Iingcali zithi umntwana oneminyaka emithathu unemibandela yobudala kunye nengqondo. Kulo nyaka uqala ukuzijonga ngokuzimeleyo. Kodwa abazali abancinci abasoloko bekulungele ukutshintshwa okunjalo, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela ezizodwa zeengqondo zengane eneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Ngenxa yoko bafuna, okokuqala, ukuba bafunde.
Kwenzeka ntoni kumntwana.
Kubonakala ngathi ngoku kutshatyalaliswa kwintsana, ukuthobela ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngokukhawuleza yaba yingozi, inkani kwaye ingakwazi ukulawula. Ukwahlukeka okugqithisileyo kweengqiqo: ukuqikelelwa - okungalawulwayo. Ingaba ngumntwana ngokwakhe - ekutshintsheni ubuntu bakhe? Okanye mhlawumbi inkathazo yonke yabazali? Inyaniso yokuba ayilungele ukuwamkela umntwana wabo okhulileyo, ukuba bafuna ukuphinda bamlawule? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abazali abakulungele ukufunwa ngokusemthethweni kwanomntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala: "mna ngokwam!" Kodwa izinto ezininzi umntwana oneminyaka emithathu usenokuzenza ngokuzimela. Musa ngokukhawuleza njengoko thina, abantu abadala, kodwa sinako. Oku kufuneka kuvuyiswe kuphela. Kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile abazali abaninzi banokwesaba.
- Masincede! - Umama uyamemeza, ekhangele unyana uzama ukukhawula izicathulo zakhe.
- mna! Ukuqinisekisa ngokuqinisekileyo le nkwenkwe.
"Wenze kakuhle!" - Siyadabuka kwizinto ezilungileyo, kodwa siya kucaphukisa. Okubi kakhulu, makhe siqale ukumemeza kumntwana: "Woza msinya!" Ngenxa yokucaphuka okunjalo, ngaphandle komnqweno wokwenza konke ngokukhawuleza, kukho ukwesaba okwenene. Uloyiko lokulahlekelwa ukulawulwa ngokupheleleyo, ukulahleka kobaluleka komntwana.
Ixesha lolawulo lombuso.
Qala ukuhlela "iintsuku zikaRhulumente". Makube ngumhla othile okanye ixesha ngaphambi okanye emva kokulala-akunandaba. Into ephambili kukurekhoda ngokucacileyo eli xesha kumntwana ngoncedo, umzekelo, i-timer okanye iwashi ye-alamu. Okokuqala, inkokheli kufuneka ibe ngumntwana, kwaye uya kwenza oko akucelayo kuwe. Ukuba ufuna ukwenza into ngokwakho, umcele imvume. Kulungile, ukuba onke amalungu entsapho athatha inxaxheba kulo mdlalo, iya kugxininisa ingqibelelo yentsapho kumntwana. Emva koko amandla aya kutshintsha - yonke intsapho iya kufuneka ilandele imiyalelo yenkokeli entsha. Imeko ephambili kukuba yonke ilungu lentsapho kufuneka livelele indawo yenkhathi. Ukuba elinye lamalungu entsapho alithatha inxaxheba kulo mdlalo, ixabiso le-psychotherapeutic yalo kumntwana liyancitshiswa.
Konke kuguquka.
Ngalesi sikhathi umntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala uyaguquka ngokuphawulekayo. Ngaphezu koko, ezi zinto azikho nje, kodwa zineenguqu ezibalulekileyo zangaphakathi. Ingane ikhula ngokusemthethweni izitho zangaphakathi, kukho ukugquma okubonakalayo okubonakalayo ekukhuleni ngokomzimba. Izinguqu ezibalulekileyo zixutyushwa. Umntwana weminyaka engama-3 sele sele eqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba unokukwazi ukwenza izinto ezininzi, kodwa ngelo xesha uqonda ukuba ngaphandle kokuncedwa ngumntu omdala ongenakwenza.
Indlela yokuziphatha.
