Iimbandezelo zezingane ziyinto engathandeki kakhulu, bajamelana nabazali abaninzi, ingakumbi xa umntwana eguqula iminyaka eli-1 ubudala. Iintlungu zezingane ziyakwazi ukukhutshwa njengendawo ethile ekuphuhliseni umntwana. Ngamaqhinga akhe kunye neengqungquthela, umntwana uzama ukufezekisa iinjongo ezifunwayo okanye ukuveza umsindo kunye nentukuthelo phezu kweengxaki okanye izithintelo. Ngoko ke, abazali bafanele bazi indlela yokujongana nabantwana abangabantwana abaneminyaka elilodwa.
Ingqiqo ye "abahlaziyi" kunye neengcamango ze "whim" kufuneka zihluke. Ukuziphatha komntwana kula mabini mabini kuhambelana nokukhala, iintlungu, ukuwa phantsi. Ngako-ke i-Whims yicatshulwa ngoko, iinjongo zenzana ngamabomu ukufezekisa into ayifunayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ii-whims ziphawu lwabantwana ukufikelela kwiminyaka emibini. I-Hysteria iyenzeka ngokukhawuleza, umntwana ulahlekelwa ukulawula phezu kwemizwa yakhe, kwaye ukukhungatheka kunye nentukuthelo kuboniswa ngokuhlaselwa.
Abazali kufuneka bacinge ukuba ingqondo yengane ibuthakathaka, ngexesha lokuhlaziywa umntwana engakwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo - umntwana akayidlala, ukuphelelwa yithemba nokukhala kwakhe kunyanisekileyo. Unengqondo kwaye ufuna inkxaso yakho, nangona isenzo sakhe singagqibekanga ngenxa yezizathu zangaphandle.
Indlela yokusebenza kubazali ukuba ngaba abantwana abaneminyaka engama-nye ubudala abanokusebenza ngokufanelekileyo? Ingongoma ebaluleke kakhulu: ukuba umntwana uye wagxotha ingqumbo, ungenzi oko into efuna ukuyenza. Ukuba ubuncinci xa umama avumela umntwana ukuba aphendule kwi-hysterics athathe i-vase, engenakuyithathwa, iya kulungisa indlela yokuziphatha komntwana kunye nokuhlaziya iya kuphinda ngaphezulu. Ukunyanzela umntwana ngexesha loxinzelelo kukufundisa umntwana ukuba "ahlaziye" ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo, oko kukuthi, ukuba angabonakali. Umntwana uya kuba yindlela enqwenela ngayo yokufikelela kwiinjongo.
Ukuthetha ngethuba lokumangalisa nomntwana akufanelekanga. Akukho mfuneko yokwehlisa, ukugxeka, ukumemeza - oku akunjalo nje kuphela, kodwa kunokukhuthaza ukuqhubela phambili kokuziphatha kwe-hysterical. Ukushiya umntwana wedwa akufanelekanga. Ukuxhatshazwa kuqhutyelwa yithemba. Kufuneka ube khona, uhlale uzolile, ulinde ukunyuka kwengqondo yomntwana. Xa uqaphela ukuba ukushisa komnqweno kuhla, kufuneka uthathe umntwana emacaleni, uziva uxolo kwaye uqiniseke. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana ngokwabo abakwazi ukugqiba isigaba sokugqibela se-hysteria, abakwazi ukuyeka iinyembezi, ngoko bafuna uncedo lomntu omdala. Musa ukuphika umntwana i-weasel, nangona ephosakeleyo.
Kuvinjelwe ngokukhawuleza ukumemeza ngomsana ngexesha lokuhlambalaza kwakhe, xa ungeke ukwazi ukumkhahlela. Amanyathelo anjalo akwandisa imeko yomntwana. Ukumemeza kunye ne-flip flops - oku kuluhlobo lomnqaku kumntwana, oko kukungqalelo komntwana kwaye uvela kuwe. Zama ukuhlala uxolo, ungayihoyi uhlaziyo ngokubanzi. Ngelo xesha, uhlala kwelinye igumbi njengomntwana wakho, wenza ishishini lakho. Kungekudala umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe okuhlambulukileyo akuvelisi iziqhamo ezifunwayo, ngoko ke kungabi nto kwaye kuchithe amandla akhe kuye.
Ukuqwalaselwa kukumgangatho omhle, owanceda umzali ukuba aqaphele i-harbingers yama-hysteric ngokuziphatha komntwana. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba yimilomo elandelwayo okanye ukunyuka kwenyuka. Ngokukhawuleza xa ubamba ukuhamba kweqhwithi-qalisa ukuzama ukutshintsha ingqalelo kwanebhokhwe kwinto ethile yokuzonwabisa. Ukuphazamisa ingqalelo kwinto yokudlala, kwinto eyenzekayo emva kwefestile. Gcina ukhumbule ukuba le ndlela isebenzayo kuphela ekuqaleni kwe-hysteria. Xa umntwana ephakathi kwe-hysterical fit, akukho mfuneko ukuzama ukutshintsha ingqalelo yintsana. Imizamo engaphumeleli yokuzinzisa umntwana iya kukhokelela umntu omdala ngaphandle kwemali.
Khumbula, ukukhathala nokukhathala kubangela ukuba kubonakale kwimeko yokungabikho komntwana. Ngexesha, mbeka umntwana ukuba alale ubuthongo obusuku nemini. Gwema u msebenzi. Ungasebenzisi kakubi imidlalo ephathekayo, ngokukhathala komntwana ukufunda incwadi, upende. Umntwana ngokwakhe akwazi ukuyeka ukugijima nokugxuma ngexesha. Ukubukela ukhathala komntwana ngumsebenzi wabantu abadala.
Ngaloo ndlela, isimo sengqondo sokuzola kubazali ngokubhekiselele kumntwana, ukungabi nako ukuzisa imeko kwixesha elibalulekileyo, kungekhona ukuzithobela ukulungelelanisa i-hysterical efanelekileyo kunokuvumela ukulwa nomntwana ngokunyanisekileyo.