Indoda enjalo ayisoze yakubiza ukuba utshate. Kunobucebe kakhulu ukuba adibanise inombolo yakho aze abuze nokuba ibhizinisi lakho liphi. Ngokuqhelekileyo uyabiza kanye ngenyanga kwaye kuphela xa efuna. Kodwa kungeva ukuva ilizwi lakhe kwiphubhu, uphosa yonke into kwaye uyimgijimela. Kwasa kusasa uyazibuza umbuzo othi: "Kutheni le nto?" Nangona kuya kulungele ukubuza: "Kutheni?"
Ukuphepheka
"Ukutshatyalaliswa kobuhlanga", "ukuthandana nezifo", "ukulungiswa ngokugqithiseleyo" - kwihlabathi leengqondo zengqondo, kusekho imimiselo emibini, ngoncedo apho kunokwenzeka ukuba kukhethwe into efana neyona nto inamathelekileyo kwintombi kumntu. Abasetyhini abaninzi, esi sifo sibonakala sisebancinci kwaye kaninzi "siyaphilisa" ngokukhawuleza. Emva kokufumana amava amaninzi, kodwa amaxabiso, thina, njengomgaqo, sithole ukukhuseleka kwexesha elide lokungapheli impilo enempilo.
Kodwa ehlabathini lethu, ukuzisola kakhulu, unako ukudibana nabantu ababizwa ngokuba ngamaxhoba aphakade angakwazi ukuchitha "indoda engalunganga" ngaphezu konyaka omnye wobomi bakhe. Ngendlela, inyaniso yesazi kukuba abanako ukubala inkulungwane. Ngokwezibalo, i-23% yezesondo ezifanelekileyo ezihlala kwizixeko ezinkulu azizange zitshatile. I-11% yabo malunga neminyaka emi-5-6 yobomi bakhe yachitha indoda eyayingaboshwa ngumtshato. Ngokuqinisekileyo, aba bafazi banzima kakhulu ukubonisa inani lokukhohliswa. Kuzo, akukho mntu wazama ukufaka iingcamango zobuxoki. Ngokuqaphela ngokupheleleyo ukungabi nantoni kwimeko, i-vzdravom ingqondo kunye nezizathu zanikela isisombululo ngoncedo lwegama elinye kuphela: "andinakuguqula nantoni na kwaye akunako ukunceda! Ndiyidonsa njani iqhina, njengamanye magnet afihliweyo! Kwaye kunye naye ndingayifumana into enokulilibala! ". Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yinyani ngala mazwi, abafazi abanjalo banqatshelwe ngokusemthethweni amadoda onke afanelekileyo kunye aqhelekileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, la madoda anembonakalo eqhelekileyo, kodwa lona wesifazane ufumana into ethile ekhethekileyo, eqala ukutsala kunye nokutsala. Into ebalulekileyo edibanisa bonke aba babameli "bohlobo" olunye - ukuziphatha okubi, uvakalelo lwentliziyo ebusweni, ubunqabileyo kunye nokuzinza okupheleleyo. Ngamanye amazwi, okuchasene ngqo nalabo bathiwa "abalungileyo". Oko kukubhinqa umfazi. Ukongezelela, kunzima ukuba umntu onjalo agcinwe okanye ahlambulule ngesondo, kunye nombono othi "umntu, andiyi kulala kwaye ndichitha ixesha naye ..." nje ndiqhuba udidekile. Emva kwentlanganiso nganye, wena, kunye novuyo olungapheliyo, uzive entlango yasendle kunye nomntu ongaziwayo, kwaye uya kuphinda uhlanganisane kwakhona? Lo mgodi omnyama - xa ushiya okanye unonwabo kwindawo yokuphelelwa yintlungu - xa ebonakala ngokukhawuleza. Xa ufuna, awukwazi ukumnika i-nidostuchatsya kuye, okanye ufikelele kukukucasula, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa ezenza uzive, unokulibala ngokukhawuleza yonke into. Kwaye nokuba uyaziphindaphinda ukuba le nto ayibonakaliyo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo awukwazi ukuxhathisa ... Kulo lonke ulungelelaniso, intlanganiso kufuneka ihlale isahlulo kwixesha elingenammiselo, kwaye ekuphenduleni umbuzo othi "Siza kuhlangana nini na?" Ukhawula kuphela amahlombe akhe. Kwaye umzimba wakho uyabuhlungu ngenxa yakhe. Esi sisifo esipheleleyo seengqondo zesini, esakhiwa ngokomgaqo-ntlawulo.