Ngenye into engathandekiyo "mna ngokwam!", Esikhundleni sesifiso esinomsindo sokuthoba - "Nika! Usengumncinci ukwenza oko! "- umise kwaye udumise umntwana ngokunyanisekileyo:" Ungumntu omdala! "Uza kubona indlela enombulelo nolonwabo ngayo amehlo omntwana wakho aya kukhanya. Emva koko, uya kuthetha ngokuvakalayo oko akuvakalelwayo. Kwimeko enjalo, kuya kuba lula ukuba umntwana avume uncedo lwabantu abadala-emva koko, wayebizwa ngokuba ngumkhulu kwaye akadingeki ukuba angqina nantoni na?
Kukho inani leenjongo, izizathu zesimo sokuziphatha "okubi" komntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Unokuhlangabezana njani nale nto? Into ephambili akuyiyo ukuzisa imeko kwi-scandal. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba, emva koko, emva kokuqala, usebenze ngokwecebo elithile:
Thatha okanye uthabathe inkunzi yakho kwiphina.
Ngoku, mhlawumbi kungcono ukumshiya yedwa kwithuba elithile - ngenxa yokungabi nabamkeli umntwana uya kukhawuleza ahlale phantsi.
Susa ukhathazeka kwengqondo yomntwana wakho ngeendlela ezimbalwa ezilula. Nika umntwana ulongwe oludaka, makheke i-pokramnayet ngexesha elithile ezandleni zakhe.
Mcele ukuba aphule iphephandaba okanye nayiphina iphepha, kodwa kufuneka lenziwe kunye nomntwana. Unokukwazi ukulungiselela ukhuphiswano - ngubani oza kufumana amancinci amancinci.
Unokuphinda usebenzise iphepha elincinci ezandleni zakho - oku kusebenze kakhulu, okuvelisa izakhono zamancinci ezincinci. Beka umntwana entendeni yecwecwe lephepha malunga nobukhulu be-A4, uze ucebise "ukufihla" kwikham. Ukumnceda umntwana ngokunyanzela umnwe wakhe phakathi kweqabunga ukwenza iphepha liphosakele. Ngokomthetho awukwazi ukuzinceda ngesinye isandla. Unokukunceda ukuba inkunzi iyakwazi ukuyilawula yonke into, i-cover kunye nekhamera yomntwana ngesandla sayo. Emva koko ungadlala i-snowballs yamaphepha! Kuyi-massage emangalisayo yezandla zakho kunye nomsebenzi osebenzayo.
Ukusilalisa ngokulula kuya kuhlala kunceda ekunciphiseni ukuxhatshazwa, ngakumbi emva kokuxhatshazwa kwintlanzi. Kukho umdlalo obalaseleyo "Umtshini othandekayo": udweba ngomnwe kwinto engemva komntwana, kwaye ke uqikelele into oyenayo. Kodwa, mhlawumbi, kuya kusebenza ngakumbi xa uqala ukuzisola umntwana, wamukele. Ekugqibeleni, "ukuqhuma" kwesi sifo kwenzelwe ukutsala ingqalelo. Yonke imisebenzi yokunciphisa ingcinezelo yengqondo ingenziwa kuphela emva kokuba umntwana egxininise.
Umhlobo kunye neqabane.
Kakade, akuzona zonke izinto ezilula, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuqala. Vumela umntwana abe nemisebenzi emininzi engunaphakade, eya kuyenza. Umzekelo, uyakwazi ukuzisa iisoksi zakhe kusasa, uncede unina ukuba agqobe etafileni kwaye emva kokutya ukuze ahlambulule izitya, njl njl. Musa ukwenzela umntwana oko angakwenza kakuhle.
Kakade ke, iimpawu ezikhethekileyo zeengqondo zengane kwiminyaka emithathu zinje ukuba ufuna kakhulu inkxaso yakho. Kodwa kufuneka kube inkxaso, ungabi myalelo: izenzo zakho kufuneka zakha kwaye zilindeleke kumntwana. Xa uxoxisana nosana lwakho, kufuneka uhlale unamathele kwithoni, ungazivumeli ukuba ungathandeki ngendlela engafanelekanga ngayo.
Musa ukudala ingxaki phakathi kwakho, kwaye ke le nkinga enzima umntwana wakho uya kukwazi ukunqoba ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa kwaye afumane amava amaninzi amava. Zama ukumkela umntwana wakho njengomhlobo kunye nomlingane-oku yizona zidingo ezininzi.