Vseravno abayi kusishiya
Xa umntu ekhuluma nomntu othandekayo kuye, kodwa akakwazi ukubizwa ngokuba ngumntu osondeleyo kunye nomthonyama, uyazibamba, kuba uyazi ukuba umnxibelelwano akanakuthanda ukuziphatha kwakhe, uya kukhubeka kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuhamba ngonaphakade. Ngulo loyiko olwenza sikwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zethu. Xa i-hams zixoxa neentsapho, zihlala ziqinisekile ukuba abayi kuhamba naphi na. Nokuba baxabana nabo, bacaphuke, basenamandla kangangokuba baxolela. Wonke umntu ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ahlambele iimpazamo zabo. Kodwa akakwazi ukwenza oko, umzekelo, kwicandelo lomphathi, kuba uyasongela ukuba umxoshe emsebenzini wakhe. Kwakhona, abantu abanakwenzeka ukuba bavumele ukuziphatha okunxulumene noogxa okanye owaziwayo nje, njengoko banokukhawuleza bafumaneke, bengathandi ukunyamezela ukuthukwa kwidilesi yabo. Ngako oko, umntu uzama ukuzikhusela, kodwa xa engena kwisangqa sezihlobo kunye neentsapho ezinemimoya embi, ngoko unokufumana igama elinye kunye kwaye uya kulungelelanisa i-scandal ekuqaleni ukuze enze intliziyo yakhe iziva ngcono. Ewe, sonke siyaqonda ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuphosakeleyo, kodwa i-subconscious idinga ixesha kunye nexesha lokukrazula i-negative, ukuze kungabi yindoda kwiimvakalelo eziqokelelwayo. Yingakho sihamba nale nto engalunganga kulabo abathandekayo kuthi kwaye, kubalulekile, abasithandayo. Ewe, kuyavakala ukuba i-paradoxical, kodwa yile ndlela efanelekileyo ngayo. Umntu kufuneka aqiniseke ukuba ngenxa yokungabi nantoni, ubudlelwane kunye nalabo abathintela kuye akayi kukwakhiwa. Yingakho abantu banyula izihlobo nabahlobo. Khawukhumbule ngokwakho ukuba ungaphila ukunyelisa umama wakho ngenxa yobulumko, nokuba unzulu ngokungazi ukuba uyiphutha, kungekhona wena. Le ndlela ichazwa ngokucacileyo kukuba i-scandal evela eMamowy yazi ukuba, ekugqibeleni, uya kukuxolela kwaye akayi kuhamba naphi na, kuba uyathanda ngaphezu kwanoma yini ehlabathini. Isimo esifanayo sivame ukubonakaliswa kubazalwana, odadewethu, abasenyongweni abasenyongweni, ngokufutshane, kwabo bavakalelwa yimvakalelo.
Ngelishwa, abanye abantu baneemvakalelo eziphazamisayo ezinxulumene nalabo abazixabisayo, ezinokuthi zenzeke kaninzi. Khangela, uyaphula abantu abasondeleyo nakweyiphi na imeko, becinga ukuba kuya kuhlala kusezandleni zabo. Kodwa ukuba umntu unenkohlakalo kakhulu, ngoko kamva okanye kamva lowo ongazibekezeli ukuhlaselwa kwakhe akakwazi ukuma. Xa sithandeka ngakumbi, sidanike ngakumbi. Ngako oko, kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba abantu abahlala bexhatshazwa kabuhlungu kumntu osondeleyo, ekugqibeleni, bamshiye ngonaphakade. Yiyo imeko kwiintsapho apho bahlala khona ngo-muzhduzhvaetsya ngaphezu komfazi wakhe kwaye bayabetha okanye apho abazali bexhalabisa ebomini kubantwana. Kuze kube lixesha elithile, amaxhoba enkohlakalo agcinezela kwaye akhala ngelizwi lesibondlo nothando, kodwa ngoko kwandlela-thile yanyamalala ebomini bomntu onobukrakra ngonaphakade. Ngoko ke, xa ubukrakra buqhutyelwa yingwenya, umntu makakhumbule ukuba xa unqumla intonga yakho, baya kupheleka ebomini bakho kwaye akukho mntu uya kubabuyisela.
