Imithetho elishumi yokuxabana eyakhayo


Awuyi kukholwa, kodwa ingxabano iyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu nawuphi na ubudlelwane. Akunakwenzeka ukwabelana ngobomi bakho nomntu kwaye akukho nto iphikisana ngayo, nokuba yinto enobungakanani. Ewe, njengawe: "Ngubani na namhlanje okhupha umlambo?" Kodwa ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza omnye nomnye akuyona indlela efanelekileyo yokufumana ubuhlobo. Mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa ukwazi ukuba kukho imigaqo yokuphikisana, uhlobo lweengcamango zokusombulula iingxabano. Emva kokuba ufunde ukuxabana ngokuchanekileyo, usebenze ngexesha kwaye uphumelele ukuveza iingxabano, unokomeleza ulwalamano lwakho, kunokuba ubenze ngakumbi. Eli nqaku libonisa imigaqo elishumi yokuxabana eyakhayo, eya kuba luncedo ukufundisisa nganye ngaphandle kokunye.

1. Musa ukuthuka!

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Kwiziko lomlilo siyaqala ukuhlambalaza omnye kwaye sithetha izinto, ngokuqinisekileyo, sasingafuni ukusho nhlobo.

Yintoni ongayenza kuyo : Gxininisa kumbuzo ozama ukuwulungisa, kwaye "ungayi kumntu". Qinisekisa ukuba akukho zihlazo kumazwi akho angashiya imivalo yesikhathi eside.

Ukuxelela iqabane lakho ukuba "lilize, livila", uzibeka ngokwakho. Wayekhohlile ngokugqithiseleyo umxholo weengxabano waza wagxotha ukuba ahlasele. Kuphela uza kuba netyala. Ukongezelela, xa ubushushu bugqithisa, awuyi kukhululeka, kwaye kuya kunzima ukunqoba le ntliziyo. Ingxabano iya kuhlala ingenamsebenzi. Ubudlelwane buya kugxininiswa.

2. Musa "ukutshintsha iintolo".

Kwenzeka ntoni ngokuqhelekileyo: Siqala ingxabano kunye neengxaki ezithile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza: "Kwaye ngokubanzi, undiphe umthwalo onyaka ophelileyo, kwaye udade wakho uphelile, kwaye ngezolo usicindezele inja ngomnyango ..." Kwaye isisiseko iingxaki zilahleka ekugqibeleni. Ingxabano iya kuba yinto engacabangiyo.

Into enokuyenza, endaweni yoko: Xa uphikisana ngento ethile, qiniseka ukuba wenza njalo loo nto. Thembeka, xela oko kukukhathazayo ngokwenene. Yenza ingxaki kumlingani wakho ungalimazi, ungaziphazamisi ukuhlambalaza kobubudenge, kungabikho nto.

Kuphela ngokuguqula umbuzo othile, unokuza kufaka isivumelwano kunokuthi uphazamiseke ezinye izinto ezininzi.

3. Musa ukulahlekelwa yinjongo.

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Sizama ukubonakalisa into, singakwazi oko sifuna ukufezekisa. Kufana nokuhamba kwisangqa okanye ungayazi ixesha lokuyeka.

Yintoni enokuyenza, endaweni yoko: Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ingxoxo, zama ukugqamisa injongo yayo ephambili. Cinga ngesiphumo sokugqibela kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kuphelisa ingxabano ekuqaleni. Injongo kufuneka ibe, ngaphandle koko le ngxabano iba yintsiphelelo ekuphuhliseni ubudlelwane. Akayi kukwazi ukukunika nayiphi na into exabisekileyo, enokwenene inika "ingxabano" efanelekileyo.

4. Ukwazi ukuxolisa.

Okuqhelekileyo kwenzeka: Sifuna inetyala yonke indawo, kodwa kungekhona kuthi. Asithatha uxanduva kwiingxabano zethu kwaye ngokukhawuleza siba nomsindo xa sicinga ngetyala lethu.

Into enokuyenza, endaweni yoko: Akusixolisi ngaphambi kokuqala kwengxabano. Ngenxa yokuqalisa ngamabomu ingxabano kunye nokuxolisa, ngoko ke ususe isisombululo kwingxaki. Yaye ingxaki ngokwayo iya kuhlala.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ufike kwisivumelwano, oko kungenzi buhlungu ukuba uthi "Ndiyaxolisa." Eli gama lithetha kakhulu kumlingane wakho kwaye uncede wenze ulwalamano lwakho lube lukhulu ngakumbi.

5. Akunabantwana!

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Ngamanye amaxesha siyacaphukisa kangangokuthi sivumelekile ukuba simemeza ngendoda, nangona abantwana bekwindawo.

Yintoni ongayenza kuyo: Nokuba ucinga ukuba lo mbuzo ubaluleke kakhulu - linda ukuba abantwana bakho balele okanye bahambe ekhaya. Umntwana, ukuba uncinci, usoloko esolwa ngokuxabana phakathi kukayise nonina. Kwaye kubantwana abadala, impi ayithwali nto enhle. Ingakumbi ukuba kwenzeka njalo.

