Maxa wambi abantwana bafaniswa neengelosi. Ngamanye amaxesha bathetha ukuba ziintyatyambo zobomi. Kodwa kuncinci inyaniso ibango lokuba abantwana banenkohlakalo. Ukuba awuyibeki izikhokelo zokuziphatha, ngoko ukuziphatha kwabo kuya kuhluka kancinane kwindlela yokuziphatha kwezilwanyana, kwaye iklasi yesikolo iya kufana nepaki yepilisi ...
Oku kubhalwe ngcono ngumlobi weNgesi uWilliam Gerald Golding kwincwadi yakhe edumile INkosi yeeNtshontsho, echaza indlela abafana abaza ngayo kwisiqithi esingahlali kuyo kwaye baqala ukuhlala apho ngokwemibandela yabantwana babo (ukuba ibe yinto eqondekileyo, kungekho yonke imimiselo) yabantwana. Kodwa le nto iyinyani kwaye iyantlekisa: ebomini bokwenyani yonke into, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayikho into emangalisayo. Kodwa eqinisweni, iyafana. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva umntwana uphakathi kweontanga, ngoko kufuneka afunde ngokulula ubudlelwane phakathi kweqela labantwana kwaye afunde indlela yokufumana igunya lakhe. Abanye abantwana bavumelana ngokuthe ngqo kummandla omtsha: kungakhathaliseki ukuba baninzi abathunyelwa esikolweni ukuya esikolweni, kungakhathaliseki ukuba baninzi bathumela kwiinkampu zabantwana, yonke indawo banabantu abahlobo nabahlobo. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantwana abasinikwa isipho esinxibelelwano ngendalo. Abantwana abaninzi banenkathazo kwinkqubo yokulungelelanisa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bayabelana nendima ekujoliswe kobundlobongela beontanga (uhlobo oluthile lwenkwenkwe ".
UMNTWANA AKUBHALISI KWI-COLLECTIVE
Kwanele ukuqala iklasi kwelinye, masithi, umntwana ongenampilo - kunye nomoya ongeyingozi wentshutshiso uyaqinisekiswa. Abantwana abanjalo banomuva wokufuna ukuzibhokoxa ngokwabo ngabanye: umntu ukukhubekisa nokuhlazisa, ukusekela abanye abantwana (njengokuba "Siya kuba ngabahlobo bani?"), Njl. Ngenxa yoko, abo bahlala nabo besengozini kakhulu bahluphekile: babenomdla, abangaqhelekanga kwinqanaba kulwa nobudlova. Phakathi kwabo kungenzeka ukuba ngumntwana wakho, ngoko ke xa ungena kwiklasi yokuqala (okanye xa uthumela kwisikolo esitsha), okokuqala kufuneka ukuba uqaphele.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba esikolweni umntwana unokufumana iingxaki kunye noontanga, kungcono ukusebenza naye kwangaphambili kwaye uxele ngeendlela ezilula ze "aikido yengqondo". Yintoni efuna ukuba ichazwe kumntwana ukuze ahlangane neemeko eziyinkimbinkimbi ezixhobile ngokupheleleyo kwaye ziphuma ngesidima?
1. Ingxabano ayinakukhutshwa
Ebomini, iimfuno zabantu zidibanisekile, ngoko kufuneka siziphathe ngokuzihlaziya kunye nefilosofi kwiingxabano ezivela phakathi kwazo, uzama ukufikelela kwisivumelwano (oko kukuthi, isivumelwano esizuzisayo). Ngenxalenye yayo, kubalulekile ukuba, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ukuba ungene kwimpikiswano (kungabi yintlanzi, kungekhona ukuba ubenze kakubi kwaye ungabi nomdla, ungazibongi kwaye ungaceli).
