Unokukunceda njani umfazi ukuba aqhubeke nobundlobongela obuvela kumyeni wakhe

Ubomi bentsapho nganye buya kulandela imithetho ekhethekileyo. Yintoni eyenzeka ngaphandle komnyango wendlu, akukho mntu uyaziyo, kwaye bambalwa abantu abanomdla. Mhlawumbi, oku kukubangela ukuba ukukhula kobundlobongela basekhaya.

Kuyesabeka xa indoda ibetha umfazi wayo, kunye nabantwana abancinci. Nangona kukho iimeko xa ukubetha kwenzeka, njengokungathi kwishedyuli, kwaye owesifazane obesabisayo uyathukuthela. Silula. Kuyatshitshisa, kodwa sele sele esisusile kwisandi sezithulu ezingenazithulu ngokumelene nomzimba wakhe. Ewe, ukuba umntu owaziwayo uyabethwa, ngoko ulwazi olunjalo luya kuba yipropati yeli lizwe lonke. Imifanekiso yenkwenkwezi ehluthwayo iya kuzaliswa kwamaphepha amaphephandaba kunye neenkqubo zeTV. Bonke baya kudla ubomi bobucala kunye nezenzo zesibini esibiniweyo esitshatileyo. Kuyinto engaqhelekanga, kodwa kukho abaxhasi bomyeni odlwengula. Kodwa ke ngokukhawuleza uluntu libala iimbali, kwaye kwanomxholo wobundlobongela basekhaya. Ukuba ubundlobongela buvela kwintsapho elula, ngoko ke akukho nto inomdla kumntu.

Yintoni ubudlova? Ubundlobongela basekhaya ngumsebenzi wenzalo ngelinye ilungu lentsapho elibhekiselele kumalungu omnye okanye ngaphezulu kuloo ntsapho. Ezi ntshukumo zingabelana ngesondo, ngokomzimba, kwengqondo kunye noqoqosho. Njengomthetho, izenzo ezinjalo zobundlobongela ziphula amalungelo, kunye nenkululeko yabantu, ngaphezu kokulimala kokuziphatha, bangela umonakalo omkhulu emzimbeni nasengqondweni yomntu. Ngokweedata ezisemthethweni, abantu abangaphezu kwezigidi ezi-4 babhalisiwe kwi-arhente yokunyanzelisa umthetho yaseRashiya yaseYurophu eyenza izenzo zogonyamelo kwiintsapho zabo. Nangona amaxhoba ngokwawo kunye namagosa asebupoliseni anqabile ukulungisa loo matyala. Kuyaziwa ukuba ngaphandle kwabadlwenguli abanezigidi ezi-4, abantu abangama-3,355,000 "baqhelekileyo" malungu ahloniphekileyo kuluntu, nangona baxhatshazwa njengentsapho.

Amaxhoba aphezulu abundlobongela basekhaya ngabasetyhini. Iipesenti ezingama-70 zazo zonke izigloba zasekhaya zaseRussia ziphumela ekufeni kwexhoba, ngoko, kwimeko yethu, omnye umfazi uyafa ngemizuzu engama-40 ezandleni zendoda yomdlwenguli. Uninzi lwabantu baseRussia baba ngamaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya ngenxa yobunxila okanye izinto zezoqoqosho. Ngamanye amazwe eRussia, malunga nama-2,000 amabhinqa agqiba ubomi babo ngokuzibulala, abangenako ukunyamezela ukubetha nokunyeliswa kwintsapho. La manani awenza uluntu lwangoku luqwalasele le ngxaki kwaye lukhangele impendulo yombuzo, indlela yokunceda umfazi ukuba aqhubeke nobudlova obuvela kumyeni wakhe?

Nangona kusekuqaleni ukuthetha ngokuncedisa abafazi besecaleni loluntu. Ekubeni uluntu ngokwawo alukabi nje ukulungiswa, kodwa ukuxubusha imiba emininzi yalo mcimbi. Umzekelo, abaninzi abamelwane kunye neentsapho ezibona ukubetha rhoqo kwabasetyhini bakholelwa ukuba amaxhoba ngokwawo anecala kwiimeko ezinjalo. Bona ngokwabo bakhetha umyeni wabo, kwaye kwimeko yokuqala loo nto kwakudingeka ukushiya umdlwenguli! Ngamanye amaxesha uluvo lubonakalisa ukuba lona wesifazane yena unecala lokubetha kwakhe, umxeka umdlwenguli. Enyanisweni, unokumnceda njani ukuba aqhubeke nobudlova xa ebekezela, kwaye engasuki kuyo?