Inzuzo ephambili yale nto kukuba ngelixa ulinde abantwana ukuba bashiye kwigumbi, uya kuba nexesha lokuzola. Iingxaki ziya kufumana inkqubo, uza kuba nexesha lokufumana iingxoxo ezilungileyo. Konke oku kunokukwenza ukuba "ulwe" ukuqhuma okungaphantsi.

6. Ukuyeka ukusela.

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Emva kweeglasi ezimbalwa, siyazilahla thina kunye neemeko. Ukungquzulana kukukhula lula ibe yimfazwe engcolileyo kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, kunzima. Asikhulumi malunga naluphi na ukuphikisana okwakhayo kule meko.

Into enokuyenza, endaweni yoko: Ukuba ingxabano iyaphuza, xa usuke udibanisa, zama ukuzincama kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Lindela kude kube ngumhla olandelayo, xa bobabili niya kuhlamba. Kwiimeko ezili-9 ukusuka kwiingxabano ezili-10 kwiintloko ezixakile ukuba zingabikho.

Iingxabano ezininzi "ezingenakwenzeka" zingaphikisana ngokubanzi emva kweiglasi zewayini okanye ubhiya - kwaye zidla ngokugqithiseleyo zonke izinto owake wazifumana. Njengoko utywala uchaphazela umgama wakho, umlomo kunye nomsebenzi wokuphicotha, uchaphazela nokukwazi kwakho ukunceda nantoni na.

7. Jonga omnye nomnye.

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Ngethuba lempikiswano sisuke sijikeleza ngeenxa zonke kwindlu, kaninzi singekho nakwikamelo elinye.

Yintoni enokuyenza, endaweni yoko: Zama ukuhlala etafileni yokutya okanye nje embhedeni uze uxubushe ingxaki yakho. Ukugcina udibaniso lwemehlo, akuyi kuba lula ukuthetha into engathandekiyo. Ukongeza, uza kubona impendulo yomlingane wakho kumagama akho.

Enye inzuzo: ukuhlala, abantu bathambe ukuphakamisa ilizwi labo. Iingxoxo zakho ziya kuviwa ngaphandle kokumemeza, unokuzuza kwigama "elincinci" elingaphantsi.

8. Thatha i-breather.

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Siyamemeza siphinde sithuthumele, de kube sibabini siphendulela okwesibhakabhaka size siqhubeke ngoku iiyure ezimbalwa.

Yintoni ongayenza, endaweni yoko: Misa uze uthathe uhlobo oluthile lwexesha. Akukho mgaqo othi ufanele uhlale esivumelwaneni kwisihlalo esisodwa. Kuyafaneleka ukuba wenze i-breather uze ubuyele kulo mbandela kwiiyure ezimbalwa, okanye nangomso.

Into emele ungayikhohlwa ukuyenza kukuba uqinisekise ukuba ubuya uphinde wenze isigqibo ngxabano. Isiphakamiso sokuphuka akufanele sisetyenziswe njengesisombululo sokuphelisa impikiswano nantoni na!

9. Khangela i-compromise.

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Sichaza kuphela imbono yethu yombono, singayiphulaphuli imbono yomlingane. I-quarrel iyajika ibe yindoda, igalelo.

Yintoni endiyenzayo endaweni yoko: Okokuqala, zixelele wena (nguwe owaqala ingxabano), kwaye ke ndivumele ukuba ndikhulume kwenye. Buza imibuzo, uphukise ingxoxo engenangqiqo ngale ngxaki. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungaya kumbono oqhelekileyo wento ethile. Ukuphambana nomnqopho ophambili wezo zonke iimbambano emhlabeni.

10. ungasongeli!

Oko kwenzeka ngokuqhelekileyo: Eyona nto ayiqhelekanga, kodwa kwenzeka. Uqala ukuxuba umlingane wakho: "Ukuba kungenjalo ... ke ndiya kukuqhawula, mthabathe umntwana, awuyi kumbona!" Kukho ezinye iindlela.

Yintoni ongayenza kuyo: Yonke into echazwe ngasentla. Ungalokothi usongele! Oku akuyona indlela yokuphuma, kodwa kuphela umthombo wengqumbo, ulwaphulo kunye nokungaqiniseki. Unokwenza ixeshana "ungqongqole" ukunqoba kwimpikiswano, kodwa yena, undikholelwe, uya kuba semfutshane kwaye akayi kukuzisa. Ukuphela kweengxabano ezinjalo zihlala zifanayo - isithuba. Musa ukuzisa kule nto!

Ukuxabana ngokuchanekileyo bubungcali. Kodwa, ngokuziqonda kakuhle le miyalelo elula ngelinye ilanga, uya kusindisa iingxaki zakho kunye nomanyano wakho ixesha elide. Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa ngabahlobo kwaye ungaxabani nezihlobo. Yaye le nto yintloko ebomini ngamnye wethu.