Inzuzo
Kwabesetyhini, njengomyalo, isondo sichaphazeleka kwiimvakalelo. Ukukhangeka ngokomzimba kunesifo sengqondo. Iyokuqala kunye nesinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo-ekuboneni kuqala, umntu oqhelekileyo uhambelana ngokupheleleyo nomfanekiso woluvo lwangempela, oye wammela ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwiingcinga zakho. Inkumbulo, amabinzana, izenzo, izenzo zikhishwa. Ziyimpazamo kwi ntliziyo yakho. Wena kwinqanaba elincinci lindela ukuba uya "kutholakala". Uninzi lwazo zonke, eli nqwenela lithatha amandla ngexesha lexinzelelo, xa emva kwewindow, kunye nomphefumlo, bonke badibene kwiitoni ezimnyama. Kodwa kukho ingozi yokuba ngokukodwa ingozi inqakrazo iya kuthatha umntu ongalunganga oyifunayo ngokwenene. Yaye isitshixo siza kufakelwa endaweni, kwaye uya kubanjelwa ngothando lwakho ngexesha elide.
Ngolunye usuku, izazi zengqondo zenza uvavanyo olunobunzima ngamaqhinga. Elinye iqela lezilwanyana alizange linyanzeliswe ingqalelo: iipopu zazihlala zivunywa. Abanye - akukho mntu u-ironed. Kwesithathu, ke ubeke ingqalelo, ke akukho. Iintsana zeqela lesithathu zazinqabile kakhulu kunabanikazi.
Abantu kulo mbandela abazange baphume kulezi zikhumbane. Isitya esichaphazelekayo, esibizwa ngokuba yi-psychology ngokudlala "kufuphi-kude" yindlela enhle yokubopha iqabane lakho. Ngokukodwa ukuba incoko iphathelene nomzimba kwaye ayikho intokazi ethembekileyo. Ekubhedeni, ukunwaba kunamandla ngaphezu kobudlelwane obudlelane kunye nokuhla kweqondo lokushisa. Kwaye ngenxa yezinto ezinqabileyo ezinqabileyo, ulungele ukuxhatshazwa. Ukuzikhupha kwisaliti yomzwelo kuphazamisa i-inshurensi yinto enokuthi enye indoda ingayi kuba yiparadesi.
Ngendlela, abafazi banamathuba amaninzi kunokuba amadoda athathe ityala ngabo ngokwabo ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano lwahluleka. Apha "i-complex student student complex" iqalisa ukusebenza: yonke into kufuneka ibe ngu-5 +. Kodwa ngexesha leempazamo, uvavanyo luya kulandelwa. Utitshala oqinileyo ngumntu apha kwaye akayi kubanjwa ngandlela-thile. Kodwa akayi kukunika ibhola ephezulu efana neli binzana elithi: "Ndiya kuba nguwe!". Kuphela ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo unomuvo wokuthi yonke into ivele kwaye iphela yakho. Enyanisweni, ulahleke kakhulu, kodwa ukutshintsha into akukhona nje ixesha, kodwa unomnqweno. Yaye le ndawo ivela phi, ukuba yonke into engokwenyama kunye nengqondo ichithekile ukuba ilinde ukugxinwa?
Sindiso
Ukuza kwinqanawa yesondo, kufuneka uqaphele - i-uvass ayiyi kuguqula iqabane. Kwaye akanakunomdla kwizinto ezitshintshile kulwalamano lwakho - yonke into ifanele! Kodwa ufuna uncedo kwi nyaniso. Yilokho izazi zeengqondo zicebisa:
Akukho mfuneko yokuzama ukumbopha . Ibhinqa, elixhomekeke, lilungele ukuphuma ngaphakathi ukuze lihlazise indoda. Ukholelwa ngentliziyo yakhe yonke ukuba ukuba wenza konke akufunayo, kuya kutshintsha imeko yonke. Hayi, eli qhinga lingahambi kakuhle kwaye libi, loo mntu uyasetyenziselwa ukuba uyaphuma nayo yonke into.
Awudingi ukubandakanyeka kwimidlalo . Isiseko sokuqhotyoshela iintlungu ziintlobo ezahlukeneyo zemidlalo-ezinye zeendlela zokunxibelelana apho zonke iindima zisasazwa khona. Wena, mhlawumbi, unikwe inxaxheba yecaka elithe cwaka, ngubani onokuhlwaywa aze axolelwe. Ubuncinane ngenxa yelukuluko zama ukuphula le script.
Hlala kude nenkohlakalo . Kunzima ukulahla iziyobisi, ukuba zihlala zisondele. Yiye kuloo mzi ngexesha. Omnye. Kulapho, apho ungabonisana nomntu omtsha. Ekuqaleni, phelisa eso sifo. Yeka ukucinga ngeengxaki uze wenze ngokwakho. Kwaye xa ubuya, ungabukeli iintlanganiso kunye "nesifo" sakho.
"Yiphosa" ephahleni . Le ndlela yeNtshona ithathwa njengendlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuphelisa umlutha. Iimfama ezidongwe zeqhawe lakho, ngoko omnye uyahlukana nayo yonke imilenze yakhe (kuquka le yile), kunye ne-wreckage ulahla kwindawo ephezulu. Kulo mzuzwana, ngifunge ngokukhulu. Emva kwenkqubo enjalo, bathi, ukuxhomekeka kubomi.