Umntwana wakho osemncinci wawela ngothando!

I-glint yamadaka emehlweni, izifundo ezingafundiwe, ukungabikho esikolweni. Umntwana wakho osemncinci wawela ngothando! Musa ukuphelelwa yithemba, mkhokele kwi-psychologist ufunde naye amanqaku amaninzi. Bonke abantu badlula kuqala uthando. Eli lixesha xa umntu ekhula, eqonda ixabiso lakhe, uqala ukuqonda abanye abantu kunye neemvakalelo zabo.

Uthando lokuqala luza kumntu othile kusasa, kumntu osekupheleni. Kodwa ihlala ifika. Kwabazali abaninzi, uthando lokuqala lomntwana osemtsha luvavanyo olukhulu, ikakhulu kuba unyana okanye intombi yabo isuke isuka kude nabo, ukuze kusasa bahambe ekhaya abazali babo baze baqale intsapho.

Ikakhulu ngokuchasene nobuhlobo bokuqala ngabazali bodwa kwintsapho. Kulo mzekelo kubalulekile ukuthetha ngomona wabazali. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwiimeko ezinjalo, abazali abanako ukuwamkela naluphi ulwalamano lomntwana wabo. Kwiminyaka yesikolo, banqabela umntwana ukuba abe ngumhlobo nomntu, echaza oku kukuba kufuneka afunde, kwixesha elizayo kubalulekile ukulungiselela iimviwo, ukufumana imfundo ephakamileyo, ukwakha umsebenzi kunye nokuphila kwakhe konke. Kunzima kubazali ukuchaza ukuba awuyi kulwa nendalo. Abantwana babazali abanobubele bahamba ngokukodwa ngeendlela ezimbini: indlela yabantwana abancinci bamantombazana okanye iintombi, ukuphulaphula abazali babo, nendlela yoRomeo okanye iJuliet, ukuphula isakhelo somzali.

Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obufudumele nomntwana wakho ngothando lwakhe lokuqala. Ukuba umntwana uya kukuthemba, uya kubelana nawe iingxaki zakhe, njengomhlobo omdala. Into eyona nto kukumxelela ukuba awunamdla kuye okanye ukhetho lwakhe. Shiya iimvakalelo zakho ngokwakho ngexesha.

Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali bayesaba ubudlelwane bokuqala bomntwana, njengoko bajonga ukuba ukhetho lwakhe aluphumelelanga. Ngokwenene, lo uluvo oluphosakeleyo. Kodwa ukuba oko kunjalo, ungamkhiyi umntwana ekhaya, ungamvumeli ukuba ahlangabezane nento yokuqala yothando lwakhe. Ngoko uyomeleza iimvakalelo zakhe. Thembela umntwana wakho, ngamanye amaxesha uyazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni oyenzayo. Kwaye ukuba ukhetho lwakhe lungalunganga, uya kuluqonda ngokukhawuleza. Umntu kufuneka enze iimpazamo ukuze azi ihlabathi elikufutshane naye. Musa ukucinga ukuba ukuba umntwana wakho uyathandana, unquma ngokukhawuleza ukuzibophelela ngomtshato. Uthando lo kuqala luhamba kancinci, alubopheli.

Enyanisweni, ukwenzela ukuba ugweme iimeko ezingathandekiyo, ngokukodwa, oku kubhekisela kubazali bamantombazana, kuyimfuneko ukuba umntwana athathwe ngolu xeshanye ngolwazi olwaneleyo malunga nokuba isini na apho abantwana bevela khona. Ungafaki uxinzelelo kumntwana uze umcele iinkcukacha zobomi bakhe. Sidinga ukudala umoya onjalo onokuthi yena ngokwakhe ufuna ukwabelana nathi nempumelelo yakhe neengxaki zakhe.

Kungcono ukuvumela umntwana ukuba atyelele umphefumlo wakhe. Ngoko abantwana baya kuhlala bephantsi kolawulo lwakho. Igama elithi "ulawulo" alufanelekanga apha, kuba abantu abaselula, bonke abantu bayazi, baphephe yonke imbonakalo yolawulo lwabazali, ngakumbi kwimicimbi yentliziyo.

Ungalokothi uthi kumntwana: "Unjalo onguTan, uKat, uLen uya kuhlala eninzi ..." Xa usemtsha, ubuninzi bobuncinci budlula yonke imida engqiqweni, umntwana akayi kukuxabisa inxaxheba yakho, kuba wakhethayo okanye okhethiweyo nguye ongcono kwaye kufuneka, Nilly, gcina zakho iingcinga ezimbi.

Phatha uthando lokuqala lomntwana wakho ngobulumko bokuba ngumzali. Khumbula, yintoni owasabela ngayo xa ilinyo lakhe lokuqala lisikwe? Uyavuya kukuba ikhula. Yaye nini na umntwana? Uyavuya kukuba uyazi ihlabathi. Uthando lokuqala lukwazisa ihlabathi, ngengqondo yengqondo kunye neemvakalelo. Nika umntwana wakho inkululeko yokuzikhethela aze ahlale esondele kuye, amxhase kwiimeko ezinzima. Kwaye akukho nto embi kwintsapho yakho iya kwenzeka ngqo.