Kutheni abanye abafazi behlala behle, ngelixa abanye bengaboni?

Ukushiya indlu, sithumela ileta kwihlabathi malunga nawe, apho sikucela ukuba usiphathe ngendlela enye. Umyalezo ungumzimba wethu, iimpahla, ubuso kunye nokubonakalisa. Abasetyhini abaninzi ngexesha elifanayo balunceda ngokukhawuleza i-marafet, ngokunyanisekileyo ukhethe iimpahla, uzame ukujonga emehlweni abantu njengento enqwenelekayo (ngamanye amaxesha, ngokucacileyo ukugqithisa ngeendlela "zobuhle"). Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bafake i jeans eneminyaka engama-10 ubudala kunye ne-sweater edibeneyo, benganqikazi ukuvela phambi kwabantu abanezinwele ezingahlambulukanga kwaye bengenanto yokwenza. Yintoni esifuna ukuyithetha ngathi ngokwe ndlela? EJapan, imigca yabasebenzi bamazinyo: abafazi bacela oogqirha ukuba babenze ukunyamezela kobantwana, apho iifensi zithinteka, kodwa zingabi ngenyameko, ziya phambili. Ukufana nentsha yeshumi elivisayo malunga needola ezingamakhulu amane, kodwa emva kokuhlawulwa ungaqiniseka-impumelelo yamadoda iqinisekisiwe. Kwenzeka njalo: ngenxa yothando lohlobo lwe-anime, amantombazana, afana nabaselula, atyelela ingqalelo yabantu. Ngubani oye waqikelela ukuba namazinyo, phantse ehlala ecinga enye yeempawu zebhinqa elihle, uya kuphuma ngefashoni?

Kodwa, mhlawumbi, inyaniso kukuba amantombazana aseJapan awalandeli ubuhle. Ngokutsho kweengcali ezininzi zeengqondo, ubuhle kunye nokuthintela akukho ndlela edibanayo, nangaphezulu, ziindawo ezihlukeneyo. Ukuthintela - kuhle, kumnandi, kumnandi, kucolile. Konke okunokwenzeka kunxulumene nabantwana. Ubuhle buchongiwe ngaphambili, ubugwenxa, ubulili, imilinganiselo, ubungakanani kunye namathegi eempawu zefashoni. Kwaye sele sele ihlabathi elidala.

Ewe, kunjalo. Kodwa ukuthinteka kwabasetyhini baseJapan, badalwa ngoncedo lwabazinyo bamazinyo, basasaxutywa kunye nesabelo sexesha elidlulileyo kunye nobuqili: injongo yangempela yale mantombazana ayikubukeka kakuhle, kodwa ukutsala nokutsala.

Ngaphandle kweJapan, iifashini ze-aftertaste engafanelekanga ayizange ivele (nakuba kungenakwenzeka ukuyiyeka), kwaye kwezinye iindawo ubuhle bendabuko balezi ndawo bulawulwa: kwindawo ethile - isikhumba esincinci kunye nesifuba esiphakamileyo, kwindawo ethile - iindawo ezininzi ezingenakwenzeka kunye ne-cellulite, kwindawo ethile - isangqa emlonyeni ophantsi. Eyona nto inhle kakhulu loo ntokazi, bhetele yena, kwi-theory, kufuneka aphile: ubuhle buvame ukusetyenziswa njengesixhobo, njengesihluthulelo esivula umnyango kumhlaba wamagqirha. Akunjalo nje ngabantu abaninzi abanomdla kunye nomtshato onenzuzo - uphando lwezenhlalakahle luqinisekisa ukuba bafuna ukwenza abahlobo okanye baqale ukuthandana nabantu abalungileyo, banokuthi baqeshwe, baxolele kakhulu.

Sisebenzisa ubuhle bethu njengesixhobo, siyaqinisekisa ukuba kulungelelaniswa: sikhetha iimpahla eziya kuthi, sibala imibala yeenwele, sidlale imidlalo kwaye sihlala ekudleni ukuze silondoloze ubukhulu becala bomfanekiso. Nangona kunjalo, unako ukuqhubeka uphonononga kwaye uhlaziye ithuluzi de lide, okanye unako, ngokuchaseneyo, ulibeke ekhoneni kwaye ulubheke ngokungathandekiyo njengoko lihlanganiswa ngothuli.