2. Awukwazi ukuthanda yonke into
Njengoko u-Ostap Bender wathi: "Andiyena i-chervonetz, elowo ayithandayo." Myalela umntwana ukuba akufuneki ukuba athandwe ngumntu wonke kwaye akufanele uzame ukumkholisa wonke umntu. Ngaphezu koko, akuvumelekanga ukunyamekela abantwana abanamalungelo kwaye bazame ukuzuza inhlonipho yabo ngokusebenzisa izipho, imvume kunye ne "podlizyvaniya."
3. Njalo uzivikele!
Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba ugonyamelo alukwazi ukutyunjwa ngokusula phantsi: ukuba libizwe okanye libizwe, kuyimfuneko ukunika utshintsho. Isikhundla sobuKristu sokungaxhatshazi "ukuba uthe wawa etahlathini - endaweni enye" kwiqela lezingane, ngokuqinisekileyo uyamgxeka umntwana ukuba atshutshise.
4. Gcina ukungathathi hlangothi
Inketho efanelekileyo kukuba nobudlelwane obulinganayo nomntu wonke. Ngako oko, kungcono ukungaxhasi i-boycotts kwaye ungabandakanyeki kwiingxabano. Akukho imfuneko yokwenza oku ngokubonakalisa: unokufumana isisombululo esifanelekileyo ("kufuneka ndifunde", "andinalo ilungelo lokuphazamisa kwimicimbi yabanye).
UKUSEBENZA KWABAKHAYA ABAZALI
Njengomthetho, ukuba umntwana akahambelani kakuhle noontanga, omnye othetha apha akayi kwenza. Abazali bafanele baqale ukuthatha amanyathelo onke okwenza umntwana angenelele kuluntu. Thetha notitshala malunga neengxaki zengane yakho kwaye zenze izivumelwano zakho.
* Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala engenakwenzeka kakhulu kwabanye.
* Zama ukunika umntwana ngolwanxibelelwano nabafundi eklasini (bamema ukuba batyelele, banike umntwana kwinqanaba lemini elongezelelweyo, njl.).
* Ukuba umntwana unembonakalo ongagqibekanga, kuyimfuneko ukuba amlungiselele ngokuziphatha ukuze "ahlasele" inxalenye yabantwana: iingqondo zengqondo zicebisa kwangaphambili ukuba zifike kunye nee-teasers kwaye zizihlekise ndawonye.
* Ukuba umntwana engacaci kwaye angazi njani ukusabela ngokukhawuleza kwiimeko ezinzima, unokuzixubusha ekhaya ngendlela yokudlala indima ("uthabathe izinto," "ukukhatha," njl.) Nokuphuhlisa iindlela zokuziphatha.
"ABANTU BANOKUSEBENZA"
Kukho uluvo lokuba abantu abadala abafanelekanga ukuphazamisa kwimicimbi yabantwana: kuthiwa umntwana kufuneka afunde ukucombulula iingxaki zabo. Oku kuyinyani kude nazo zonke iimeko. Okokuqala, umntwana kufuneka ahlale evakalelwa ngenkxaso yakho yokuziphatha. Okwesibini, uya kuba noxolo xa ejwayele ukwabelana naye ngamava akhe. Nangona ungaziphazamisi nayiphi na imeko enzima, unokuxelela umntwana ukuba enze njani.
"Andiyinikeli umntwana wakho kwizinto ezidliwayo"
Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana ecasulwa ngabaontanga kwaye uyazi ngubani owenze? Kubonakala ngathi indlela elula ukuhamba nokubuyisela ubulungisa: ukujezisa abaphuli ngokwabo. Umntwana ufunda ngale nto kwaye uya kufumana ukwaneliseka kokuziphatha. "Ndilungile, zibi." Ngaba ngoku kuya kuzuza loo maqhinga? Akukuhle ukuba uzame ukusombulula ingxaki kwingcambu: ukucacisa kumntwana into enokuyenza ukuze kuthintele imeko enjalo ukuziphinda. Emva koko uya kukwazi ukujongana nabaxhaphazi ngokuzimeleyo.
