Indlela yokuthetha nabantwana kunye nabaselula malunga nokulalana ngokwesondo


Ukuthetha ngesondo kunye nabantwana kunoma yimuphi umzali kunzima kakhulu. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana, njengethuba elilodwa lokufumana ulwazi olwaneleyo noluthembekileyo malunga nolwalamano lwabantu, uthando kunye nesakramente yokuzala evela kubantu abaninzi "abanegunya" kuye. Ngokumalunga nendlela yokuthetha nabantwana kunye nabaselula malunga nezesondo, ukukhulelwa kwaye kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.

Umzali ngamnye ukhumbula umzuzu xa umntwana ebuza kuqala: "Mama, Tata, ndenze ntoni na?" Lo mbuzo awukwazi ukunqandwa. Akunamsebenzi ukuxubha - umntwana akayi kuyeka ukubuza. Kukulungele ukucinga malunga nexesha lokuqala ukuthetha ngeentaka kunye neenyosi, okanye kunokuba ufike ebusheni. Kungekudala okanye kamva umntwana uya kukhula, qalisa impilo yobomi, kwaye kufuneka ube ngowokuqala ukwazi ngalo. Ukuba awuxeleli umntwana ngesondo - kuya kukwenzela wena. Uya kufunda ngako kwiifilimu, kubahlobo, ngokusebenza. Ngaba yilokho okufunayo? Akunjalo. Ngoko ke, kuya kuba ngcono xa umntwana efumana isifundo sokuqala kwisigxina sesini kubazali bakhe. Oku kuya kumvumela ukuba aqiniseke ukuba wenze isigqibo esilungileyo okanye esingalunganga ngokuhambelana nemilinganiselo yokuziphatha kunye nomgaqo onokuthanda ukuwuphumeza.

Ukuthetha nabantwana kunye nabaselula malunga nokulala ngesinye isikhathi ngumsebenzi onzima. Uninzi lwabazali abazi indlela yokuqalisa incoko enjalo. Uninzi lwabo bonke, bayathandabuza ukuba umntwana wabo udala ngokwaneleyo ukuqonda uhlobo lolu sihloko. Enyanisweni, iingxoxo malunga nobulili kunye nosuku lokuqala luyaqala ngethuba lomntwana. Kwiminyaka engama- 3 abantwana bawazi malunga nokuhluka kobufana phakathi kwamakhwenkwe namantombazana. Unqobe uhlazo lwakho kwaye uchaze umntwana ukuba ngaphezu kwezandla kunye neenyawo, abantu banamanye amalungu. Chaza ukuba imakhwenkwe ihluke njani kumantombazana. Ungasebenzisi iingcamango ezifihlakeleyo eziza kudibanisa umntwana kwaye wenze ukuba ucinge ngoko into ethile. Unako ukuchazela umntwana wakho, nangona kunjalo, ukuba iimvakalelo ezithile zithandana kwaye azibonakali xa abantu bebona.

Phantse iminyaka engama-7-8, abantwana bavame ukuxelela inkcazelo ngefryork. Oku akusiyo ihlaya elingenakulimala. Oku kungenangqiqo, abazali abayifumana ngayo, besoyika ukuthatha inxaxheba kwingxoxo enzulu nomntwana. Kodwa oku kunokumlimaza umntwana ngokukrakra kusondele. Kule minyaka, abantwana sele bekwazi ukuqonda okuninzi. Sebenzisa imibuzo yabo ukuqala ingxoxo ngesondo kunye nobudlova ngokuqwalasela ubudala bomntwana. Ukuba bayayazi ukuba kutheni abanye besifazane banesisu esikhulu, unokucacisa ngokulula ukuba banomntwana omncinci esiswini sabo, esizalwe emva kweenyanga ezili-9. Zama ukuthetha nomntwana malunga nendlela umntwana angena ngayo isisu esiswini, ngaphandle kokungena kwiinkcukacha ezithandana naye. Unokuthi, umzekelo, ukuba wonke umamakazi esiswini esisembewu. Kwaye umntwana unako ukukhula kuwo, kodwa kuphela xa umama nobaba befuna. Makuvumele ukuba umntwana azi ukuba ngokuzalwa komntwana, ufuna umama kunye nobawo. Ngokumalunga nokunye uya kuxelela emva koko.

