Ukufuna ukuziphatha.
Into yokuqala ukuba bonke abantwana beengqondo kunye nabafundisi bayincoma ukuba kuyimfuneko yengxoxo. Ungamjezisa njani umntwana, ukuba ungamchazeli izizathu zokujeziswa kunye neziphumo zezenzo zakhe? Oku kuya kuchaphazela ukuzithemba kwebhokhwe kuwe. Ngoko ke, xa umntwana engena naskodil, musa ukukhala, zama ukugcina iimvakalelo. Cacisa oko umntwana engakulunganga, zeziphi izinto ezinokuthi izenzo zakhe zichaneke ngakumbi, uze uzame ukuzisa umntwana kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ngokwakhe uyaqonda ukuba kutheni umntu akufanele enze njalo.
Yeka!
Xa umntwana ephuma ekulawuleni, ngamanye amaxesha ikhefu elifutshane liya kuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokumthintela. Ngenxa yale njongo, elinye igumbi okanye inxalenye yegumbi liyasuswa, apho umntwana kufuneka achithe ixesha elithile ngokuthula, ecinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela ayisebenzisana nezingane, ngoko ukwenzela ukuba ume kwiintsuku zomntwana, abazali bangashiya kwigumbi apho umntwana ekhona khona. Oku akusiyo isohlwayo, kodwa yindlela nje yokuyeka ezinye izinto. Abantwana bavame ukuxhaphaza abazali babo, bazama ukutsala ingqalelo kwiindlela ezifanelekileyo, olu khetho lugqibelele kula matyala.
Zi thintelo.
Indlela yohlwaya umntwana kwimeko nganye, kufuneka ucinge ngokukodwa. Ezinye izono zifuna isigwebo esinzulu. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, indlela yokuthintela kwezinye izinto zokuzonwabisa okanye izinto zokuzonwabisa zisebenza kakuhle. Oku kungavunyelwa ukujonga iibhotole ngokuhlwa, kwimidlalo yekhompyutheni, ukulahla isiphumo okanye isipho esithile. Kubaluleka kukuba umntwana uvakalelwa kukuba ngenxa yeziphene ezinzulu ulahlwe into ebaluleke kakhulu kuye, ngaphandle koko akuyi kuba nempembelelo. Kodwa ukuba ugoba intonga, umntwana uya kuziva engenwavuyo, ngoko kwimeko nganye, kufuneka ugcine umlinganiselo.
Ukungayithobeli.
Abantwana baqonda ngokupheleleyo amandla abo phezu kwabazali babo, oko bathe basebenzise ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuziphatha kakubi komntwana kusekelwe kuphela ekuvavanyeni ukuba ubuchule bakhe bokukusebenzisa bukwazi kangakanani ukuhamba. Indlela yokujezisa umntwana kwiimeko ezinjalo akusiyo imfihlo. Kungcono ukungazihoyili zonke iinzame zokukuchaphazela. Izicelo, iinyembezi, izihlazo akufanele zikwenze ukuchasene nemithetho obekayo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana ufuna i-toy in store, kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile awukulungele ukuthenga oku kwangoku, ukungavumi kunye nenkcazo yokwenqaba kufuneka ibe yeso isizathu esaneleyo sokuba umntwana angaqhubeki nesicelo. Ukuba umntwana uyakhubekiswa kwaye uqala ukungenangqondo, kungcono ukuba ungayithobeli. Ngoko umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba ilizwi lakho libaluleke kakhulu, ukuba akakwazi ukufumana yonke into kwaye ihlale ifunwa.
Oko akufanele kwenziwe kwangoko.
Indlela yokuhlwaya umntwana ngokuchanekileyo, oogqirha beengqondo, ootitshala nabazali ngokulandelelanako kwiminyaka emininzi. Kodwa kukho izinto ezingenakwenziwa nakweyiphi na imeko.
Iisongelo kunye nosongelo.
Oku kungabandakanywa, ngaphandle koko kunokukhokelela ekuphulaphuleni okungundoqo kwi-psyche yengane, i-neuroses, iingxaki zempilo. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba izisongelo zakho ziyeke ukutshatyalaliswa ngokungathandabuzeki ngumntwana, xa ephawula ukuba awukwenzi.
-Isohlwayo esiyimvelo.
Isiqingatha kwinkulungwane edlulileyo, isijeziso somzimba sasicinga ukuba siqhelekile. Kodwa ubundlobongela kubantwana akufanele kwenzeke nasiphi na intsapho. Ngaphambi kokuba uphonce isandla somntwana okanye uthinte ngebhanti, cinga ukuba uya kwenza umonakalo omkhulu kunokuba ufuna? Ngaba unelungelo lokusebenzisa amandla kumntwana wakho, obuthakathaka kunani, kwaye ngubani ongazange enze nantoni na efanelwe unyango olunjalo? Ukongezelela, abantwana bayakhumbula ukuphathwa kakubi, okungenako ukuchaphazela ikusasa labo.
-Ukujongana neeplanki ngaphandle kokuqwalasela.
Ukungabi naluphi na ukuqwalaselwa kwinqanaba elonakalisayo liyingozi njengoko ijezisa. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntwana wenza into engavumelekanga kwintsapho yakho, kufuneka azi ukuba wenza okungalunganga kwaye ukuphinda izenzo ezinjalo kuya kubangela ukuhlwaywa. Oku kuya kumnceda ukuba afunde ngokukhawuleza okulungileyo nokubi.
Abazali bahlala bexhala malunga nombuzo wokuba bahlwaywe njani abathandekayo babo, kodwa kungekho umntwana othobelayo. Ngeenjongo zemfundo, abazali bahlala behlwaya abantwana babo, abahlala bezisola ngazo. Kubalulekile ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho kunye nesohlwayiso zilinganiselwe. Awukwazi ukugubha umnwe wakho kuwo. ukuba umntwana uhluthisa izilwanyana, kodwa awukwazi ukumshiya egumbini usuku lonke ngenxa yokuba waphala isobho. Uthando, umonde kunye nendlela efanelekileyo yokwenza abazali banokukhetha loo ndlela yokulawula ukuziphatha komntwana, okuzilungeleyo kwaye azilimazi.