Umntwana unomuvo wokuthi abazali abagcini nje ngokugxila kuye kuphela, njengangaphambili. Utshintsho luza.
Umama noTata babuza umbuzo: indlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba uya kuba nomzalwana?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulungiselela umntwana wokuqala ngokubonakala komntwana omnye kwintsapho. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lomzalwana okanye udade ozayo. Umntwana omdala udinga ukucaciswa ukuba kunye nonina ngoku kuyimfuneko ukulawula ngokucophelela, ukuze ungalimazi incinci. Umama udinga ukuphumla ngaphezulu, kwaye, ngokudlala ngentshiseko kunye naye, ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nokujikeleza kwizibambane kunokutshatyalaliswa kweso sikhashana. Ukuze wenze umntwana aziva ekhulile, menze abe ngumncedisi wakho: mnike imisebenzi elula. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ukuba iyakhathalela umama (kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo-malunga ne-crumb in the mother's tummy): hamba umbhoxo uze uyigubungele, ulethe amanzi okanye incwadi. Ngoko umntwana uya kuziva ukuba kuyimfuneko, ebandakanyekayo kwinto eyenzekayo, uya kuba noxanduva. Kodwa, musa ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba ancede ngokuchasene nomnqweno wakhe, ungadluli ngokungekho mfuneko - ukukhulelwa kukaMama akufanele kubangele ukuba angabambisani. Ukuba umntwana uqala ukuziva ngathi "i-cinderella" kwintsapho - unokukwazi ukudibanisa ngonaphakade le inguqu engathandekiyo ngokuzalwa "kumncinane".
Ukuba nomona kubantwana abancinci yingxaki eqhelekileyo. "Abazali banomntwana omtsha ngokwabo, kwaye andiyifuni kwakhona," "kutheni ndimele ndilahle yonke into kumzalwana wam (udade) nganoma yiphi indlela, ndiyintoni na into embi ngaphezu kwakhe?", "Kutheni baqala ukungiphatha njengomntu omdala, mna, emva kwakho konke, kuphela 5 (8, 10, njl.) Iminyaka! " - Iimvakalelo ezinjalo zivame ukufumana abantwana abadala xa usana olusana luvela kwintsapho. Ukunciphisa umngcipheko wobukhwele, abazali abafanele bawulibale ukuba umntwana omdala unyanana. Udinga ukuvakalelwa kukuba uMama noTata bahlala "intombazana encinane yintando" nantoni yokuba intsapho iya kuba yinto enye. Iingcali zengqondo zithi ngexesha lokuzalwa komntwana wesibini, umntwana wokuqala kufuneka anikezwe kabini ixesha eliza kubantwana. Oku akukho konke kulula, kodwa ukuba kukulungele ukulungiselela umdala ukubonakala komntwana - kunokwenzeka.
Into ephambili kukudala isimo esifanelekileyo kwintsapho. Bandakanya umdala ekuvuyiseni okuvuyisayo okuhambelana nokulindela umntwana. Thatha nawe kwivenkile-makumncede ukhethe ibhafu, cebisa ukuba umbala wesihlalo sabakhubazekile ukuthenga umzalwana okanye udade (qi niseka ukuphulaphula uluvo lwakhe), uya kuthatha i-stack ye-diapers enhle. Kodwa, ukufumana idolo ye-crumb - uthenge into kumntwana omdala. Yenze njalo. Konke ngokulinganayo - umgaqo ochanekileyo kubantwana.
Khetha igama lomntwana ndawonye: kuthathwa njengesibonakaliso esihle xa umntwana omncinci ebizwa ngokuba ngumdala, kwaye, phakathi kwezinye izinto, kumntwana-esi sizathu esibalulekileyo sokuzikhukhumeza kunye nobungqina obunzulu bokuthembela kwabazali, inhlonipho nothando. Emva koko, into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba umntwana omdala kufuneka abe nomuva: lo ngumntwana "oqhelekileyo," kungekhona "intandokazi entsha" kamama noyise.
Qaphela ukuthelekisa abantwana bakho, ugxininisa ukungafani kwazo-le ndlela echanekileyo yokunciphisa ukuzithemba kwabantwana kunye nokuvela komona. Ngokuchasene noko, phawula umntu omdala ofana nomntwana omncinci, ekubeni ixesha elisekhona emntwaneni: "Uvele waguqa imilenze yakho, kwaye ndatshitshiswa, thintela!".
Thatha umntwana kunye nawe kwi-ultrasound (ngokukodwa ukuba unako ukubona umfanekiso we-3d): "Iikhathuni malunga nomntwana", njengomthetho, kubangele i-furore kubantwana. Abazali kufuneka bahlale bekulungele, kwinto yokuba baninzi bafunwa ukubonisa le vidiyo ekhaya.
Ungamthinteli umntwana omdala wezinto eziqhelekileyo zokuzonwabisa kunye nonina: yena, njengangaphambili, uyakwazi ukudweba, ukufunda, ukwakha izindlu kumklami, kunye nomdlalo webhola, okanye ukukhwela - uya kukwazi ukuxhasa njengombonisi.
Chaza kumntwana omdala ukuba uvale umntakwabo emlonyeni wakhe: makakhulume nomzalwana wakhe okanye udade wakhe, uza kucula iingoma aze ahlasele umama wakhe - ngoko umntwana uza kulusebenzisa. Umama angaphendula "ilizwi elincinci" elidala - njengomthetho, lo mdlalo ubangela ukuba bonke abathathi-nxaxheba babe nemizwa emihle.
Kubalulekile ukuba xa umntwana ezalwa, umntwana osekhulile akadanikiyo: usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa lungabonakala luyindalo ebuthathaka kakhulu, kungekhona umhlobo omnandi wokuzonwabisa kumdlalo. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana kusengaphambili ukuba okokuqala kuthanda ukuba, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukulala nokutya, kwaye kuya kukwazi ukudlala nayo xa ikhula kancane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntwana omdala uza kuba "neengcali zobugcisa" ngemibuzo malunga nokuba umntakwabo okanye udadewabo waphela njani kwisisu esiswini. Ukuphendula, unokugxila kwindlela umntwana ekhula ngayo kwaye ahlakulele, kwaye angazicaluli iinkcukacha zobomi bokukhulelwa nokuzala.
Ukuba indawo yokulala yomntwana omdala kufuneka ishintshe ukutshintshwa kwayo malunga nokubonakala komncinci, kungcono ukwenza oko kusengaphambili, emva koko, xa umntwana evela esibhedlele, amazibulo aya kulungelelanisa neenguqu ezinzulu.
Ukuba owokuqala usengumncinci, musa ukunyamezela ukumxelela ngokukhulelwa okutsha: umntwana angakwazi ukhathala ngokulinda. Lindela de ukukhulelwa kubonakale kwiso iso.
Bika kumntwana wokuqala ukuba umzalwana okanye udade uyimpumelelo enkulu ebomini. "Omncinci" ngumhlobo osondeleyo, umfundi kunye nekratshi, kungekhona umncintiswano. Ngokwenene lo mgaqo omkhulu wendlela yokuchazela umntwana ukuba uya kuba nomzalwana okanye udade.
Ukuba ngabazali abangaphezu komntwana omnye banandipha injabulo. Jabulela kunye nomntwana wokuqala ixesha lokulinda lomlingo lomntwana. Isimo esinomdla kwintsapho iya kuba sidlulele kumntwana omdala, kwaye uya kulinda ngokukhawuleza xa ekwazi ukuchukumisa isithende esincinci, ugubungele umlenze aze abone ukuthokoza komzalwana okanye udade.