"Ingxaki yengqondo yabantwana abaselula kunye nezindlela zokuzisombulula" - isihloko sesihloko sethu samhlanje.
Ubuntwaba sisigaba esithile ekuphuhlisweni komntu, esecaleni langaphakathi nangaphandle kwexesha lomntwana kunye neqonga lokuzaliswa ngokugcwele kommeli woluntu, ngokulandelanayo, into ebonakalayo eyona nto ibonisa ukuguqulwa okukhulu, okubophelelwe kwisantya.
Kulo lonke ixesha elikhankanyiweyo ngasentla, isilwanyana esincinci sivakalelwa yintliziyo, ephindaphindiweyo phakathi kwesi sigqibo okanye iinqununu, izihlandlo eziliqela ziphazamisa izinto ezibonakala zingekho phantsi kwezinto ezingabhubhiyo, ukunyaniseka kobukho babo, ngokunyuka ukuya phezulu, ukudibela ephosa, ekuphoseni kwintlango kunye nezigqibo ezingakhange zicatshangelwe, ezingasichaphazela kwakhona iimbono zehlabathi ezisisiseko, kuba abaninzi bethu bavame ukusebenzisa umhlalutyi osemthethweni wokuziphatha kwabo ukufezekisa isivumelwano esithile kunye nabo ngaphakathi.
Inkalo ebaluleke kakhulu ekutshintsheni kwendlela yokuziphatha yokuziphatha kukuvela kwimeko yokuvumela nokunyaniseka, ukuvakalisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo entlokweni yakhe amagama athi "umntu omdala, ndiyakwenza okuninzi", kunqabile ukuba nabani na ngokwenene bavavanya ngolu hlobo imeko, ixesha elide ngaphambi kwendlela yokuphila kwendalo yonke, kungenxa yoko kule nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukunikela ubungakanani beninzi kunye nokunyamekela umntu ochaphazelekayo kwimpembelelo ewonakalisayo yexesha lokutshintsha, Ngaloo ndlela kuphela umntu unokuphumelela ekuzaliseni ukuqonda okufanayo, kodwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuchaphazela ngokufanelekileyo impawu yethu.
Iingxaki zale xesha ebomini bomntu zixutyushwa ngeenkcukacha ezanele ngabantwana abaselula, kodwa, ngokukodwa, ukusuka kwindawo yabo yokujonga. Ngaphezu koko, ngamnye umntwana ubonakala ngathi ingxaki yakhe yongxamisekileyo kwaye akafumani naluphi na ukuqonda phakathi kwanoma ubani.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko kuvela emva kwexesha (ngokumangaliswa kubaselula ngokwabo), ezininzi iingxaki ziyancitshiswa zibe zimbalwa, zilungiswa kakuhle.
1. Iingxaki zangaphandle
Imiba engaphandle, i. ukubonakala, zichaphazela isantya esifanayo sababini namantombazana. Kuphela nje ukuba abafana bathetha ngayo ngaphantsi, becinga ukuba kufuneka bajamelane nayo yonke into ngokwabo.
2. Uxhatshazo
Ngeli xesha, ukukhulelwa sekusekuqaleni, okubonakala ngokuguqulwa kwinqanaba lamahomoni. Ukwandiswa kwintlawulo ye-hormones yesondo kubangela ukutshisa okukhulu kwesifiso sesini, kokubini kumakhwenkwe nakumantombazana.
3. "Ndiyena mhlakaniphileyo"
Ukuqwalasela ukuba abantu abadala abaqondi kakuhle ingxaki yabantwana abaselula, abantwana, ngokusekelwe kumhlathi wesi-2, zama ukuphepha ukuthetha nabazali kuqala kwizinto "zobuqu", kwaye emva - ngokubanzi.
Icandelo le-maximalism eliselula lidibaniswa neempawu zengqondo yexesha lokutshintsha, enye - kunye nokusebenza kwamahomoni kunye ne-metamorphopsia (ukuphazamiseka kwendlela yomzimba), eyenza abatsha abasemngciphekweni kunokuba baphikiswe. Emva kwexesha, xa imeko yomzimba izinzileyo, "iingxaki" ezininzi zikhohliwe.