Bust ngeenguqu
Sitshintsha ukubonakala kwakho ngoku akunzima, kuya kuba nemali. Kwaye kuvela ukuba umhlobo osekude enze i-liposuction - phantse nje elula njengokutshiza amazinyo. Iintanethi zentlalo zixhamla, zixubusha ingxoxo yabasetyhini ababini abachazwe kwinqaku elilodwa, elalikwabelana ngokucacileyo iinkcukacha zomsebenzi wase-Swiss plastic surgeon kwaye bakholelwa ukuba kwakungento engafanelekanga ukujonga iminyaka engaphezu kwama-27, nangona ukuba sele sele u-58. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo apha, nangona kunjalo kukho iingxaki zonyango. Abafaki bemibala "ephuzi" bayayazi kakuhle ukubandezeleka kwabadlali bethu kunye neemvumi ezizilungiselele ngokwazo ulutsha olutsha nge-scalpel: ubuso obubukeka njengama-masks afriziwe, ngokukhawuleza ukutsala umomotheka, iinkophe ezinokuthi emva kweembalwa ze-blepharopoies zenqabile ukuvala, zibangele ukuba lonke ixesha ukusebenzisa amaconsi okunyusa.

Konke ukwenzela ukuyeka ixesha. Uqhube ebusheni. Musa ukuhlala, ungayiva into enkulu ebomini, uzaliswe ngamanye uvuyo, awufani kakhulu nolutsha. Ukuze ukwazi ukuva nokuva le mihlali yesiqingatha sobomi, umntu kufuneka abe nobulumko, ubuqili, uvakalelo kunye nokukwazi ukuziva. Abantu abaselula baziva bebukhali, kodwa abo banzima ukuzigcina bebuntutsha, balahlekelwa oku. Umphefumlo emva komzimba, xa ubuso buqala ukufana ne-mask - emva kwe-plastiki, botox kwaye ngenxa yokuba iimvakalelo ezinamandla ziphazamisa ukubonakala kwemibimbi.

I-Botox kunye neemvakalelo zixhunyiwe. Ezi injections abantu zenzayo, ukuzama ukufihla imiphumo yokubonakalisa iimvakalelo zabo, njengokungathi bazisusa ebomini. Ezinye iingcamango zibonisa ukuba i-botox ayinakucima kuphela amandla okubonisa iimvakalelo, kodwa ichaphazela nokukwazi ukuvavanya. Kwaye umntu ozama konke okusemandleni ukuba angazivekanga kwaye akanakuvakalelwa nantoni na, ulandela indlela engafanelekanga.

Ngaphandle kweengcambu ezingapheliyo zophando lweplastiki kukuba ukwesaba ukuguga kunye nokufa - kunokuba uyayiqonda okanye ubuncinane ucinge ngako, abafazi banethemba lokuphila ngonaphakade, phakathi kwabalandeli kunye nokutya, okungazange kuphele. Kwaye ukuze ungalahleki kuyo, kufuneka uhlale uselula.

Ukuxhamla ngokugqithiseleyo nokuhlinzwa ngoplastiki, ukuxhunyiwe kungekhona nomnqweno wokulungisa uhlobo oluthile lwendalo (umzekelo, ukulungisa i-bumpkin kwimpumlo okanye ukwenza iindlebe zeendlebe ziqhelekileyo), kodwa ngokuzama ukwenza umzimba ococekileyo kunye nobuso obungathandekiyo, kungakho impendulo kubazali abaninzi befuna kumntwana wabo, bephupha ukuba ubuhle bakhe nezakhono ziza kubakhombisa uthando kunye nentlonipho.

