Ngubani othi iintombazana zethu zibubi? Kwaye ngaba abazali beza kuba ngabokuqala ukuba baqinisekise? Kuphi na ubunzima beendoda "ezimbi"?
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba, amantombazana aqala nini ukungazithandi. Kungekudala, umhlobo waxelela intombi yakhe eneminyaka yesithandathu ubudala: "Mama, uMasha uthi ndiyingozi, ngoko akayi kuba ngumhlobo wam. Kodwa andikhubekisi. Ndahlala phantsi ndaza ndakha i-unicorn emhlophe kwaye ndayinika yona. Wathanda umfanekiso wam. " Kuhle ukuba kukho intombazana enjengendodakazi yam intombi. Kuyamangalisa ukuba kukho oomama njengentombi yam! Igama elibi lithetha wonke umntu. Awukwazi ukukhusela wonke umntu. Unokukhusela kumagama. Njani? Ukufumana ulonwabo kumntwana wakho.
Kwaye kufuneka sikwenze esi sigqibo sisigxina, ngokuchanekileyo, ukuqala: ukuqala ngalo ngosuku, ukubiza kwakho ekuseni, ukuthanda ukuphumelela esikolweni, nayiphi na imisebenzi kunye kunye nokugxeka kufuneka kube nomoya wenjabulo kumntwana wakho. Le ntliziyo ifana nesigonyo esivela ekuzithembekeni okuphantsi. Amantombazana ayifakeyo aya kubonakalisa njengamadada, kodwa njengezilwanyana ezimhlophe-abahlanguli babo bonke abaphulaphuli!
Elibalulekileyo
Sekuyiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, intombazana encinane inokuziva ikhukhumele okanye ihlazo emzimbeni wayo. Uyifundela, "amava", ufumana uyaneliseka kumandla akhe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntwana osemncinci ngumngcipheko womntwana. Yile nto xa "I" le ntombazana ibonakaliswa, ibona ubunzima beMbane (umntwana uqala ukumphatha ngomsindo uyise, unamathela kuye, ezama ukumkhusela kuye yonke indlela evela kuthando lomama wakhe umama). Konke oku kunempembelelo enkulu kumntu omncinci, ngokuchanekileyo kwindlela yakhe yokuziphatha ngokwesini. Indima kayise ekwenzeni intombazana ibaluleke kakhulu. Umsebenzi wakhe kukunika intombi yakhe intembelo ngamandla akhe amabhinqa. Kwaye akafuneki ukuba uphelele okanye angabonakaliyo (yena usemehlweni akhe). Kwanele ukuba nje abe novelwano. I-Yegovischischenie (ukuqonda ngokunyanisekileyo kwonwaba kuye) kuxhasa ukuzingca nokuzithemba.
Umama kufanele enze ngendlela efanayo. Ngexesha lamava e-elektra, ubuninzi nabancinci abasetyhini mabangazilibazise ukulungiswa kwemibango. Kwaye, ngelishwa, kuya kuba baninzi kubo, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba kungenjalo, ngenxa yesiphoso esincinci. Kodwa akafuni ukucaphuka. Uqala ukuzicingela kwindawo yakhe: ukuba intombazana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kungenabuhlungu ukuhamba ngendlela ebalulekileyo yokwakheka kwe-ego, ukukhweleka kwipapa kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ufumana iimvakalelo zecala phambi komama! .. Bobabini kunye nomama kufuneka bafikeleleke kwaye banakekele ngangoko kunokwenzeka, bavulele ukuthetha kwaye bakulungele ukukhuthazwa ngokuvunywa . Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo, gcina ingqiqo yokuzithemba kwaye ungaphambuki kwiimpawu zakho zobuqu (umzekelo, umyeni-uyise). Ngoko uya kunqoba isigaba esinzima.
Kungenjalo - ukuguqulwa, buyela ekuqhotyosheni kwangaphambili kumama kunye nokubunjwa kweempawu ezifana nokuyeka umsebenzi kunye nokuthobela, okwenza ukuba amantombazana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala eqaqambileyo ye-horoshistok eneminyaka emithandathu engabonakaliyo.
Uya kuzihlola njani?
Ukuzithemba kwamantombazana anamhlanje kubonakala kusekho kwiiklasi zokuqala, kodwa ngokusoloko kuphazamiseka.
Ukuzithemba kuqinisekisiwe ukunika ukuqhekeka phakathi kunye neeklasi ezindala. Ekuqaleni, amantombazana akayikuzikhawulela kwizinto ezithandwa ngabantu abadala. Bangakwazi ukuziphatha njengenkwenkwe, abayikhathalele ngokubonakalayo.