"OKUNYE UKUFUNDA UKUFUNDA"
Abazali bamakhwenkwe bahlala befuna ukuba iindiza zabo zibe "ngabafana bokwenene" kwaye bazinokuzimela ngokuncedisa ukulala. Kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko ukunika le nkwenkwe kwinqanaba lezemidlalo, ukuze afunde iindlela zokulwa, kodwa kufuneka simchazele: akazifundanga nonke ukuze azisebenzise rhoqo. Izindlela zokuzikhusela zingenza umntwana azithembe, kodwa ngokufanayo kufuneka ufundise ukuxazulula iingxabano ngokukhawuleza, ukushiya iingxabano zokungabikho kweengxaki.
UMBHALO WABASEBENZI ABASEBENZELWENI BENKQUBO YENKQUBO YO "GOAT OF RELEASE"
Abantwana abanembonakalo engavamile
• uninzi (okanye uncinci)
• ukukhula okuncinci okanye okude kakhulu
• Abantwana abaneziglasi (ngokukodwa ukulungisa - kunye neliso elivaliweyo)
• uhlaziyo
• Ukukhawuleza
Abantwana abanemikhwa embi kwabanye
• uhlala ephosa (okanye ukhetha ekhaleni)
• unxibe unxibe, unwele onwele
• Abantwana abavuthayo ekutyikitheni kokutya kunye nemilomo yabo epheleleyo, njl.
Abantwana abangenelungelo lokunxibelelana
• ukunyaniseka nokuthetha
• unamahloni kwaye unamahloni
• isengozini kwaye iyancipha
• i-whiners
• braggart
• ukuxoka
Abantwana abavela kwiqela elihlangeneyo
• Abantwana abagqobile bagxininise ngakumbi kunabanye
• iintando zothisha (kunye nabantwana abangathandwa ngumfundisi)
• Sneaks kunye crybaby
• onyana boomama
• kunye ne-abstruse ("engekho kweli hlabathi")
IINDLELA ZOKUQHUBA NEMITHETHO YOKWENZA
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi ezisisiseko zobudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana:
Ukungayithobeli
Umntwana akayithobeli ingqalelo, ngokungathi akakho. Akunakucelwa naluphi na ukuhanjiswa kweendima, umntwana akanandaba nantoni na. Umntwana akazizi iifowuni zomfundi ofunda nabo, akukho namnye umbiza ukuba a tyelele. Akathethi nto ngesikolo.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Thetha notitshala weklasi, zama ukuqhagamshelana nabantwana ngokwabo (banciphise kunye nomntwana wakho)
Ukukhanyela
Umntwana akamkelekanga kumdlalo, wenqaba ukuhlala naye kwideskiti enye, akafuni ukuba naye kwelinye iqela lezemidlalo. Umntwana uya esikolweni ngokukhawuleza, uvela esikolweni ngesimo esibi.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Hlaziya izizathu (kutheni umntwana engamkelekanga) kwaye uzama ukuzinqumla. UMthetho ngokusebenzisa ootitshala nootitshala.
Ukukhanyela ngokusemthethweni
Abantwana abakubonanga ukuthetha nomntwana, musa ukucinga ngeengcamango zakhe, musa ukuphulaphula, musa ukuzifihla isimo sengqondo sokunyaniseka. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana ngokukhawuleza wenqaba ukuya esikolweni, edla ngokukhala kungekho sizathu.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Udlulisele umntwana kwelinye iklasi (okanye kwesinye isikolo). Thetha nootitshala. Ukujongana nengcali yeengqondo.
Ukuxhatshazwa
Ukugculelwa rhoqo, umntwana uhlazizwa aze abizwe, aqhutywe kwaye atshaywe, aphangiwe kwaye aphethwe izinto, asongelwe. Umntwana unemivimbo kunye ne-abrasions, ngokuqhelekileyo "aphelile" izinto kunye nemali.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Ukudlulisela umntwana ngokukhawuleza kwesinye isikolo! Mnike isangqa, apho uya kukwazi ukukhulisa amandla akhe kwaye abe phezulu. Ukujongana nengcali yeengqondo.