Abazali banokusasaza iimbono ukuba zilungele, kwaye ezi zilindeleke ziqale zibonwe ngokumalunga nomzimba, ukubonakala kwazo, kwaye zandwendwela kuphela kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bomntu. Ngoko bazama ukuxazulula iingxaki zabo, benze ukuba iingcamango zabo zenzeke, kodwa zichaphazela umntwana. Xa intombazana ikhula, ibhekene nobomi bakhe bonke ekungabini kwayo, ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuphila ngokufanelekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, iinzame zokuziphucula, okokuqala, kwinqanaba lomzimba, ngokusebenzisa izinto ezininzi zeplastiki, zinokwenzeka kakhulu.

Umzimba omncinane
Kwimfazwe yobuhle kukho abachasene nabo - abo abangazibukeli. Xa umnqweno wokuba unqabileyo uyaphela, kunokuthetha ukuba okwangoku asifuni ukwenza nantoni na - kungekhona ukwakha ubudlelwane, okanye ukuxhaswa, okanye ukunyanzela, ukuguqula nantoni na ebomini bethu, okanye ukuphumelela. Kwenzeka xa umntu "elahlekelwa" okanye engenawo amandla okuziphatha kunye namzimba. Wonke amandla aya kwinto enye, umzekelo, ukuxazulula iingxaki zobunini bomzali wabantwana okanye ubudlelwane babesilisa nabesifazane. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kwenzekayo ngababini, apho ukuhlanganiswa okupheleleyo kwamaqabane kwenzeka khona. Ngelo xesha, omnye wabo unokuphelisa ngokupheleleyo kwelinye kwaye aphile ubomi bakhe, ekhohlwa ngaye, ekupheleleni ukuba azi kakuhle iimfuno zakhe. Amava amanxulumano angalunganga kunye namadoda, nawo, anokukhokelela ekubeni inkokheli yokubonakala kwayo ikhusela abo banqwenela ukuthetha naye.

Ukunganakwa, ukungabandakanyeki kwinto yokubonakala, kunye nakwezinye izinto, kunokubonisa iimpawu zokudakumba okanye ukugula kokuqala. Emva kokunyanga, inzala kuye iyabuya. Kodwa zikhona ezinye iimeko xa ibhinqa lingazivumeli ukuba lihle, liqinisekise yena kunye nabanye ukuba uyathanda kuphela umnyama kunye neengxowa, kwaye ezo iinwele ezingavunywanga kunye namanqatha ahlukeneyo ubude buqhelekileyo. Umfazi onjengekokuba uyazisa: "Musa ukukhangela mna! Ukuba uthe wabukeka ke, hamba!" Uyakwazi ukufihla kunye nobunzima, ekuphikiseni ukuba umntu umele athande umphefumlo, kungekhona umzimba, nangemva kweebhayisikili zokubhala ezinobungqingili ezinjenge: "Owesifazane ohloniphekileyo akayi kuphuma kunye ne-stale manicure". Izandla zikaanina azizungeze - kwaye zilungile! " Kwaye kuya kubakho abantu abanomdla oya kunika inkxaso amagama akhe kunye nodonga oluvuma okanye ezinye izinto ezifunwayo.

Imithombo yokungathandeki ngokubonakala kwayo, ingahambelani nomoya wexeshana womzimba wethu okanye isimo sengqondo, zifihla ebuntwaneni. Amehlo omama yiyisibuko sokuqala apho umntwana angakwazi ukuzibona khona kwaye afunde ukuba uyayiqonda kwaye uyathandwa njengoko kunjalo, nazo zonke iingxaki kunye neziphoso. Yileyo ndlela umfanekiso omeleyo wenziwa ngayo. Ukuba le ntombazana yayingquzulana nomama wayo, yamkela ubunzima bayo ubunzima. Ngokomzekelo, ubuhle kunye nempumelelo yayo ingabonwa ngowesifazane njengoluyisa kumama, olubandakanya isijeziso esicinga ngento yakhe okanye inzame yokuzibetha.

