Ukhetho lo msebenzi
Ukukhetha uqeqesho kuyisigqibo esibaluleke kakhulu, kuba yindlela enokuthi umntu angene kuyo ubuncinane kwiminyaka engamashumi amane ezayo yobomi. Xa baneminyaka eyi-18, bambalwa abanokwanela ngokwaneleyo ukwenza izigqibo ezinjalo. Ukufunda eyunivesiti kuza kunika ithuba lokuqonda iimfuno zabo. Akunqabile ukuba le nkqubo iqala ngeqela elithi "uqala ukuxoka", kuba le ncinane idinga ixesha lokuhlukanisa iimfuno zakhe ezilindelekileyo kubazali bakhe. Kwinkqubo yokudala umsebenzi, umntu omncinci uhlala ephazamiseka ngenxa yokungabi nethemba lokuba uya kuphumelela. Ngokwezifundo ezithile, abantu bemi ngepantsi kwinqanaba lomsebenzi baninzi banokubandezeleka kwengcinezelo kunabo baphethe izikhundla zokuphatha. Umzekelo, umthwalo onzima wokuxinzelela. Umqeshwa omncinci kunazo zonke uhlala ebhekana noxinzelelo olukhulu lwentlungu. Ukuqalisa kwinkampani ngokuqeqesha ngokuqinileyo kunye neshedyuli eqinileyo yosuku kukukhathazeka ngabaninzi.
Ukuzimela kwemali
Abantu abaninzi abatsha ngokokuqala ngqa ebomini babo bazimeleyo ngokwezimali. Ukususela ekufumaneni i-scholarship kunye nezinye iintlawulo akusekho kuxhomekeke kubazali, banquma ukuchitha imali yabo. Ngamanye amaxesha xa uqale usebenze kufuneka uhambe kwelinye idolophu, yona ngokwayo ithatha izinto ezininzi ezibonakalayo. Nangona kunjalo, oku kwenzeka ngenxa yeengxaki eziphathekayo - umzekelo, ukukhangela okuzimeleyo kwezindlu ngaphandle koncediso kubazali. Imfundo ephakamileyo yenza umkhwa wenkululeko. Ukukhethwa kwezifundo zezikolo kunye nokuya kwiintetho kudla ngokuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumfundi. Kwamaxabiso aphezulu aphezulu okwakhiwa kwezindlu, ngokukodwa kwiidolophu ezinkulu, ukuthenga ikhaya lakho okanye igumbi lihlala libonakala lifana nomgomo ongenakuwufumana. Kubantu abaninzi abatsha oku kuyenzeka kuphela ngenkxaso yezemali kwizizalwane. Ukuhlukana kobudlelwane bobuqu, ukungabikho kobudlelwane obunobungane kubangela ubunzima obungenakukuphepha.
Abahlobo abatsha
Ubudlelwane obusondeleyo obudibeneyo ngeli xesha ludla ubomi. Ukungena kwiyunivesiti, intombazana iphakathi kwabantu abatsha abangabandakanyekanga kwintsapho. Ngethuba lokuqala liphakathi kwalabo bahlanganisene ngenxa yezinto ezifanayo. Iyunivesithi yindawo efanelekileyo yokuzibandakanya nabantu beminyaka yakho, edibaniswa yiminqweno efanayo. Abahlobo beminyaka yabafundi bahlala bengabangani babo ubomi.
Fumana uMlingani
Abantu abaninzi abatsha bakhetha abaqabane abasondeleyo phakathi kwabo bafunda nabo okanye basebenze kunye, kodwa olu khangela lunokuqala ngoluhlu lwemizamo engaphumeleli. Abanye abantu abaselula banalo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, abanye - bambalwa kuphela. Xa behlele ubomi bobucala, abantu abatsha baqala ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye neqabane okanye iqabane labo kunokuba nabahlobo bobulili babo. Ngokomphando, abaninzi abantu bakhetha iqabane elimalunga neli nqanaba lemfundo kunye nendawo ehlala kuyo. Lo mzekelo, kodwa, unokuchaphazela izinto ezifana nokubonakala kunye nokukhuseleko lwezezimali. Ukufikelela kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu, abantu bavame ukuza kubuyisela ubuhlobo babo nabazali babo. Abaninzi baqala ukuxabisa umnikelo wabazali ebomini babo. Kwalabo abangakulungele ukulungiswa kobudlelwane, umtshato womtshato ngumathuba wokudibanisa iingenelo zokuhlala kunye nenkululeko yokuzikhethela.
