Wathandana kwaye ufuna ukudibana nomfana. Wayemshiya ngokupheleleyo izifundo zakhe kwaye ehamba emafini. Akaphulaphuli isiluleko somntu kwaye akafuni ukuqonda nantoni na. Ngoko, intombazana yakho ikhupha kwaye ayihambelani-into enokuyenza? Indlela yokulungisa ngokufanelekileyo le ngxaki, ungalahlekelwa yintlonelo kunye nentembelo yentombazana, ungabi mfo kuye, kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ingabi yinombolo yakhe intshaba?
"Sifanele sicinge ngokufunda, kodwa singaphambuki uthando!", "Ndiyilungiselela iziko lakho kwiziko lakho, kwaye ndingakhange ndijonge abafana." "Akwanele ukujikeleza ngeentsuku" - ezi binzana kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo ezahlukeneyo zithetha, zithethe kwaye ziza kuthetha neentombi zabo eziselula, mhlawumbi bonke oomama kwihlabathi. Kwaye amantombazana agijima ngokufihlakeleyo kubathandekayo babo, kwaye baya kuqhubela phambili, baxinzelele abazali, ngakumbi, oomama, ukuba bakhathazeke ngabo kwaye bangalali ebusuku, behleli ewindini iiyure.
Intombi yomntwana oselula, ekwazi ukuba umama ubona ubundlobongela beentlanganiso zakhe kunye nomthandekayo wakhe, uhambo lwabo oludibeneyo kwii-discos kunye namaqela, luqala ngobuqhetseba, aluhambelani, lujika kwaye luxoke ukukhusela i-scandals kunye nokuhlambalaza nayiphi na indleko. Kwaye ukuqala ukukhohlisa, kulula kakhulu ukuzisebenzisa ukuthetha amanga, ngokukodwa kumntwana omncinane.
Ukwesaba okuqhelekileyo
Oomama bahlala beva, kuyimvelo: lo ngumthetho wendalo. Bayafuna ukwazi ukuba ubude obuphakathi kwentombi kunye nesoka lakhe lihambe kangakanani. Kutheni le nto intombazana igxotha into phantsi kophefumlweni wayo, ihamba igugu ngaphezu kwefu kwaye ingathethi nabani na? Mhlawumbi babesele benako, kunjalo, akunjalo? Kuthekani ukuba intombazana ikhulelwe? Yaye ukuba uyamshiya, ngoku ufana nolutsha! Kwaye ukuba bathetha ukutshata, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, kuba umtshato phakathi kwabantwana ababini, omnye unokuthi, akayi kuhlala ixesha elide, kuyinyaniso.
Njani ukuba? Ngaba ndimele ndimvumele ukuba ahlangane naye? Kodwa ngoku ubuyela ekhaya, akaphulaphuli abantu abadala, unkulu, uyazimela. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza uya kudibana naye, kodwa ke, kungekudala, kamva, kwaye kungekhona ngoku, umfana omhle kwaye ufuna ukutshata naye, kwaye sele sele ebophelele kwimeko engalunganga, kwaye intombazana iya kudlula uthando lwangempela. Ixesha elizayo, kubala, phantsi. Akufuneki ukuthetha, iingcamango ezifana nalezi - umthwalo awulula. Ewe, ukuba ngumama wentombi eyishumi elivisayo akuyona into elula.
Eyona nto ihamba phambili, ukuba intombazana ngokwayo yaza kwaye yabelana ngeengxaki kunye nobunzima kwixeshana ezinzima kunye nawe, kungekhona nommelwane okanye intombi. Ukuze kufuneke ngexesha elifanelekileyo kwaye usondele ukuze angavumeli iphutha elingenakulinganiswa. Kodwa akubona bonke abanalo ubudlelwane obuthembayo. Kwaye kule meko kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ngokwakho imithetho embalwa ebalulekileyo.
1. Musa ukuthintela ukunxibelelana
Kubalulekile ukuqonda into ebalulekileyo ebalulekileyo: ukugxeka, ukuthukuthela, ukuvinjelwa, ukujezisa akunakuncedo, akunakukunceda. Uhleli, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, uya kuqhubeka ebona intanda yakhe, kodwa ngasese. Kwale meko umama uya kuba ngumntu wokugqibela apho intombazana iya kuhamba ngcebiso malunga nokuba uyayifuna.