Sinika uphawu
Uhlobo luni lomyalezo esiwunikelayo kwihlabathi, sifuna ntoni kuwo? Ukufaka izicathulo ngeesithende kunye neengubo ezimfutshane, sicwangcisa ukutsala ingqalelo yabantu, beshiya indlu ngesijwili esingenasiphelo, ezama ukufihla kwezinye izinto. Ngethuba elifanayo, sinokumangaliswa xa kungekho mntu uphendule kwi-skirt okanye i-lipstick ebomvu: ukungafuni ukuhleka ngezinye izihlandlo ukuza kubonakala kunzulu kakhulu kuthi, kuhlale kungenalwazi, kwaye siyazibuza ukuba kungani isixhobo sobuhle bethu singasebenzi - kulungiswe njengoko kufanele, ityunyiwe njengoko kuyimfuneko. Ngoko yintoni umcimbi?

Umfanekiso esiwenzayo ngokukhetha ngokukhethekileyo kweengubo, izicathulo, izikhwama kunye nezinye izesekeli ezingabonakaliyo kunye nomnye, kwaye zithetha ngendlela umntu ofuna ukujonga ngayo kwabanye. Kwaye ukubonakaliswa kwemibutho - kubandakanya, ukuziphatha, ubuso, ubuso - ukuhambisa ulwazi malunga nathi ngokunyanisekileyo kwabanye kuba kunzima ukulawula. Umzekelo, umlomo womlomo awukho phantsi komntu. Oko kukuthi, kwanokuba unqume ukuba "ube mnandi" kwaye usebenzise umzamo othile, ngeke ukwazi ukutsala ingqalelo ngaphandle kwomoya ongaphakathi. Kwaye nangona sibonakala ngathi esibukweni sibonakala sihle - intle, kungekhona intombazana! - abo basibona kwiingubo ezintle kunye ne-make-up ngokufanelekileyo, baya kukwazi ukuqonda indlela esilungileyo ngayo, kodwa bengacacanga, ngengqiqo yeso sizathu: "Into ephikisayo." Ngoko ukungazi kwabo kuya kufunda yethu, apho umnqweno oqinileyo wobudlelwane nokuziphindezela umntu osishiyile, nentukuthelo, kunye nokuvinjelwa kobudlelwane, kunokufihla. Ngenxa yokuba ukwazi ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke, ngaphandle kokuba umntu ekuthandana naye anezizathu zakhe, naye akaxhomekanga ngakumbi kuvelwano, ubuhlobo kunye nothando.

Ngoobani, eqinisweni, sibhekisele iimpawu zethu, umnqweno wokuba sihle? Masibuyisele ingcamango engabonakaliyo "yehlabathi", apho umyalezo othize uphendululwe, ngumntu onokhenkethi esifuna ukumxelela into ethile. Okokuqala, ibali leemvakalelo zangaphakathi kunye namava adluliselwa ngumzimba womzimba owaziwayo kubo bonke abantu abavela ekuzalweni. Amava okuqala enxibelelwano esinalo kubantwana, kwaye iimpawu ezithunyelwe kwihlabathi xa zikhulile zihluke kakhulu kwezo zinto umntwana azithumela kumama: "Kubuhlungu, ndiyesaba, ndiziva ndingenasidingo" okanye "Ndiyavuya, ndiyathanda , Ndivisisana nami kunye nehlabathi. "

Njengomntwana, ngokubuya silindele impendulo, sifuna ukuqondwa nokuva. Ngokwemvoko, ukukhangela uthando olungenamsebenzi, okwangenani ekuqaleni kokubona, lunzima ukuhlangabezana kwihlabathi le-appraisal.

Ngokuqinisekileyo unako umngeni kweli hlabathi ngokuyeka ukucoca izicathulo kwaye unethemba lokuba inkosana enhle iya kubona ubuncwane bethu bokomoya. Kodwa oku kungumngcipheko omkhulu: konke okufanayo, xa izandla zihlambulukile, kwaye i-manicure iyilungile, kwaye amehlo awayikutshisa: "Ngoku uya kunika ulutsha lwam olungunaphakade, kungakhathaliseki ukuba luhlala ixesha elingakanani." Iinkosana, phantsi kwazo zonke izinto ababezifihlakeleyo, nazo ziyabantu. Bayayithanda xa kulungile. Futhi musa ukukhumbula rhoqo ibinzana elilumkileyo likaLeon Tolstoy: "Kuyamangalisa ukuba ukucinga okupheleleyo kukuthi ubuhle buhle."