Nangona kunjalo, malunga neminyaka eyi-10-12 ubudala, balahlekelwa yilo themba baze bafihle emva kwabo. Amantombazana anika ingqalelo kwindlela abaye baqondwa ngayo ngabanye, bathambekele ekubeni bancinci kwaye bancinane okanye, ngokukodwa, banomzimba oqinileyo wezemidlalo.
Kwaye oku kwimeko ezininzi kwaye kunzima ukwenza, kuba ukususela kwiminyaka engama-8-9, isiqalo sithatha inkqubo ende yokukhulelwa. Uqala, njengomthetho, ngokugxuma okubukhali ekukhuleni. Kwaye kwenzeka okungafaniyo: okokuqala - amathambo ezandla kunye neenyawo, ubuso, kwaye, ekugqibeleni kodwa, ubuncinci, ukwanda kwe-trunk. Ngako oko, intombazana kaninzi iqubude neengalo ezide, ubuso obusondeleyo. Ukongezelela koko, ukukhula kwezihlunu kulandela ukukhula kwamathambo, kwaye oku kubangelwa ukulungelelanisa ukuhamba, ukungahambi kakuhle, ukungahambi kakuhle. Enye ingxaki: lowo ongakhuliyo, ukufumana isisindo.
Iingqungquthela ezixhambileyo zisebenza ngokunyanisekileyo, ukutshintsha kwebala, ulusu kunye neenwele ziba ziqhamo. Konke oku kunika intombazana ezininzi iimvakalelo. Uqala ukuzivuselela ukuze amkele. Kwaye kulo mzamo uhlala eziva uncedo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uloyiko lovavanyo lwaontanga. Kwaye ke kukho abazali abahlala kweli xesha "baya kwenza izicwangciso ngekamva." Kwikamva lakhe. Bayafuna iziphumo ezilungileyo, impumelelo kwizifundo, ezivakaliswe yintombazana kunye nomnqweno wokuwufezekisa. Kodwa akafuni ukusekela iinjongo. Ufuna ingubo eya kumenza abe mhle.
Ngeli xesha, kufuneka uqaphele ngakumbi. Ukunyusa intombazana ukuba ilungile, imbophe ngeempahla ezintsha kwaye ufunde izinto ezisisiseko zobuhlengikazi ngokubonakala kwayo. Yaye xa efumana konke oku, menzeke ngokukhawuleza ukuba lixesha lokuhamba. Unokuzihlonela kungekhona nje kwamehlo amahle. Yonke into eya kunceda ukugcina ukuzithemba kwayo inomdla kunye nomdla wokuba naluphi na umsebenzi. Kodwa masivumelane: kuqala ugqoke, ibe ngumgomo! Ukuzithemba ngakumbi kuye kuya kunikwa yoshishino ayifumanayo. Imidlalo, isangqa sobugcisa, iintlobo zomculo zomsebenzi, ezenza ukuzithemba kwekamva elizayo.
Ukongezelela, ityala elinomdla likuvumela ukuba wenze isangqa, hla nganisa abantu, unxibelelwano olunikeza unyango. Ewe, igama eliphambili apha aliyikufezekisa injongo, kodwa uvuyo! Khumbula: ukugqoka nokuzonwabisa kuya kwenza intombazana ibe yinhle.
Izindlela zokwamkela
Kunoko, ukuhlakulela umnqweno wokunqoba ubunzima ngokubaluleka. Esi sikhundla esibalulekileyo abazali abafanele bafundise kubazali babo. Indlela "endinokuyenza" inceda intombi ichane ngokuchanekileyo ukungaphumeleli nokuphuhlisa ubuchule.
Yiya emzimbeni "
Phantse ngoko iingcali zeengqondo zibiza ukulwa kunye nezicwangciso ngendlela yokutshintsha ukubonakala kwazo. Ewe, unako ukuvumela intombazana ukuba inqumle ukukhutshwa kwaye iguqulwe "kwi-hedgehog yezandla", uguqule kakhulu iingubo, kodwa ulungele ukuba akayi kuyaneliseka ixesha elide. Ngaphambi kokuvela kwamashishini.
Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo, ukuba intombazana engenayo, ihlangabezana nayo yonke into ngaphakathi kwayo. Kule meko, udinga inkxaso yemoya kunye nokukwazi ukuphulaphula. I-ego iza kwenza kube lula kuye ukuba akwazi ukujamelana neemeko ezixinzelelekileyo.
Fumana i-Podium
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