Kutheni ungaphupha njengaleyo?
Leli bali liphathwe ngokuchanekileyo nangona kunjalo. Ukuba ngobomi bokwenene ukubamba esihlathini akubonakali nasiphi na imvakalelo ecacileyo kwaye ayifuni ukunyamekela ukuziphatha kwayo, ngoko incwadi yephupha ichaza intsingiselo yaloo phupha ngokuphambene noko. Enyanisweni, uziva unyanzelekile kumntu owakanga ephupheni kwaye ke iingcinga zakho ngoku zixakeke ngendlela yokubonisa ukubonga kwakho.
Ukuba wanga isifuba sakho ngokwakho, ke incwadi yephupha ithi uzama ukubonisa isimo sengqondo sakho sobubele kunye novelwano kumntu othile. Kungenzeka ukuba kungekudala uza kuba neli thuba, kuba uya kuchitha ixesha elininzi nalo mntu.
Xa iqhinga elinjengephupha livela kwintombazana eyamanga isithandwa sayo, ngoko ukuchazwa kwamaphupha kuthi kufuneka iyanelisekile kulwalamano kwaye isicwangciso sakhe siya kuvuzwa.
Baye bamanga bani na?
Kubaluleke kakhulu umntu owakanga ephupheni. Ngulo nobuntu obunokukunceda ukukhulula kakhulu malunga neziganeko zekamva.
- Ukuba umhlobo uyakumanga esihlathini, ngoko kukho ukungabonakali okukhulu phakathi kwakho, kwaye le nantlukwano ikuthintela ukuthetha ngokukhululeka. Kukhona enye, ingcaciso engakumbi yokulala. Ngokutsho kwakhe umphuphi uya kulinda ukuhlukana kumhlobo wakhe, nangenxa yokuxabana okukhulu.
- Ukubamba ngedama lentombazana kutolika ngokuthe ngqo kwintombazana. Ukuba wayengathandekanga ngaphandle, ngoko umphuphi kufanele alungiselele ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphila. Kodwa ukumanga umfazi omhle kwisitramu akusiyo uphawu oluhle kakhulu. Le nkwenkwezana inokubangela iingxaki ezininzi kunye nezenzo zokukhawuleza, eziza kubonakalisa kakubi malunga nomntu ophuphayo.
- Ukutolika kwephupha owakanga ngalo isoka esiklasini utsho ukuba ubunzima bakho buya kunceda ukuxazulula abahlobo bamandulo.
Ukutolika kwephupha: ukumanga umfi ehlathini
Nangona loo mbono ingabangela ukuphikisana kakhulu, kwaye akusoloko ikhuthaze, iimvakalelo, kusekho imfuneko ukuqonda intsingiselo yayo.
Ukuba umntu ofileyo uwanga, ke kufuneka unakekele impilo yakho. Mhlawumbi eso sifo asizange sizive, kodwa kungcono ukubonisana nodokotela ukukhusela ukukhula okusebenzayo kwesi sifo kwaye ukhuphe unyango olude.
Xa uphupha ukuba wena ubanga umfi ophuphayo, ngoko ngobomi bokwenene ulindelwe ixesha elixakeke kakhulu. Ayinakubizwa ngokuba yimpumelelo okanye ayiphumelelanga. Kuya kubakho ukuphakama nokuhla, okuza kuzisa iimvakalelo ezivuyayo kunye neentlungu.
Enye ingcaciso yokumanga komntu oshonile uthi umphuphi angakwazi ukufumana ishishini elithembekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, utshintshe owakhethiweyo okanye ngengozi uzinikele.
Kodwa ukusuka kwimbono yengqondo yokubanga ephupheni lomfi ufaka ubungqina bokuthi umphuphi uye wahlala ekhuselekileyo ekulahlekeni kwalo mntu kwaye usalindele.
Njengoko ubona, ukubonakaliswa okungenacala kweemvakalelo ngendlela yokubamba okulula ebantwini kunokuba neentsingiselo ezininzi, ukuba uyibona ngexesha lokuphumla ebusuku. Ngoko ke, zama ukukhumbula zonke iinkcukacha zokulala kwaye ungaphutheli nakwiinkcukacha ezincinci.