Hyperopeka
Abazali abasebancinci badla ngokukona oku. Umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa, ngokukodwa ukukhanga kunye nokulinda ixesha elide, kubangela isiphepho sengqondo emitsha, abazali baziva benembopheleleko ebalulekileyo kwintsana kwaye baqala ukumncedisa. Kakade, umnqweno wabazali ukukhusela nayiphi na inkathazo, ukukulindela yonke iminqweno yomntwana, ukumkhusela entlungu, kuyaqondakala. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha udlula yonke imida efanelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo i-hyperopeak ayibonakaliswa uthando olungenakulinganiswa kumntwana, kodwa ekufuneni kwabazali ukuba bangamshiyi ithuba lokuzimela. Kubonakala ngathi akukho nto inzima kukuba umntwana uyanyamekelwa, kodwa eqinisweni. Ukukhathalela okunjalo akuvumeli umntwana ukuba afunde nantoni na. Abazali bamondla kwi-spoon, bagqoke kwaye banamathele ama-shoelaces, nangona ukuba "umntwana" usele ixesha lokuya esikolweni. Abantwana abanjalo abanqabilekanga ukuba banandipha kwididi ngaphandle kolawulo oluqinileyo lwabadala, abakwazi ukuqala izilwanyana, konke okucatshangelwa ukuba kuyingozi kubazali akufaki kubomi babo, kwaye izinto ezinjalo zifumaneka xa zifunwa. Iiposiso zabazali malunga nalokhu kwimeko yomntwana osongelayo kubangela ukuba umntwana okhulelweyo uya kukhula umntwana kwaye aphendulwanga ngokupheleleyo ubomi boqobo.
Ukungahoywa
Iiphoso zomzali zibaninzi, kodwa enye yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukunyaniseka komntwana wakho. Izizathu zezi zinto zinokuba ziyimfuneko kakhulu - abazali baxakekile emsebenzini, balungiselela ubomi babo, ukungaqondani phakathi kwabantwana nabazali. Ngamanye amaxesha isizathu sokuba umntwana ashiywe ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa kakuhle kungabinxila kubazali, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kubakho ukuzala okunzima, enkumbulo yakhe engavumeli ukuba umama abonise uthando lwakhe ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana okhulayo kuloo ntsapho unokugxila emva kokuphuhliswa, kodwa ngaphandle kwalokhu, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo kuboniswa rhoqo, ngenxa yokuba umntwana uziva engadingekile, uzive engabonakali ebomini babantu abasondeleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungahoywa kubonakaliswa ngokungafuni ngokupheleleyo kwixesha lomntwana, ngamanye amaxesha kuphela ngokukhala ngokukhawuleza ngokuthi "andinaso ixesha" okanye "ndingakhathazeki," kodwa kuhlala kukho ingozi enkulu.
Ithemba elingaqinisekanga
Enye abazali abaphosakeleyo abaphosakeleyo-kulindeleke komntwana kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali okanye ezinye izihlobo zomntwana zomntwana zibona umntwana njengethuba lokugqibela lokufumana izifiso zabo. Umama wayephupha ekubeni ngumdlalo we-ballerina, ubaba wayefuna ukunqoba i-cosmos, ugogo wayephupha ngomculo, kwaye umntwana, obonakala njengengqondo, uqhutyelwa kuyo yonke into. Umngcipheko wesimo sengqondo kukuba iminqweno yomntwana kaninzi ayihambisani nokulindela kwabazali, wenza konke akhuphe endleleni, oko kuthetha ukuba akunakulungelelaniswa njengoko abazali befuna. Kwaye oku kukhokelela ekubeni abazali bayeka ukucamngca umntwana wabo njengonobulumko, oyingqayizivele kunye neetalente kuphela ngenxa yokuba akaphumelelanga kwindawo abathanda ngayo. Oku kukhokelela ekudakaleni kwemibutho kunye nokuxabana, ezininzi ezininzi iingxaki kunye neengxaki ezinkulu ngaphakathi kwentsapho kunye namalungu ayo onke.
Ulwaphulo
Mhlawumbi, le mpazamo ayinaso ukulungiswa. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuphathwa kakubi komntwana, kodwa akukho namnye kubo onokwenza nomntwana. Isohlwayo esiqinileyo kunye nogonyamelo olusemzimbeni lihlala liphoso lwabantu abadala. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali banomthetho ngokumalunga nomntwana, abaqondi nje ubuntu bakhe nangombono wakhe, kwaye ningacingi ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kunenkohlakalo. Ukunyamezela nobugwenxa kufundisa umntwana ngomkhwa wokuziphathisa kunye nabanye ngolu hlobo, oku kuthetha ukuba kukho ithuba eliphezulu lokuba omnye umtyholi uza kuvela kuloo ntsapho. Ukongezelela, akukho nto imfuneko yokuphinda ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana kuyingozi kakhulu kwaye kubazali ngokwabo - njengomthetho, bakhula, abantwana abakalibali iimpazamo zabazali babo kwaye bacinga ukuba ngumsebenzi wabo wokuziphindezela. Oku kungabonakaliswa kokubili ukungahoywa ngokupheleleyo, kunye nobudlova. Ngolonwabo kule mizalwane ayikho umbuzo.
Ewe, iimpazamo zabazali zingafani. Sinokwenza okungalunganga, kungekhona ngokufundisa, kodwa umsebenzi wokuqala wokuba abazali bawakhumbule ukuba izenzo zabo akumele zonakalise umntwana. Kuphela kwindlela enomsebenzi nefanelekileyo kwimfundo, intsapho ingonwabile.