Indlu ihamba ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ingxolo, ukukhala, ukulila kuvela kwikamelo labantwana ... kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ngaloo mzuzu, xa wanquma ukuqala enye into ephuthumayo. Ewe, kutheni abantwana bengadlala kunye ubuncinane ubunesiqingatha seyure ngaphandle kokuxabana okukhulu kunye neenyembezi ezinokutsha? Kwakhona, kufuneka usebenze njengejaji kwaye uhlukanise abahlaseli abahluphekileyo. Okanye mhlawumbi kungcono ukuba ungayithobeli ingxabano elandelayo, mayeke ukuyikhetha yona?
Abazalwana noodadewethu
Makhe sicinge malunga nokuba kutheni abantwana behlala bethetha kwaye balwa, kutheni omnye okanye omnye ezama ukukuphumelela ecaleni lakho kwaye uzuze uvelwano lwakho. Inyaniso yokuba ubukhwele buntwaneni buqhelekile. Abanye abantwana banokukwazi ukunqoba le ntliziyo kwaye bafumane indlela enokuthula yokulungisa iingxabano. Abanye bazisa inkathazo eninzi kwiingxabano eziqhubekayo ezidala, ezivela ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo.
Phawula indlela umntwana omdala ahluke ngayo kumntwana omncinci ngokuziphatha kwakhe. Umdala ufuna ukuba yiziko lokuqwalasela. Emva kokuvela komntakwabo okanye udade omncinci, kufuneka abelane ngothando kunye nenkathalo yabazali ababeye kuye bodwa. Ngazo zonke iinyaniso kunye neengqungquthela, uzama ukuphinda aphinde abuyele kwindawo ephezulu. Umncinci, ngokuchaseneyo, kunzima ukuhambisana nomdala. Ngokuqhelekileyo iba yinto ehambelana nayo. Incinci ifuna ukuba yinto engcono kakhulu apho ophezulu ehluleka khona. Akunqweneli ukumelana nesimo sobuthathaka, udla ngokubangela iingxabano. Ukubonakala komntwana wesithathu udla ukuguqula izinto eziphambili kwiintsapho.
Abazali babhekisela kumntwana njengomntwana wokuqala. Ziyakuthinteka, zihlawule ngakumbi kwaye zivumela ezininzi kunabantwana abadala. Ngelo xesha, abantwana abangaswelekanga ngumntwana osemyingeni, owayesandul 'omncinane. Ukusuka kumdala ulala njalo, kwaye intando entsha yentsapho isele "ihamba kwizithende", kuba abantu abadala behlala behlangothini lwakhe. Indlela ehlala iphikisana ngayo neengxaki azixhomeki kuphela kwinani labantwana kunye nomyalelo wokubonakala kwazo. ngaphantsi umahluko yobudala yabantwana, ikrakra ngaphezu ukukhala kwabo iya kuphakamisa ngeenyawo zakhe abazali nexhala. Kwakhona kumgangatho ebalulekileyo kunye wranglers kancinane. kuvela iimbambano rhoqo kwaye kakhulu phakathi kwabantwana besini esifanayo, kodwa umzalwana kunye udade lilawula kulula kakhulu ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo. Ca s nakulwa esisuka - ukuba zamatakane besini esifanayo kunye umahluko eneminyaka engama-nye ukuya kwiminyaka emibini.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abafuniyo oko, baxhobise abantwana ukuba bahambisane nokuxabana.
Kubo bonke odade ngamacici. O, yintoni isalumko esilumkileyo! Usizi, akunakwenzeka ukuba ulandele ngokugcwele ... Abazali abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ukuphikisana okungakumbi kunye nokuthukwa kungagwenywa ukuba abantwana banikwe iidyski ezifanayo, kwaye banike ieskese ngokulinganayo. Enyanisweni, yonke into ayilula. Abantwana baya kufungela ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kodwa kuphela xa ubelana ngokufanelekileyo phakathi kwabo kungekhona kuphela izipho, kodwa neemvakalelo zakho. Ukudumisa kunye nokuhlambalaza, ukukhuthaza nokujezisa ngamnye umntwana ngomlinganiselo ofanayo, akufanele kubekho intandokazi. Dumisani kakuhle. Ngamanye amaxesha, ngabazali abangazange baqaphele, bangela ukuxabana phakathi kwabantwana. Unokuqhathanisa kaninzi kangakanani iintsana, udumisa isithunzi somnye kwaye ulahla iimpazamo zenye? "Khangela udade wakho omncinci, ukuba udla ngokukhawuleza, kakuhle, uhlakaniphile nje! Kwaye wena, njengawe, uhlala nomlomo wakho uvulekile kwaye isiqhwithi sibalwa, "- emva kokuthetha okunjalo, umntwana uvakalelwa kukuba unobungqina kunokuba udadewabo kwaye bayamthanda kakhulu. Zama ukuphepha ukuthelekiswa okungenangqiqo, kuba omncinci akayi kuba yikopi yomdala , nangona kukhuliswa okufanayo.
Iingxaki zinokuvela nangona umntwana okhulileyo engenaziphumo xa kuthelekiswa nentsha. Kucacile ukuba umdala uya kuhlala ephethe uxanduva. Nangona kunjalo, qiniseka ukuba ukuzaliseka kwabo kwakungamandla kumntwana kwaye kungekhona ngenxa yezinto azithandayo. Musa ukumnyanzela umdala ukuba athathe umzalwana okanye udade omncinane. Abantwana abakhulileyo bafuna ukudlala kunye noontanga babo "akukho mthwalo," ngoko banako ukukhathala kwabo bancinci, bebacaphukise. "I-karapuzes ibuyiselela ngokukhawuleza kunye nezikhalazo zazo zonke iiflethi.
Ukuphendula ngokufanelekileyo
Ngendlela echanekileyo ukusabela njani xa usukwahlula izinto ezincinci? Okokuqala, ungabakhuthazi. Ukuba umntwana uhlala kunye nomyalezo othi umntakwabo omncinci ulahlile umnxeba wakho kwi-aquarium ngeentlanzi, xelela ukuba uyavuya ukuphulaphula ibali "lokuxhaphaza" kunye nokuba imicimbi yomntakwenu ayinalo nhlobo. bahlupheke, ukuba baya kubangela ingxaki omnye komnye.
Siza kuba ngabadiplomethi
Ngenxa yezinto eziphikisanayo? Isihlandlo esona sihlandlo esininzi sisisitya esingabelwe ngabantwana. Abantwana abanobudlova basabela njani xa behlekwa usulu, ukuhleka usulu, ukungabi nabulungisa okanye ukukhohlisa. Yintoni umntu omdala onokuyenza xa ama-fidgets amancinci aphinda avelise ingxabano enkulu? Behave diplomatically. Zama ukungabandakanyeki kwingxabano, jonga abantwana abangaphandle, mhlawumbi baya kuhlangabezana neengxabano kwaye ngaphandle koncediswa. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukudumisa abantwana emva kokuba bafumane indlela yokuxoxisana nabanye. Khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho ngowokuqala, ukukhupha ulwaphulo kunye nokuzola abantwana. Okwesibini, kufuneka ufundise indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo kwimpikiswano enjalo, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo-yenza ngaphandle kwabo. Kwaye kuya kuba nokuthula endlwini!