we-hack-work" yenkampani yokukhuphisana kwaye ungalali iiyure, ufuna ukwabelana nomnye osebenza naye? Ewe, yonke into apha iyenayo, akukho mntu uya kuzinikela!

Sekunjalo uya kunika! Kuwo nawaphi na iofisi kunomnye kuphela ocinga ukuba kufanelekile ukubika konke kumagunya. Nokuba uxelele umlingane ukuba aphumelele ukuxothwa, unokwenza ukuba abe nomsebenzi wokuba ngaba ufumene indawo, kwaye i-firm has not suffered.

Ngubani oza kubelana naye? Ngomntu osebenza kunye nenkampani yakho, kodwa akadibanisi kunye noogxa. Uya kugcina yonke into ekusithekeni, kuya kuba lula, kuba akaqhagamshelana nalabo abanokuba banomdla kule nkcazelo.

"Yaye nantsi yangaphambili ..."

Oko kukufanelekile ukuhlala ucacile malunga nolwazi olunzulu. Kodwa esi sihloko sixoxwe kakhulu kwigumbi lokulala. Le ndoda ayilungisi le ngxoxo, ukwesaba ukuthelekiswa, ngoko kuya kumfazi.

Ngubani oza kubelana naye? Kuphela kungekhona kunye neqabane langempela. Ukukhumbuza imemori, uwathulule kumaphepha eforum. Bhala ileta uze uyitshise okanye ukhumbule kunye nabahlobo bakho. Amadoda, ukuthetha malunga nabangaphambili, kuthathwa ngokungathí sina. Nangona iqabane liba nembono obanzi ngobomi. Kuyafana nokuthandwa kwamanje: ukudlala ngothando kwi-Intanethi - gcina yonke into kuwe!

"Umhlobo waphosa ingxaki"

Kuyamnandi xa abahlobo bethemba wena ngeemfihlelo zabo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha le nto yinto engcono ukungazi, umzekelo, ukukhwabanisa. Enye into yokuba uyavuya kukuba ufumene umntu olungcono. Enye enye into ukuba lakhe langoku ngumhlobo wakho omhle, ongenakho ukungabi namdla.

Ngubani oza kubelana naye? Apha, ewe, uya kuthatha isigqibo. Kodwa izazi zengqondo azicebisi ukuphazamiseka ngaphandle kwemfuno yobudlelwane be-vchuzhie. Intombi okanye umtshato okanye udibanise, kwaye uya kuba ngu-razluchnitsey. Into ebalulekileyo ongayenzayo kukunika umngane ingcebiso, kwaye imfihlelo ayiyikuthabatha!

YoNcedo lokuqala

Intombi yakho ayiyazi indlela 'yokugcina umlomo wakho uvaliwe,' kwaye wamxelela ngephutha.

Usindiso: Ucela ukuba angakuxeleli nantoni na engenamsebenzi, jonga nje ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwenye into.

Wena umhlobo uthembele kwimfihlelo, kwaye wena, ngaphezu kokuthanda, utshele ngomntu wesithathu.

Usindiso: Unqwenela ukuphika. Kubalulekile ukubetha yonke into ukwenzela ukuba umnxibelelwano waqala ukungathandabuzeki. Kwiimeko ezinzima, phenduka phambi komhlobo. Kodwa kungcono ukuzigqiba isigqibo.

Umhlobo uxelela ngeemfihlelo ukuba awufuni ukwazi yonke imihla.

Usindiso: Mnike umrekhodi wezwi kunye nekhadi lebhizinisethi yengqondo yeengqondo, ngaphandle koko uya kuba ngumntu "osisigxina."