Uyabuhlungu xa eqonda idilesi yakhe, ngokukodwa konke oku kwenzeka kubantwana. Masenze sonke sikhumbule ubuntwaneni bethu obuhle, bekunjani? Yintoni eyenzekayo kule minyaka?
"Kutheni abantwana becinga ukuba abathandwayo? "Ngaba umbuzo osemdala kunye owaziwayo. Ukuba ufunde enye yamacandelo ethu ngaphambili, ngoko kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ngamnye umntwana ufuna nje ingqalelo yabantu abadala, uthando lwabo nokunyamekela. Abantwana, ngenxa yobudala babo, bengayazi ubomi, abazi ukuba zininzi iingxaki ezikhoyo. Ubomi kubonakala kubo ibali lefestile kunye nokuphela okuvuyisayo. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukuba ndijezise unyana wam okanye intombi yam ngenxa yecala, pha kamisa ilizwi lakhe ... Yintoni? Abantwana bacinga ukuba abathandwayo. Kutheni oko? Sisiphi isizathu sokujonga okunjalo okubuhlungu kwehlabathi elisijikelezayo. Wonke umntu wabhekana neengxaki ezifanayo ebomini bakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo wacinga ngako. Masizame ukufumana izizathu zezi ngcamango ezimbi.
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi. Ngokomzekelo: ukususela ebusaneni, inkunzi ihlala ijikelezwe ngononophelo kunye nononophelo lomama, uyise, nootatomkhulu. Akayeki nayiphi na into. Zonke izinto zakhe zizaliseka ngokukhawuleza. Ingane isetyenziswe kule ndlela yobomi, iba yinto evamile, ngenye indlela kwaye ayikwazi ukuba! Oku kukuqondwa kwabantwana ukubonakaliswa kothando okanye ukuqinisekiswa ukuba bathandwa.
Kwaye ngokukhawuleza kukho utshintsho olwenzekayo kwi-Kindergarten. Sikolo. Imisebenzi, iimfuno eziphezulu. Mhlawumbi, akukho mntu onjalo othanda ukuzalisekisa iimfuno zabanye, ingakumbi ukuba uyasetyenziswa kwenye impilo. Ubuhlobo obunzima nabanye abantwana. Kubalulekile ukuba abantu abadala babonise ubugorha, ukunyanzela, njengoko abantwana beqala ukuqonda oku njengesiqinisekiso sokuthi abathandwayo. Umama wandenza ukwenza umsebenzi wam ekhaya, andithandi. Abazali baxhaswa ngamabakala amabi - abayithandi. Ukongeza - ngaphezulu. Awukwazi ukuya ekampini kunye nabahlobo bakho-abayithandi. Musa ukunika imali ye-pocket - ungayithandi. Kwaye njalo.
Masiqwalasele, umzekelo, imeko echasene nayo, xa umntwana evela kwiintsuku zokuqala ebomini bakhe ejwayele ukuqeqeshwa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukhula ngamandla kunye nokuthobela, ufezekisa zonke iimfuno zabazali bakhe nabantu abadala. Kuyaqondakala ukuba okokuqala kubonakala kuye kuqhelekile. Ucinga nje ubomi obuhlukile, ubuhlobo obunye. Wayejwayele ukulawula: igama elidala ngumthetho. Ufundisisa ngokunyanisekileyo, unceda abantu abadala ekhaya, ukhangele umntakwabo omncinane nodadewabo, uye esitolo. Ngesicelo sokuqala, sizalisekisa zonke izicelo zabazali. Kubonakala ngathi yonke into iyinto eqhelekileyo, kufuneka ibe njalo kuya kuba njalo. Kodwa, kungekudala okanye kamva, umntwana uya kubonakalisa, ebone ubuhlobo kwezinye iintsapho. Ukufunda ubomi babanye abantwana. Abantwana banako ukuthelekisa, bacinge, bahlalutye, kodwa ngendlela enjengomntwana. Bafika kwisiphelo. Ukuba ziyizona zizathu zeso simo sengqondo kubo. Akunjalo. Abazithandi. Abantwana baqala ukukholelwa ukuba benza into engalunganga. Ukuba ngaba abazali baxhaswa ngamabanga amaninzi esikolweni, ngoko abantwana baqala ukukholelwa ukuba bayisidenge. Ukuba unina akabonakalisi uthando nokunyamekela, kuba kuba (abantwana) babi, babi. Abantwana bafuna isizathu kubo. Kwaye bafumana impendulo eyodwa. Baqinisekile ukuba abathandwayo.
