1. Dweba umgca ocacileyo phakathi kweengcamango "zomzali" kunye "nomhlobo."
Unokuba ngumhlobo kumntwana wakho. Kodwa ukuba uba "lizinga elilodwa" naye, balahla ubukhulu bakho bobuzali - oku kuya kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala okanye kamva. Kubonakala kungenangqondo, kodwa umntwana kufuneka azi indawo yakhe kwintsapho. Ungumncinci. Ufunda kuphela ukuhlala kwihlabathi leengxaki kunye nokuphikisana. Wena ngowokuqala kunye neyona ndlela-phambili-inkxaso, inkxaso kwixeshana elilukhuni. Umntwana osemtsha kufuneka azive ekhuselekile, ahloniphe ingqondo yakho kunye nokukwazi ukuphuma kwiimeko ezinzima. Qonda: abantwana banokufumana abahlobo naphi na. Nangona abazali abahle banqabile kakhulu.
2. Yiba novelwano.
Kuthetha ukuba usondele, nangona xa kungelula kwaye ungakhululeki xa ulayishwa ngomsebenzi, xa ukukhathala kukukunqoba. Ufuna umntwana wakho. Ngokukodwa kwixesha leshumi elivisayo, xa iingxaki zibonakala zingekho, ihlabathi alinakulungile, kwaye ikusasa lingaqondakali. Kufuneka uhlale wazi into eyenzekayo ebomini bomntwana wakho. Kumele ufumane ukuthembela kwakhe ngokubingelela ixesha lakho lokukhulula. Ukuba umntwana uqinisekile ngenkxaso yakho, ukuqonda kwakho - kuya kuba lula kuye ukunqoba le minyaka yobudala.
3. Fundisa umthwalo wemfanelo.
Lo ngumsebenzi wakho omkhulu, indlela yokulungiselela umntwana osemtsha. Chaza ukuba ukuba ufuna indlela ethile yobomi - kufuneka wenze umgudu othile ukuwufezekisa. Akukhona nje ngemali, kodwa malunga noxanduva lwayo, ukuzimela kunye nokukwazi "ukuma ezinyaweni zakho." Umntwana kufuneka abe nemisebenzi yakhe yendlu. Setha imisebenzi phambi kwayo, kodwa "ungahambi nayo" ukuba ayenzi into efunekayo. Oku kufundisa umntwana ukuba usetyenziswa njani ihlabathi. Ekugqibeleni, uya kukubulela isayensi.
4. Ukwazi ukuphulaphula.
Oku kuthetha ukuphulaphula nokuqonda ngaphandle kokugweba. Nangona umntwana ephikisana okanye mhlawumbi ahlambela - ungaziphazamisi. Zama ukubamba ubunzulu beengxaki. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukukhala kuncedo. Khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho ukhulile. Ngoku iingxaki zakhe zamlimaza "ngendlela endala."
5. Musa ukuvila ukuchaza.
Njalo uchaze izizathu zemfuno zakho. Ngoko uya kunceda umntwana kamva enze izigqibo ezilungileyo ngokwakhe. Ngoko ndixelele ukuba ufuna ukumbona ekhaya ngexesha elithile, ngenxa yoko ayikhuselekile ezitratweni. Intombazana kufuneka ibone kwisicelo sakho esinyamekelayo, kungekhona umnxeba owomileyo, umyalelo onzima.
6. Hlalani nilungele ukumela umntwana .
Kuzo zonke izinto ezibonakala zikhulile, abantwana abaselula bayinto ebuthathaka kakhulu kwihlabathi. Bafuna ukukhuselwa. Ngubani na oya kumamela, ukuba ngaba ngabazali? Nika umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba unayo. Ukucela, ncedise iingcebiso kwaye ungaze ugwebe. Kubalulekile ukuba intombazana ikwazi ukuba akaye yedwa kweli hlabathi.
7. Yiba nolwazi.
Yazi uhlobo lomculo umntwana wakho aluphulaphulayo, oko abahlobo bakhe babiza khona (kunye nabazali babo), qaphela imicimbi yakhe yesikolo-umsebenzi ophezulu kubazali abalungileyo. Kufuneka ukuba ube neengongoma zokuqhagamshelana nabazali abanomntwana oselula. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukuxabisa. Xa ubona ukuba uyazi yonke yakhe imicimbi, umntwana osemva nje akanakukugatya. Kwaye akafuni.
8. Hlanganiseka.
Imigaqo, eqinisweni, kufuneka ibe, kodwa kungekho ngaphandle. Umzekelo, xa umntwana efuna ukuphuma egumbini lakhe, kodwa uqala ukufunda incwadi enomdla kwaye uyakhohlwa ngemisebenzi yakhe. Yitshintsha, jonga ingcambu yomcimbi. Ekugqibeleni, ukucoca kunokulinda. Nika umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba awunomshini onomsolo onika imiyalelo, kodwa umntu oqondayo kwaye uyazi indlela yokunciphisa. Ndikholelwe, ngomso umntwana oselula uya kuzihlamba egumbini lakhe. Ngonwabile.
9. Yiba neenjongo eziqhelekileyo nomntwana.
Ukuba neenjongo eziqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuba uqondana kakuhle. Ufunda kunye kwaye wabelane ngamava akho. Yikholelwa, intombazana yakho ufuna ukuba naluphi na unxibelelwano nawe, ngaphandle kweengxabano malunga noncedo kwindlu.
10. Qhubeka uthetha, nangona akaphulaphuli.
Kubonakala kungenangqondo, kodwa abantwana abasoloko bephulaphula abazali babo. Nangona xa bekhamuluka, bakuva kakuhle kwaye bakuqonda. Tshela umntwana wakho oko ucinga ngokubhema, iziyobisi, isondo. Ulwazi luya kudlula kulo, nokuba lubukeka ngathi aluzange lwenzeke. Musa ukuyihoxisa iingxaki zomntwana. Kwaye akayi kukwazi ukukunyanzela.