Abantu baseLudini bakhathazekile
Xa sihlala sisondele kubantu abathile, ngamanye amaxesha baqala ukusikhupha. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo kunye nezihlobo, abo sibabona imihla ngemihla. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sibonakala sibathanda, kodwa kwenye into, kukho into esingayithandiyo ekuziphatheni kwabo. Unyaka emva konyaka, sibukele oku, kwaye siyakucasula ngenxa yezihlwele. Umntu unokusithandayo, kodwa siya kuthukuthela ngcebiso lakhe, kuba engathethi kuloo ntoni. Okanye sinokucatshukiswa ngisho nangendlela yokuziphatha yakhe yokuqala etafileni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, sisetyenziswe kumntu ongazi ukuba njani ukuba aphile, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi sele ekulungele ukubulala ngenxa yezinye izinto azenza njalo kwaye akafuni ukwenza njengoko sifuna. Esi sizathu sokuba umsindo kunye nokucasula. Siqala ukuziphatha kakubi kwizihlobo. Ngamanye amaxesha bayasicasula kangangokuthi ngokuqhelekileyo sisuka kubo, sikholelwa ukuba akunakulinganisela ukuba sijikeleze. Ngendlela, ukuhlukaniswa okwethutyana okukuvumela ukuba uvuselele ukutshintsha komsindo kunye nokujonga kwakhona isimo sakho sengqondo kubantu abasondeleyo. Xa umntu wasemthonyeni ungumthunywa, sicinga kwakhona into esiyenzayo kwaye siqala ukuqonda indlela esasiphosakeleyo ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha sifundiswa ngabantu kangangokuthi siyeke ukuwaxabisa emva kokuba sahlukane kwaye siphila ixesha elilodwa, ngokukhawuleza sibona indlela esiyithandayo ngayo umntu kunye nendlela esafanele ngayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu banobundlobongela kwizihlobo ezikhulile okanye ezincinci ngeminyaka. Oku kubangelwa ukungalingani kwimbono yehlabathi kunye nokuqonda kwimeko. Phakathi kwabantu kukho ukuhlala bexabana ngesiseko sento abangaqondi kakuhle. Ngenxa yoko, umntu uqala ukuziphatha kakubi kwiintsapho zakhe ukwenzela ukubonisa ubungqina bakhe. Enyanisweni, inkohlakalo enjalo ibonakala kuyo yonke intsapho. Baya kubandakanyeka nabazali, ugogo kunye noomkhulu, ikakhulukazi ebusheni. Bakhathazekile ngokuthintela kwabo kunye nokujonga ubomi, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukuvela kwabo, abaselula kunye nokuzama ukunyanzela izihlobo zabo njengentlungu. Olu luphawu lokuzalwa lwazo ngenxa yokungaqondi, ngenxa yokuba abazali banamandla athile. Podrostostokschiteta ukuba umama okanye uTata uyamcasula, uzama ukumbuyisela i-zhemnetoy. Yingakho eziphatha kakubi kwiintsapho zakhe.
Umnqweno wokuzimela
Esinye isizathu sokubonakalisa ubugwenxa kwiintsapho ngumnqweno wokuzimela. Kungabonakala kumntu ukuba abo basondelene nokubonisa indlela yokuphila banqandwa ukuba benze ukhetho lwabo kunye njalo njalo. Yingakho abantu baqala ukulahla iindidi ezahlukeneyo kwicandelo lezihlobo zabo, bathulule izinto ezimbi, bahlambalaze baze bahlazise. Bafuna izihlobo zabo ukuba zihambe zodwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mziphathe ngokumalunga nabazali. Umntu unokuba yintlonelo kubazalwana, odade kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo abone ukuba wenza into engalunganga kwaye ufuna ukukhokela indlela eyinyani. Ngaloo ndlela, lowo bazama kuye, banethemba lokuba banelungelo okanye akufuni nje ukuthabatha. Ngenxa yoko, uyacaphuka, zama ukuzikhusela kwiimimiselo kunye neebhunga, ngoko uqala ngokulwa nentsapho yakhe, ebonakalisa njengomntu onobukrakra. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, abantu abaninzi bayavuma ukuba ngamaxesha anjalo bazange baphathe kakubi, kuba abafayo babebanqwenela ngokwenene. Kodwa ke kubonakala kubo ukuba kuphela kwindlela enokwenzeka ukufumana ukuzimela kunye nokubonakalisa ukuba bafanelekile into ebomini.