Ungakulibali ukuba uxinzelelo olubangelwa ngama-hormone ebusheni lunokukhupha ezinye izifo kunye nokwandisa umonakalo.
Akungabazeki ukuba uluntu lwangomhla wolutsha lufumana impembelelo enkulu kwi-teknoloji yolwazi, ngamanye amaxesha luyingozi.
Izigidi zabantu abaselula kunye nabantwana abaselula, imbono, imbono yabazali babo, kodwa izithixo zomculo, iinkwenkwezi ze-movie, zibaluleke kakhulu. Yintoni ephosakeleyo ngento yokuba umntwana uthathwa ngumlingisi ukusuka kwisikrini sekhompyutheni okanye umabonwakude, kuba le yinto eqhelekileyo kwintombazana? Akukho nto ibuhlungu, eqinisweni, oku akunjalo, kuba wonke umntu omdala wayenomntwana osemva nje kunye nomculo okanye cinema. Umbuzo awukuthi ukuba uthintela umntwana ukuba abukele iTV okanye ukunyuka kwiWebhu yeWebhu yehlabathi, kodwa ukuba umntwana akalilahli umdla kwimbono yomzali, ukuba uphulaphule umbono wakhe unina okanye uyise ukuze angaphoswanga umnqweno wokuthetha nabo, ukwabelana ngamava abo okanye uvuyo. Ukuze umntwana aqhubeke enomdla kwiimbono zabazali, ndingathanda ukuchitha ixesha kungekhona kwesikrini okanye ekubekeni iliso, kodwa kuluntu lwentsapho, abazali kufuneka babonise isinyathelo sokuqhubeka ngokulungiselela iziganeko ezidibeneyo ezinokumkholisa umntwana wabo, nokuba ngaba kukunyuka kwi-movie, kwikhonsathi yomculi wakho oyintandokazi, okanye nje ukuhamba epakini, kuxhomekeke kwisimo sengqondo okanye umnqweno womntwana. Iphutha eliphambili abazali abangayenzayo lingabonakali umdla kumdla wolutsha, nokuba ngaba bahluke kakhulu kwiminqweno yabazali ngokwabo. Ngenxa yokuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana abe nexhaswa ngabazali bakhe, kwimeko apho akayi kumfuna ngaphandle kwentsapho, ngoko ke ukuhamba naye. Kukwafanelekile ukukhankanya loo meko apho umntwana osemtsha, enomdla kwiikhomputha okanye kumabonwakude, akaqhagamshelani nabazali bakhe.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kufuneka zikhunjulwe ukuba iingxaki ezinjalo aziveki ngokukhawuleza, kodwa zibangelwa ukuba ngexesha elithile abazali bayeka ukunomdla kubomi bomntwana wabo, kwaye ngoko wayezibhalela ngokupheleleyo kwihlabathi lakhe elingaphakathi. Indlela yokuphuma kule meko ibonakala kum oku okulandelayo. Abazali kufuneka bazame ukufumana oko umntwana onentshisekelo enomdla kuyo, baqinisekise ukuba abafumani ukuthanda kwakhe nje ukuchitha ixesha. Emva koko, mhlawumbi umntwana uya kuhamba kude nakwintsapho kwaye kwimeko enjalo kuya kufuneka ukuba ujike uncedo lweengcali.
Ngaloo ndlela, isiluleko esifanele sinikezelwe kubazali ukwenzela ukuphepha ukulahlekelwa yintembelo kunye nomdla kumntwana kuchitha ixesha elininzi kunokwenzeka ngomntwana wabo, kubonisa umdla kwimbonakalo yakhe yehlabathi, echaphazelekayo ngamajelo omhlaba, ezama ukumbamba umdla kwaye, ebonakala ngathi luncedo kuwe. Ngoko, umzekelo, ngelinye ilanga ukuya kwifilimu kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba kwintombazana yakho oyintandokazi, kwaye ngengomso uya ku-theater kunye nentsapho yakhe yonke.
Kwimeko enjalo, umntwana osemncinini akayi kuvalelwa ngaphakathi kwakhe, engafuni ukwabelana ngamava kunye neengcamango nabazali bakhe, kwaye abazali, ngokwazi ngezinto ezithandwa ngumntwana, kuya kumnceda ukuba afunde ezinye iindawo zokuzonwabisa.