Ukongezelela, ukufikelela kwamanye amazwe, ubundlobongela basekhaya sele bubekwe ngokusemthethweni ngokomthetho. Ngokomzekelo, kwamanye amazwe kukho imigangatho enika ilungelo kumntu ukuchonga amalungelo nenkululeko yomfazi bakhe nabantwana bakhe.

Ngexesha lokuqala, ingqalelo yahlawulwa kwingxaki yobundlobongela basekhaya kumazwe aseNtshona, ekuqaleni kweemashumi asixhenxe kwakulungele ikhulu lokugqibela. Amagumbi okuqala amagosa abesifazana abasinda kubundlobongela bevela kumazwe aseMerika. Namhlanje amaRussia anqwenela ukuba "athathe ilinen ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwendlu". Bayaqonda ukuba ukuba umyeni uyabulala, akusoloko iphoso lomfazi. Ngoku iRashiya yenziwa kwaye isebenze imibutho eninzi yoluntu kunye nonoburhulumente ekhusela amalungelo amabhinqa. Kwinqanaba labasetyhini abaye bafumana inhlekelele efanayo, indawo yokuhlala, indawo yokukhusela kunye neefowuni zeshoni zenziwe.

Ngombulelo kwizenzo ezinjalo, ekugqibeleni uluntu lwalukwazi ukufunda ngolwaphulo-mthetho olunobundlobongela kwintsapho kwaye lunceda amaxhoba obundlobongela. Ibhinqa eliye lahlwaywa kakubi luza kusayi kuba yedwa kwintlungu yakhe. Imisebenzi yezo nkampani kunye nemibutho ibonise ngokucacileyo ukuba kunokwenzeka ukunceda umfazi ukuba aqhubeke nobundlobongela obuvela kumyeni wakhe. Le mibutho ekhethekileyo inokunceda ukunciphisa inani labantu abafa okanye balimele ngenxa yeengxabano zentsapho.

Kancinci, kuluntu, le ngcamango ibunjwe ukuba kukho ubudlova kwiintsapho zaseRashiya, ekufuneka zijeziswe. Ukongezelela, kwinqanaba elisemthethweni, ubundlobongela basekhaya sele luchazwe njengentlekele kazwelonke. Namhlanje, ingxaki yobundlobongela basekhaya ikwaziswa kwizinga likazwelonke. Ngelishwa, le nkqubo iphucotha kakhulu, kodwa ngoku abafazi kufuneka babe nolwazi oluphambili oluya kubancedisa kwiimeko ezibucayi.

Ukuba kukho imeko ebalulekileyo, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza kwindlu. Kufuneka kwenziwe ngokukhawuleza, nangona kukho imali, amaxwebhu kunye neengubo ezishiye endlwini. Ubomi buyabiza, kodwa usengozini! Kukwacetyiswa kwakhona ukuba ulungiselele ukuhamba kwendiza kwangaphambili. Ukwenza oku, kufuneka uhlale kwiindawo ezikhuselekileyo kunye neefowuni, oonxibelelwano, apho ungafumana uncedo olukhawulezayo. Ukuba ibhinqa linobudlova, kufuneka idibanise namapolisa kunye nesibhedlele, zibiza umnxeba, zibalekele kwiindawo zokuhlala ezikhuselekileyo kunye namaziko, uze ucebisi ngokwengqondo.

Ukuba ingxabano iqala ngokungalindelekanga kwaye akukho nto inokuthi ikhweze amapolisa, kuyimfuneko ukumemeza ngokukhawuleza ibe yilazi egumbini. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokubetha, kufuneka ucele uncedo lwezonyango kwaye ufumane isatifiketi sezokwelapha malunga nengozi zonke. Khumbula, ukuze unqande uxolo kunye nokulwa nalo, kubalulekile ukwenza le meko ibonakale kwabanye.