Xa uthetha abantwana nabaselula malunga nokulala ngokwesini, kufuneka uhlale uxolo kwaye uqiniseke, musa ukudibana, ungakhathazeki. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana uya kuqonda oku njengento eyoyikisayo okanye engathandekiyo. Kubalulekile ukuba nethuba elaneleyo lokufumana ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthintela ngesihloko sesini. Xa umntwana wakho sele eselula, unokuqala ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo kwaye ube nesimo ngexesha loxubusha malunga nolwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.

Nangona kunjalo, xa uxoxa ngesifundo sesini kunye nabantwana, kuyimfuneko ukuba ulandelele, kwaye ungadlala ngokumemeza. Abantwana baqonda izinto ezininzi ngokwenene kwaye ukuba uthetha kuphela ngeentaka kunye neenyosi, baya kubhekisela kubo kuphela, hhayi kubantu. Xa uzama ukuthetha nabantwana kunye nentsha, isondo, ukutshatyalaliswa akufanele kunikezwe njengento ehlazo, eyahlukileyo kuyo yonke into. Xa uthetha ngesondo, xelela umntwana wakho ukuba oku akuyona nje indlela yokwenza abantwana, kodwa nendlela yokubonisa uthando lomnye nomnye. Xa umntwana eyazi kakuhle imvakalelo yezesondo, kwixesha elizayo kuya kuba lula kuye ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo nesigqibo esifanelekileyo malunga nokuziphatha ngokwesondo.

Kwintetho yesini, xelela umntwana ukuba indoda kunye nowesifazane kufuneka bafunde ukuqonda omnye kuqala, ukuba bavelelane, kwaye kuphela ukuba baqhube kwisigaba esilandelayo kulwalamano-kwisini. Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuthetha ngesondo ngokuchanekileyo inkcazo yobume besondlo.

Kungcono ukuqhuba iingxoxo zangempela malunga ngesondo ngaphambi kokuba umntwana wakho aqale ukulala ngesondo. Oku kunokubangela ukuba alinde ukuba asebenze ngesondo emva kwexesha lokuphila, xa sele esele avuthile. Ngokwolu cwaningo, abantwana abazange baxakeke ukuthetha ngokuzinzileyo nabazali babo ngesondo bavelele engozini encinane yokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo, izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo kunye nomtshato osemtsha. Ukuthetha ngesondo kufuneka kuqulethe ulwazi malunga neengozi kunye nemiphumo yesondo, kwaye ziziphi iindlela zokukhusela izifo nokukhulelwa.

Thetha nomntwana ngesini ukususela kumncinane, ngoko uya kuhlolisisa ingxoxo edibeneyo kunye neengxaki ezintle, uya kukuthemba ngakumbi. Wena, njengabazali kufuneka uqaphele ngobomi bomntwana wakho, kwaye uya kuhlala uyazi into eyenzekayo kuye, yintoni eyikhathazayo, into ekholisayo. Yaye uya kuhlala ezolile kwaye uyazi ukuba kukho umntu onokubuzwa malunga nezinto ezithandayo. Emva kwexesha, umntwana uya kufunda ngaphandle kokuhlazeka kakhulu ukuthetha ngale sihloko.

Ukuba wena, njengabazali, uthetha ngesondo nomntwana wakho akuniki ukuphumla, kuyafaneleka kubuza isazi sezengqondo, ugqirha, umhlobo okanye ufunde ezinye iincwadi kule ngxelo. Abanye abazali banamahloni ukuthetha nomntwana ngesondo, ukuba ulwabelana ngesondo. Ngoko kunzima ukuba oomama baxoxe ngale miba kunye nendodana yakhe, kunye noyise kunye nentombi yakhe. Kule meko kubalulekile ukunyathela intloni yakho kunye nokudideka kwaye uzame ukungaboni ngesondo zibe ngamathambo. Le nto iya kuba yiphutha elikhulu, eliya kubiza ixesha elide kumntwana kunye nawe.