Mhlawumbi le mizekelo iyancipha, kodwa, ngelanga, ebomini bethu abaqhelekanga. Ndicinga ukuba uye wadibana neentsapho ezifanayo kwaye uyazi ukuba abanako ukuphepha iingxaki. Oku kungazibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kwezinye iintsapho, abantwana babalekela ekhaya, baqala ukukhula bengenangqondo, baphume kolawulo lwabazali. Ngokuqhelekileyo iziganeko zokuzibulala, nto leyo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, iyona miphumo embi kakhulu kwaye ingenakulinganiswa yemfundo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Uyaziwayo kwaye mhlawumbi umbuzo ovame ukubuzwa. Enyanisweni, kutheni abantwana becinga njalo kwaye abazali bayayithandi ngokwenene abantwana? Yaye ingxaki yonke kukuba abantu abadala bayayikhohlwa malunga nokuba abantwana bethu siqhubeka nokuqhubeka kwethu, inxalenye yethu ekuphandeleni imali, kwindawo yokusebenzela kunye neengxaki, kwimisebenzi yasekhaya kunye nemisebenzi yansuku zonke, kwiingxaki zomntu kunye nokuzifunela , kuphela encinane kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba sibazisa emhlabeni, ngoko kufuneka senze konke okuxhomekeke kuthi, ukuze bazive bekhululekile kweli hlabathi. Bancede baqonde ubudlelwane obunzima bomntu. Ikamva lethu lixhomekeke kuthi kuphela. Ngubani, ukuba ngaba ngabazali, uya kunceda abantwana ukuba bajonge kwihlabathi elidala, baya kubalungiselela ubomi. Kwaye kufuneka uqale ngokulula. Kwabantwana bokuqala kuyimfuneko ukutsho ukuba uyabathanda. Bathukuthele phezu kwentloko, bhinqise kwaye bange kwakhona, abantwana kufuneka bazive befudumele ngokubhaliweyo nangokomfanekiso. Bakudinga ukuba baqiniseke ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha, nasiphi na imeko esinzima, abayi kuhlangabezana neengxaki zodwa, kufuneka baqiniseke ukuba abazali babo baya kuhlala bebanceda, baya kubanceda. Baya kunceda, bakhuphe, bacebise, bafumane kwiimeko apho kunzima. Abayi kukhwaza, abayi kubeka ityala yonke into, kodwa kunye baya kuqonda imeko enzima. Abantwana mabaqiniseke ukuba abazali babo bahlonipha umbono wabantwana babo. Emva koko, ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo kwaye ufuna nje umntu ophulaphulayo, uqonda, ukhuthaza, uxhasa, ucebisa, ngoko kufuneka wenze konke ukuvumela abantwana bakho ukuba umntu wokuqala ukuba athembele ngumntu wokuqala ukuxelela yonke into, umntu wokuqala umntu oqonda kwaye unceda kuyo yonke into ukuyiqonda - ngumama noyise, intsapho. Ngamanye amaxesha asiqapheli ukuba abantwana bethu belixesha elingakanani bayeke ukwabelana ngeemfihlelo zabo kunye nathi, musa ukuthetha ngeentloni kunye neemvakalelo zabo, ngamanye amaxesha sibaxhaphaza, besithi unenkathazo apho, sinento ewaneleyo yokwenza, kunye nabo ukuba bafunde. Kwaye oku kuqalwe kwengxaki. Abantwana bafuna abo bawaqondayo, baphulaphule, baxhase, bathuthumele, bacebise into efanelekileyo. Ngubani owaziyo ukuba ngubani oya kufumana umntwana wakho. Cinga ngako. Zama ukungaphutheli ithuba elikunike lona ngobomi ukuze ukhule umntu ongokoqobo, onokukwazi ukumelana nesiphepho sobomi, okwazi ukuqonda ngokwaneleyo yonke into eyenzekayo.