Ubomi obumbeneyo
Inkqubo yokufumana imfundo ngoko "idonsa" intsha, ukuba ubomi obudibeneyo ngaphambi komtshato buba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ngethuba lethu, xa ukungahambisani nomthetho kungabikho ekuthandweni kwentlalo, kwaye ithintelo lokuthintela inkolo liyabuthathaka, abaninzi abantu abatsha abanqweneli ukutshata. Isizathu esibalulekileyo sokudala ididi kukukhusela inzala ngenxa yokunyamekela kabini inxalenye yabazali bobabini. Nangona kunjalo, le yinkqubo enobunzima, uzinzo oluhlala lusengozini yokungcatsha, ukuhlukana kobudlelwane okanye umtshato.
Ukuxhomekeka kubazali
Emva kweminyaka engama-20, abaninzi bafumanisa ukuba bahlala bexhomekeka kubazali babo, ingakumbi kwiimeko zobomi ezinzima. Ukongeza, kwimeko yokunyuka kweendleko zezindlu, abantu abatsha kufuneka baphile ixesha elide nabazali babo okanye babuyele ekhaya emva kokugqweswa kwiyunivesiti. Nabo bahlala ngokwahlukileyo, ngamanye amaxesha bayaqhubeka bexhomekeke kwizezimali kubazali babo. Ukuphuhliswa kobuntu kungathathwa njengokulandelelana kwamanqanaba athile obomi, elowo luhlangene nokuvela kweengxaki ezithile zengqondo. Ukusukela kwiminyaka engama-30, abaninzi abantu abaselula banokuzithemba ngakumbi kwizigwebo zabo kwaye banamathele ukubaluleka okungakumbi kumvume yabazali. Baqala ukubona umntu kumama okanye uyise, kwaye ukutyelela ekhaya baya kuba yinto engaphantsi kwexesha. Abanye abazali bakunzima kuloluhlu. Ngeli xesha, ubudlelwane phakathi komama nentombi bunokuba nzima ngakumbi. Ngokuqhelekileyo unina unombono wakhe ngendlela yokuhlala intombi. Intombi nayo izama ukuzimisela kwinxaxheba yomfazi omdala.
Ukuzalwa kwabantwana
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, ukuhlukana phakathi kwabantwana nabazali kungokwesikhashana. Ukubonakala kwabazukulu bavame ukukhokelela ekuhlanganisweni kwezizukulwana ezintathu, nangona uthaka lokumisa umyeni kwintsapho yomfazi. Nangona kunjalo, abanye ootatomkhulu banqwenela ukungakhangeli ixesha labo bancedisa kwimfundo yabazukulwana. Ukuqala ukuguga kwabazali kwakhona kukhokelela ekutshintsheni ubudlelwane-ngoku iimbopheleleko zabo ziya kubantwana. Ubunzima bezindlu kunye neengxaki ezinxulumene nokunyamekela abazali abagulayo banokuzixhalabisa ngokwenyama, ngokwenyama nangokwezimali. Abantu bahlala beqhekeke phakathi kweemfuno zabantwana babo nabazali babo.
Uphuhliso oluqhubekayo
Uphuhliso lwabantu alupheli ekupheleni komntwana kunye nentsha. Indoda eneminyaka eyi-17 ukuya kwimi-40 ekuphuhlisweni kwayo ihamba ngezigaba ezine. Ngethuba lokuqala (ukususela kwiminyaka eyi-17 ukuya kweyesi-22), uba ngumntu ozimele kubazali bakhe kwaye uyaziqonda "iphupha" lakhe. Emva kokuzibandakanya ngokwakhe kwendima yomntu omdala, uqala "ukuphishekela iphupha" - ukwakha umsebenzi, ufumene isibini, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha - ufumana intsapho. Phantse iminyaka engama-28, ixesha lokuhlaziywa kwexabiso liqala, ngamanye amaxesha likhokelela ekugqibeleni ukuba iinjongo azifumaneki. Isigaba sokugqibela (ngokuqhelekileyo sisondela kwiminyaka engama-40) lixesha lokutshintsha ukuzinza. Ubomi bowesifazane bungaqondakali kangangoko ngenxa yokubeletha kunye nokutshintshwa okuhambelanayo kumsebenzi wobugcisa, ngoko kunzima ngabagqirha beengqondo ukuba bagwebe ukubakho kwezi zigaba ekuphuhlisweni kwayo. Ubomi bomdala buquka ubunzima bezezimali ezihambelana nokuhlawulwa kweebhilikhwe kunye nembolekiso. Ukuze ugweme iindleko eziphezulu ezivela kwi-self-dwelling, abantu abaselula bahlala behlala nabazali babo.