Kodwa bambalwa abantu bayazi ukuba ukuzithemba kuvela kumaxesha okuqala okuphuhliswa komntu, oko kukuthi, ebuntwaneni. Ubuntwa kubaluleke kakhulu, kubuntwaneni ukuba umntwana kufuneka anikwe ingqalelo enkulu.
Kwaye sizathu sokuba abazali bahlala bekhangele impendulo yombuzo othi: "Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana ngokuzithemba? ". Njengoko sele sithethile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sizithembele ebuntwaneni. Ngoku siza kuzama ukuqonda konke oku, sinike icebo leengcebiso. Thatha la macebiso ngokubhekiselele kuyo, kuya kuba yimfuneko kuwe.
Masiqale.
Nsuku zonke kufuneka ufeze izinto ezithile ezilula kunye nomntwana wakho. Kodwa kufuneka uqikelele ukuba oku kufanele kwenzeke ngexesha elifanayo, ngoko umntwana uya kuba nethemba ngakumbi. Kutheni? Ngoku siza kuzama ukucacisa oku nkcukacha. Khangela, xa izenzo eziza kwenzeka ziza kwenzeka, ngoko ziya kwenzeka kunye okanye zinciphise ngexesha elinye likaThixo ngosuku. Kule meko, umntwana uya kuqonda oko kwenzekayo, kwaye ulawula zonke izenzo. Uya kukhuseleka. Uya kulawula ngokupheleleyo ihlabathi lakhe, njengoko kufanelekile. Ewe, umzekelo, ukuba umntwana uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba emva kokuba adle, uya kujonga i-cartoon, ngoko uya kudlala kunye namathoyi kunye nonina, kwaye uya kulala-ngaloo ndlela umhla womntwana ucwangciswe kwangaphambili. Uyazi ukuba nini kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni, unokukwazi ukulungelelanisa kwisiganeko esithile, uya kuba nethemba ngakumbi kulo mcimbi, kuba akukho mangaliso kuyo yonke imini ayiyi kuvela. Ngoku, makhe sicinge ngolu hlobo xa iziganeko ezenzekayo zicetywayo, zenzeke ngokungenakulungelelaniswa. Kule meko, umntwana uya kuba nexhala kakhulu, uya kulahleka kwilizwe lakhe. Ngoko akufanele uvelise umntwana ngokuzithemba, kuba awuyi kuphumelela. Kwaye ukuba uyazi zonke izinto, ngoko uya kuzaliswa amandla kwaye uza kulungelelanisa zonke iingxaki.
Masiqhubeke. Kumele unike umntwana wakho amathuba amaninzi okudlala. Umdlalo uya kuvumela umntwana ukuba azi kakuhle ihlabathi, ukufunda ngaye ngokwakhe ulwazi oluninzi, kunye nabantu. Ungakulibali ukuba ngexesha lomdlalo umntwana uya kufunda ukujongana neengxaki ezahlukahlukeneyo eziza kuvela ngexesha lokuphila kwakhe, kuya kunceda ukuba umntwana akwazi ukuzithemba. Masithathe umzekelo omncinane: umntwana udlalwa yinto eneqhosha. Xa esicinezela kuyo, kuthatha isenzo esithile esinentsingiselo. Yilokho eyenza umntwana acinge ukuba unokwenza okuthile ngezenzo zakhe, kwiimidlalo ezinjalo, abantwana baqala ukutshintsha, bakuziva, baba ngabantu obuhluke ngokupheleleyo.
Makheke umntwana ukuba asombulule iingxaki ezahlukeneyo. Kodwa musa ukuzixazulula. Uya kufuneka ube ngumlingani wakhe, kodwa akukho. Ukuba umcela ukuba ancede, ncedisa, kodwa ungayicombululi yonke ingxaki. Ukuba umntwana wakho akaphumelelanga, zama ukulungisa ingxaki kunye. Zama ukufumana isizathu seengxaki, kunye nendlela yokuyicombulula ngayo - kodwa makhe siqale sitsho kumntwana, musa ukuyichukumisa. Makhe "akuyalele" wena, kungekhona wena. Ukuba umntwana wayeka ukucinga kwaye engazi indlela yokusombulula ingxaki, zama ukumnika ezininzi iindlela zokusombulula. Kodwa ungatsho nto into engcono, vumela umntwana enze isigqibo. Yaye yilapho umntwana ezenza zakhe izigqibo, ubona ukuqinisekiswa kuye ngokwakhe, uya kuhlakulela ukuzithemba yena kunye namakhono akhe.
Nika umntwana imisebenzi ethile aya kuyidinga ukwenza. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba uyayenza kakuhle, ngoko uya kuqonda ukuba uyamthemba, ukuba umntu ufuna uncedo lwakhe. Oku kuya kunceda ukuqinisa ukuzithemba.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uphumelele into ethile, qiniseka ukuba umdumise ngenxa yalo! Nayiphi na, nokuba yinto encinci yokuphumelela -yidumise. Emva kwexesha, imemori yale mzuzwana ingalahleka, ngoko yakha kunye kunye nokungeniswa kwidayari, ukuthatha izithombe, irekhodi kwividiyo. Okokuthi, ukuba umntwana wakho ufunde ukuhamba-qiniseka ukuba uyifake le mzuzu ebalulekileyo, ukukhathazeka okufanayo: ukukhwela ibhasikidi, ngowokuqala kukaSeptemba, ukunyuka esihlalweni, ukungena kwisiko ...
Ukuba ngokukhawuleza umntwana wakho akafumani nto - akunandaba, kufuneka uxhase umnqweno wakhe wokuphumelela impumelelo, ukusombulula ingxaki engasebenziyo. Ngoko, ukuba akakwazi ukulungisa ingxaki ethile, ncedise ukuba ahlule kwimisebenzi emininzi eya kuba lula ukuyixazulula. Ngeemisebenzi enjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana uya kukwazi ukujamelana naye. Oku kuya kumnceda, aqiniseke, uya kunika ingqiqo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana uyesaba ukukhwela ibhasikidi, hlala kwaye uqhube. Emva koko umbeke kwaye uhambe, uya kuqiniseka ukuba unenkxaso kunye noluncedo oluvela kwicala lakho, okuya kumnika ithemba. Kumele umxelele ukuba nemisebenzi enzima kakhulu anokuyicombulula ngokulula. Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukuba oku kufuna uncedo lwezihlobo okanye abahlobo, kodwa kuya kusenziwa ngumntwana ngokwakhe. Uya kuyeka ukwesaba ukuzisa izinto ekupheleni.
Xa ukhulisa umntwana, kufuneka usebenzise izitatimende ezintle. Musa ukuphika isicelo somntwana kwisimo esibi. Yonke into mayiyenze ngothando nothando. Ukuba uyayiphika yonke into, unokumcaphukisa kakhulu umntwana ekuqaleni kwenkwenkwe yobuntwaneni, "ukuba" ukuvakalelwa ngokupheleleyo, oko kuthetha ukuba kwikamva elizayo umntwana angakhetha umsebenzi ongafanelekanga awawufunayo, akayi kwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo, njalonjalo. Ngokubanzi, ubomi abuyi kulandela imithetho yayo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, umntwana kufuneka akhuthazwe, amqinisekise ukuba uya kuphumelela.
Yaye ukuba uyakwenza, iya kusebenza kuwe. Inhlanhla kuwe!