Namhlanje ubuye ufanele uphulaphule izikhalazo zotitshala: "Uphinde alume ..." Umntwana wakho ubukeka ehlazekile, kodwa kubonakala ngathi akazisoli kakhulu ngezinto azenzileyo. Udidekile kwaye awukwazi ukuba uphendule ngokufanelekileyo njani "ukuziphatha kwangaphambili" okunjalo. Ngaba ndimele ndigxeke, ndijezise, okanye ndithemba ukuba kuya kudlula ngokwalo? Ngelishwa, i-kusaka encinci ithathwa kalula ngokuthi "ngumntwana onzima", kumama ohambahambayo uya kumjonga ngokuqaphela kwaye angabalumkisa abantwana babo ukuba bangabonisi kunye neyakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, lo mkhuba awuyiyo imfuyo, phantse wonke umntwana omnye ubuncinane "wabonisa amazinyo." Kodwa ukwenzela ukuba ugweme iqela lokutshatyalaliswa kwintsana yakho, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo uze uchaze ukuba kukho ezinye iindlela zokubonisa iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi, ezingathandekiyo kwaye ezibuhlungu. Ngomntwana omncinci, umlomo uyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomzimba, ixhomekeke ekufumaneni ukunyameka nokuphanda izinto, ngoko kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba ubonise ukunganeliseki ngomlomo nangamazinyo. Yaye xa ekubetha okanye umntwana wakho uhamba, oku akusoloko kusisenzo sokubandezela, ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna nje ukunxibelelana, ukuthetha, oko kukuthi, uzama ukuluma iqela lalowo akuthandayo. Umntwana omncinci unempembelelo encinci yeempendulo zengqondo, ngoko ukuluma kungabonisa uthando kunye nomzamo wokutsala ingqalelo, kunye nomsindo. Isigama sakhe sisincinane kakhulu, kwaye kufuneka asebenzise nayiphi na indlela ekhoyo yokuthetha.
Abantu basekuhlaleni
"Ixhoba" lokuqala lomntwana lidla ngokuba ngumama, kuba livusa kuye iimvakalelo ezinamandla kunye eziphikisanayo, ukusuka ekuthandeni. Ngaba uyenqabela into ethile? Yaye uyanibetha! Umntwana omncinci usebenza ngokugqithiseleyo, ngokusemgangathweni "wokumelana nokuvuselela", kunye nexesha kuphela, imigaqo oyimisile iya kumnceda ukuba atyekise izenzo ongazithandiyo. Ungazivumeli ukuluma, vimbela umntwana ngamazwi: "Andikwazi ukuluma." Musa ukuhlazisa umntwana, umbize okubi kunye nokunyaniseka: akaqhelanga ngokuziphatha komcimbi, kwaye umsebenzi wakho kukunika ingcaciso efunekayo. Musa ukuluma umntwana ngokuphendula, uzama ukubonisa indlela elibuhlungu ngayo: kwamehlo akhe le yinto ephikisanayo. Ukungayithobeli indlela yakhe yokuziphatha ayifanelekanga - umntwana uya kuqonda oku njengobonakaliso benkqantosi yakho kwaye uya kuqhubeka ezama ukuya kufikelela kwimpembelelo eqondakalayo. Ukubona into eyenzekayo kuye yinkwenkwe, kufuneka ibonakalise uxhulumaniso phakathi kweemvakalelo zakhe nokuziphatha kwayo: "Awuyivuyo. Awuzange ufumane oko ufunayo, ngoko ukhale umngane wakho. Ngoko akumele uyenze kwakhona. Awukwazi ukuluma. " Kwaye ke, kuyimfuneko ukukhankanya ukuba i-bite ibuhlungu kakhulu. Hlala uqaphele: ukuba umntwana uhlasele umzalwana omncinci, kufuneka ungenele ngokukhawuleza.
Isifundo sokudibanisa
Ngendlela yokuhamba, impikiswano kwibhakethi okanye i-scapula inokutshatyalaliswa kwangoko, kwaye ngoku amazinyo asetyenziswa. Ungalindelanga ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko, ungenele ngokukhawuleza: "Kucelwa uxolise kumhlobo wakho." Ngaba uyaqhubeka? Emva koko unokuthi, "Ndicela umngani wakho ukuxolelwa kwakho, kuba ukhululile kwaye awukwazi ukwenza ngokwakho." Xa umntwana ehlalisa, unokunika inkcazelo engakumbi: "Ndiyaqonda ukuba uyacaphuka, kodwa awukwazi ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Amazinyo akho angaluma i-apula, isandwich, kodwa akufanele ayilumise abantwana! "Kodwa akwanele ukutsho ukuba awukwazi ukuluma, kufuneka uxelele umntwana ukuba ungabonisa njani iimvakalelo ezimbi ngenye indlela - umzekelo, ubuso, ubuso, uhlobo oluthile lwesenzo. Chaza umntwana: "Kwabanye baqonda ukuba uthukuthele, musa ukuluma, unokugubha, okanye ugxininise unyawo lwakho, okanye usho into ethile" ngelizwi "elikrakra." Ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokucacileyo kwaye ngokucacileyo ukuze umntwana anokuxelisa.
Ukukhutshwa
Ukuba umntwana uyaqhubeka ekuluma, buyela kuye iinkcazo zakho rhoqo ngaphambi kokuya kubantwana bezala, i-nursergart okanye ukuhamba ukuya epaki. Nangona kuthathwa amanyathelo, umntwana uyaqhubeka eluma? Mhlawumbi ufanele ucinge malunga nokuba yeyiphi imbangela yengxaki engokwengqondo, ngaba ulungile kwintsapho yakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho nomntwana? Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, kumnceda ukuba asuse amandla angaphezulu kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi. Umsebenzi wezobugcisa ngumzila ogqwesileyo wokukhulula amandla, kwaye ukuzonwabisa nokuhamba nomzimba womntu kuya kukulinganisa umntwana, kuya kumnceda abe noxolo noxolo. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uqhubeke nokunyamezela nokuzithemba ngokuchanekileyo komgca wezemfundo owukhethile, kwaye kungekudala umntwana uya kunika lo mkhuba onobungozi.
Qapha, bhinqa!
Ukuba ixhoba elithi "kusaka" yintsana yakho, zama ukumbuza malunga nokuba kwenzeke, thuthuzela kwaye umcele ukuba athethe ngokukhawuleza malunga neziganeko ezinjalo kumntu osuka kubadala kwaye angalindi. Ukuhlamba ngokukhawuleza ukuluma nge-sese uze usetyenzise okanye ucindezeleke kakhulu okanye i-ice cube ukuzola intlungu.