Abafana banamandla ngakumbi kunamantombazana, abachaphazelekayo malunga nobuchule babo besondo. Ukhokelo lwokhuphiswano kule ndlela lubonakaliswe ngokucacileyo. Ngengqiqo, phantse wonke umntu ufuna ukugqithisa amanqabiswano akhe kwizondo zesakhono, ngokwesalathiso intombazana inomtsalane kuye kunabo bonke abalingani bakhe bokuqala, ukuba banelise ngakumbi nangakumbi kunabo bonke abantu. Kwiinkomfa zendoda zenza inzuzo enkulu, efana nentlawulo yeoli, iinkampani ezithile, eziphinde zibonakalise ukubaluleka kwalo mbandela kwindoda. Kwaye akumangalisi, kuba ngokwemveli babonwa njengabalingani abasebenzayo abayalela inkqubo kwaye ngoko ke banembopheleleko enkulu kunokuba bangabonakali. Isihlandlo sokuqala kubo sisilinganiselo sobubomi babo kwaye sihambelana nokuhlolwa kokuqala kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, apho phantse zonke iinjongo zixhomekeke. Yonke into intombazana kufuneka iqonde oku, mhlawumbi ingozi ingaba yinto ebangelwa yiyo "mvavanyo". Ulwalamano lokuqala lolwalamano oluphumelelayo, njengommiselo, lukhuthaza impumelelo kunye namanye amantombazana, okubaluleke kakhulu kumfana.
Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantu abanokuba ngabaxhalabileyo, nokuba banokukhathazeka ngokugqithiseleyo malunga nokuba banokuphumeza ngokuphumelelayo isenzo sokuqala okanye cha, bafumana uxhamlo kunye nokungaqiniseki ukuba baya kukwazi ukufeza injongo yabo. Ukusondela kwesenzo, kunamandla ngakumbi. Emva koko, oku kuchaphazeleka ngenye into engathandekiyo, esoloko ivela ngokungalunganga, ngexesha elibaluleke kakhulu, elinzima kakhulu ukulwa - isifo sokulindela ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini (apha-STOSN). Uthi kumzuzwana obaluleke kakhulu, xa lixesha lokuqala ukuqhuma, ulungiso luyabonakala, oluya kugcinwa ngexesha lokuqala okanye libuyiselwe emva kokupheliswa kwemizamo yokuqalisa ukulala ngesondo. Ngokwehluleka ngalunye, ulwaphulo luya kuhlaziywa kwaye lufikelele kwinqanaba lokuba ukuxhatshazwa kwale ndoda kuya kuqala ukuphepha ukudibanisa nabalingana nabasetyhini, ukubethelwa ngeengxaki, ukuvelisa iingxaki, ukuphuhlisa ukungabi namandla kwengqondo. Okuyingozi kakhulu ukuvela kwile ngxaki kubusane bokuqala, kuba kule meko kunokuba nzima kakhulu okanye kungenakwenzeka ukuyiphulukisa ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabadlali bezesondo okanye i-psychotherapists.
Akunjalo onke amantombazana ayaqonda ukuba kumfana uthetha ngesondo lokuqala, indlela ebonakalayo ifuthe ngayo yonke imisebenzi yesondo elandelayo. Ngako oko, ngokunjalo intombi ingabangela i-STOS, nangona kungengomntu ovuyayo kakhulu, kwaye oku kungakho ibinzana elilodwa ngesigwebo sakhe somntu okanye ukukwazi ukumkholisa. Ukuba uhlazisa isityholo sokuba loo nto ayinalo ukulungiswa kakuhle, ngoko ke inokuyandisa ingxaki, emva koko kuphela ochwepheshe onokwazi oza kukwazi ukumsindisa ekuchaseni.
Ngokuchasene noko, intombazana kufuneka ixhase umlingani wokuziphatha, phawula nayiphi na enye, nokuba yintoni impumelelo engabalulekanga (umzekelo: "Ulungele kuyo, qhubeka!"), Kwaye ukuba unamava ezesondo - ukubonisa umsebenzi othile, ngoko akayi kuzuza ukuzithemba, kodwa kuya kutshintshwa ngokubalulekileyo, kuba ukusuka kwindlela yokuqala yesondo iza kudlulela ngayo, kungekhona nje kuphela isigaba sengqondo sobomi bobufana obuxhomekeke kuyo, kodwa kunye nokuvavanya kwamandla akhe nakwezinye iindidi zobomi. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu abathobekileyo, abangakhuselekanga abaqalise ngempumelelo ubomi babo ngokwesondo, bafumane ukuzithemba, amandla omoya, baqhagamshelane, baqhube ngamashishini abanobuchule, iinkokeli zamandla kwaye, ngokwenene, bathandekayo abanomdla. Umphumo kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokuqinisekileyo, akubalulekanga kakhulu, kodwa akubalulekanga. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba amantombazana emva kokuhlambalaza atshintsha umlingiswa wabo; Oku kuyafana neyabantwana.
Kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, unokuqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba intombazana iqonde okokuqala isini kumntu, kuba kuxhomekeke kubo. Sonke senze into ethile okokuqala, ngoko, intombazana enamava kufuneka ibe novelwano kubafana abangenamava, ngazo zonke iindlela zokubanceda ngokulala ngesondo.