2. Imibuzo yesisombululo
Musa "ukufumana" umntwana wakho ngemibuzo. Abayi kuyenza ibe yinyanisekileyo kwaye baqhagamshelane. Kunoko, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kufutshane ngokwakho. Musa ukugxininisa ekubeni iintlanganiso zabathandi abancinci ziphela ekulala. Nangona kunjalo, thatha ixesha lokuthetha kwaye utshele intombi yakho malunga nezindlela zokukhusela, izifo ezithathelwana ngesondo, i-AIDS kunye nemiphumo ehambelana nayo.
3. Hlangana ngaphandle kohlazo kunye nokuthelekiswa
Akunjalo, ngexesha lokuthetha nentombi yakho, ungathi: "Uneminyaka elishumi elinesithathu kuphela (iminyaka elishumi elinanye, njl. Luhlobo luni luthando kwiminyaka yakho lungaba khona? "Ingxoxo enjalo ayiyi kuzisa kwaye akukho nto iya kutshintsha. Umntwana wakho uya kuqala ukuhamba ukusuka kuwe imihla ngemihla ngaphezulu nangaphezulu. Ngoku kuye isoka lakhe likhanyayo kwiwindow, kwaye wena (kufuneka uyamkele) sele ifika kumshini wokutshisa. Kule bazali kufuneka ubekezele. Kwaye ke, intombazana kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba ukuba u-frank nawe, awusoze wahlambalaza isizathu sakhe, musa ukugculela ngale nto.
4. Musa ukufunda iziphumo
Ukuziphatha okuchanekileyo kukumxelela malunga neemvakalelo ozifumanayo kwiminyaka yakhe. Emva koko, ubomi buphinda kwakhona, kuphela iinkcukacha zenguqu. Oko kukuthi, into ocinga ukuba yayiyintlekele kunye nokuphela kwehlabathi ekukhuleni, ngoku kubangele ukumncoma, ukumangaliswa okanye ukumangaliswa: ndingaphila njani ngenxa yale nto?
5. Musa ukukhawuleza ukubonisa uluvo lwakho
Mema intombi yakho ukuba imeme umhlobo ekhayeni lakho. Ukuba uyayithanda, funda, unganqikazi ukuthetha oku. Ukuba akunjalo-musa ukukhawuleza ukuluhlu lweempawu zakhe ongazithandiyo. Musa ukumxelela ukuba wenzeni. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma ukuxelela intombazana ukuba umhlobo wakhe ubonakale kuwe, mzekelo, masithi, akuyona into ephambili, kwaye ubuze ukuba uyavumelana nawe. Ukuba akunjalo, vumelani ukuba uyamhlonela ilungelo lakhe kwindawo yokujonga. Iingcali zengqondo zifuna ukuba emva kwamagama akho, uza kubheka ngokungabonakali umgca ongeyona ngamehlo akho.
6. Hlonipha ubuntu bomntwana
Ungalokothi unike i-scandals intombazana kunye nezigcawu kuphela ngenxa yokuba ungathandi ukuzimela. Kubonakala kuwe ukuba usengumntwana, intombazana ngokwakhe ayicingi njalo. Uzibona njengomntu omdala.
7. Yiba ngumhlobo oqondayo
Vumela intombazana yakho ukuba, xa kukho nayiphi na inkathazo, unokubuyela kuwe uncedo, kwaye awuyi kumtyumbela ngesiphakamiso sezikhalazo ezinjengokuthi: Ndathi, ndayilumkisa, ndandisoloko ndiloyika ... Ngokuchasene, makumqinisekise ukuba uya kumnceda isiluleko somntu osondeleyo, onokuqonda kunye nomntu onothando kakhulu emhlabeni. Oku akuyi kuvumela intombi yakho ukuba ithathe umhlalaphantsi kwintsholongwane kwaye ingaboniswanga, okwenza ukuba loo nto ingabikho.