Into ephambili ekufuneka ikhunjulwe yindlela yokuhlonela umntwana, njengobuntu obugcwele. Ngona umntwana omncinci akanako ukuthathwa njengento engasayiqondi nantoni na. Abantwana baqondakala ngakumbi kwaye banentlonelo kunokuba sicinga ngamanye amaxesha. Nazi imigaqo embalwa yokujongana nomntwana kunye nokukhuliswa kwakhe, okuhlanganiswe ngabafundisi abahamba phambili behlabathi kunye neengqondo zeengqondo.
1. Nika umntwana wakho uthando kunye nokufudumala. Qiniseka ukuba uhlala eyazi ukuba uyamthanda. Unganqikazi ukuthetha ngamazwi okuthambisa, uchaze iimvakalelo zakho ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuvulekileyo.
2. Njalo zibeke ezicathulweni zomntwana omncinci. Zibuze into ayifunayo ngokwenene: idoli yeshumi okanye ingqalelo yakho? Ukuba umntwana uhlala ehlaseleyo, mhlawumbi kukho esinye isizathu ngaphandle 'kokubi'?
3. Yenza isiseko somhla ngemihla. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kufuneka kwenziwe kumntwana ukususela ebuntwaneni. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafakazela ukuba ulawulo lwalo suku aluqeqeshi kuphela umntwana, kodwa luyamnciphisa. Intsana iyasetyenziselwa oko kuya kumlinda ngenye ixesha. Ukhangeleka ngokusisigxina kwixesha elizayo, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba kunye nokucinezeleka okungadingekile.
4. Chaza imida ecacileyo. Ukuze ufundise umntwana kakuhle, kufuneka umchazele oko kukulungileyo nokubi. Futhi musa ukuchaza nje, kodwa ngokucacileyo uhambelane nale nto ngokwakho. Ukuba wenza okuthile "kungekhona", ngoko awukwazi ukuhlala uhlala njalo, kungekhona ngexesha elide. Qiniseka kwaye uhambelane. Oku kunempembelelo enkulu kumntwana wengqondo.
5. Misela imithetho engeyikuphulwa phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko. Umntwana kufuneka azi into enokumlimaza, enokukukhubekisa okanye kukukhubaza, kwaye akufanele akwenze. Fundisa umntwana ukuba athwale uxanduva lwezenzo zakhe. Ubomi buncedo kakhulu.
6. Musa ukunyanzelanisa kunye nokuthintela. Ukuba unqabela into - cacisa. Yaye ungagqithisi ngegama elithi "akunakwenzeka." Umntwana omncinci, ohlala "engakwazi" ukuhlala evala indlela yokuphuhlisa. Akayi kuphucula kwaye azinamathele kwiindawo zakhe ezinzima. Nika umntwana ithuba lokuzikhethela. Ungavumeli ukuba iwele, kodwa makhe ndikhubeke.
7. Misela imiphumo yokuphula umthetho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Umntwana kufuneka aqonde into emlindeleyo ukuba angayilandeli imigaqo oyicacisayo. Njalo uchaze isizathu sokuba ujeziswe: "Awusususanga amathoyizi, ngoko awuyi kujonga iikhathuni namhlanje." Ngexesha elide, umntwana uya kufunda ukuqonda ubudlelwane phakathi kokungahambisani nokuhlawulwa. Uya kuqala ukulungiselela nokuzifundisa ngokwakhe.
8. Thetha ngokufanelekileyo. Umgca wenyani kukuba umntwana uyaqonda yonke into ngokukodwa. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba ayeke ukukhohlisa, akunakunceda ukulila: "Awuyi kuxolela umama! Uyakumchukumisa ngokuziphatha kwakho! "Kungcono nje ukuthi:" Musa ukukhwaza, nceda. " Kuya kusebenza ngakumbi kwaye kuyaqondakala.
9. Yiba nesibindi. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azi ukuba "hayi" isigqibo sakho esiqinileyo sokuvala into ethile. Ukuba uthe wanikezela "umntwana" uya kuziva ubuthathaka kwaye akayekanga ukuthobela. Ukukhuliselwa okuqhubekayo kuya kuba nzima, kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuba uphinde ufumane igunya lakho langaphambili.
10. Musa ukuxelisa iifom. Xa umntwana ezama ukunyanzela ukuba wenze into ethile - meme, ukhale, njl. - hlala ungakhuselekanga. Ukuba ubuncinane ulandele iinqwenela zakhe - ufunda ukuba le ndlela efanelekileyo yempembelelo kwaye uya kwenza njalo.
11. Kumele ube negunya lomntwana. Igama elichanekileyo kufuneka lihlale lenu. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana uyacaphuka kwaye udiniwe, ngoko uthi: "Isikhathi sokulala." Akukho mbambano kunye neenkwenkwezi kwimeko alunganga. Umntwana uya kuziqonda ngokukhawuleza oku kwaye azisebenzise. Uya kuziva uncedo oluqinileyo kuwe, oluya kumnceda kakhulu kwikamva.
12. Musa ukwesaba umsindo wengane. Unelungelo, akufanele umthintele ukuba achaze iimvakalelo zakhe. Uze ungamhlazili ngenxa yezinyembezi. Ukunyaniseka nokuvuleka kwintsapho - isibambiso soxanduva oluqinileyo lobomi.
13. Soloko ufumana ixesha lomntwana. Musa ukuwugxotha. Kwanokuba umzuzu, kodwa uya kukwazi ukuba awukhathaleli. Ukuba ubona ukuba umntwana unenkxalabo malunga nento ethile - yithobele. Amacala aya kulinda, kwaye ukuthembela komntwana kungalahleka ngonaphakade.
14. Omdala umntwana, ngakumbi ufuna ukuthetha naye. Chaza kumntwana ubunzulu bezinto, uthetha naye ngeenyawo ezilinganayo. Phendula imibuzo yakhe ngokunyanisekileyo, ungabi neentloni ngokungaqondani kwakho, ungayigxeki iinqwenela.
Iziphene ezibini ezibalulekileyo zabazali
Kutheni abanye abantu - oomama nooyise - ngezinye iimeko bajonga isohlwayo lokuziphatha kakubi komntwana okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, baxakeke kakhulu? Oku kwenzeka ngezizathu ezininzi.
Ukuthambisa ngokukhawuleza
Abazali abanjalo bakholelwa ukuba isimo sengqondo esinjalo siza kuqinisekisa ubomi obonwabileyo kumntwana. Kodwa kukho abanye abangakwaziyo ukuba banqande into ethile kumntwana omncinci. Abafuni ukujonga ubuso obubuhlungu okanye indlela umntwana oqala ngayo ukukhala xa into engavumelekanga kuye. Kanti abanye bafuna ukuphepha iimpazamo ezenziwe ngexesha elifanelekileyo ngabazali abanamandla. Bawela kwelinye icala, banika umntwana inkululeko enkulu kuyo yonke into.
IGunya eliPhezulu
Ininzi lamandla abazali baphakamisa abantwana babo ngendlela ababekhuliswe ngayo ngokwabo. Olu hlobo lokuziphatha kwabazali ludluliselwa kwisizukulwana kwisizukulwana kwaye alufanekiyo. Abantu abadala bahlala beqinisekile ukuba bayazi indlela yokufundisa kakuhle - umntwana omncinci kubo unjengejoni eliya kulwalelwa kwaye uya kuthobela. Kwiintsapho ezinjalo, abantwana bayabalaphula abazali babo, kodwa abayithandabuzekiyo. Nangona, simele sivume ukuba ngemodeli enjalo ukuxhamla kusondele ngakumbi kunokwimeko yokuvumela.