Ukuba phantsi kwengcinezelo indoda iyavuma ukuba enye-into enokuyenza

Ubudlelwane: yintoni na kwaye siyifunayo? Ubudlelwane buyintambo, umdaniso wobomi kubini. Abantu abavumelani nje nobudlelwane, bashukunyiswa ngento engaphezulu. Umnqweno wokuba wodwa, ukhuselwe, uyathandwa. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuba yena nomntu wonke bafune ukufumana wabo umlingane womphefumlo. Omnye akanethamsanqa, kwaye ukhangele phambili ulonwabo lwakhe, kwaye umntu unethamsanqa kwaye apha uyona jackpot ecacileyo. Kwaye yonke into njengalinye ibali iphelela. Ubudlelwane buye buthathaka - kwaye akukho ncazelo ngale nto. Emva kokucacisa imeko, xa sifunde iimpendulo kwimibandela yenzalo, asiyazi indlela yokusabela ngayo. Ukuba phantsi kwengcinezelo umntu uyavuma ukuba abe nomnye-into enokuyenza?

Ukwabelana nendoda nomnye ongekho onke amabhinqa baya kuthanda le ngcamango. Omnye waba ngowokuqala, kwaye wahamba waya kwesibini, okanye uhlala umkhuba. Oku kuyona nto ikhethileyo. Ukuze wenze oku, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ufuna omnye umfazi kunye nokuba kuyintoni kuye.

Mhlawumbi umntu wakho ungomnye wothando, oqokelela umlinganiselo omkhulu wothando olungenasisiseko, uthando olufunayo kumnika umntu. Yaye ingxaki apha akukhona ukuba ulapha ayamkelelwanga yonke into yakhe yokukhathazeka, kwaye ingxaki kukuba awukwazi ukumkela yonke into. Ufana nombhobho ogcweleyo, apho amanzi amaninzi angenakongezwa khona. Kule meko, indoda ifuna enye imbiza efuna ukuzalisa uthando lwakhe, ukunyamekela. Kungabonakala ukuba umntu ufumene enye enye, ecinezela kancinci kuye, uyavuma ukuba abe nomnye, wenzeni? Kufanelekile ukucinga malunga nokuba ufuna umlingane wakho. Ukuba uyayibona imfuno yakho, zama ukunyusa i-jug yakho yeemvakalelo, ukuze ufumane amatsha amnandi, amanzi amnandi. Bonisa ukunakekelwa ngakumbi kumntu, kwaye nakuphi na umzekelo ungaqhubeki. Bonisa nje ukuba uyamthanda ngaphezu kwanoma ngubani na kuphela ufanelekile kuwe, ukuba nguwe kuphela onokuhlala phantsi kwephiko lakhe lokunyamekela nothando. Ukuba umntu uyaqonda ukuba uyakufuna, ke abanye abafazi baya kulahleka ebomini bakhe ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula njengoko bangenayo.

Kuthiwani ukuba, phantsi kwengcinezelo, umntu uyavuma ukuba abe nomnye, wenzeni, ukuba le nto iphoso lakho? Khawuleza uzibuze umbuzo wento enetyala ngayo, kutheni iphoso lakho, kwaye akayiyo loo nto. Impendulo ilula. Indoda ingumntwana ofanayo, inja efanayo efuna ukunikwa ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo. Ukuba uhlala ukholisa kuye, uphawule, unike ixesha elaneleyo, uthando nothando, akaze ashiye enye, enye inokuthi ithathe indawo esikhundleni sakho. Kwakhona, kuyimfuneko ukubonisa - umntu onobufunwa nguye kunye nobani. Ukuba uqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba uyayidinga njengomoya, ke ungagqithisi. Hlakaniza kwaye umlwela nje, ungabuyiseli kuphela enyanzelweni kwintsapho, kodwa yenza oko ukuba ufuna yena ngokwakhe, okanye, ubuncinane, wacinga ukuba nguye okhethekileyo.

Qaphela ukuba yintoni inzuzo yakho, emva koko, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ukhetho lwakhe luyekile kuwe. Cinga ngento oyifake kuyo kwaye unokuhlala kufuphi nawe, mhlawumbi uvuyayo, uyamomotheka, unamandla, kwaye ngoku ulahlekelwe ngumumo. Sebenzisa le mpawu njengenzuzo yakho ukuze ubuyisele intliziyo yomntu wakho. Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, ke, mnike ixesha elongezelelweyo kunye nengqalelo. Khumbula indlela owawunqobile ngayo, indlela onokuphumelela ngayo kwaye phambili ekubanjeni. Bhala imilayezo oyiphosileyo, ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha lomsebenzi kunye nayo yonke le fayili ebomvu, umnxeba, ubuze indlela enza ngayo emsebenzini, lungiselela kwasekuseni, ubone ukusebenza, nangona ufuna ukulala iiyure ezimbalwa, ulungiselele okungalindelekanga, kodwa ezimangalisayo. Amadoda afana nabantwana abancinci abakhokelwa kuyo yonke into ehlekayo, eqaqambileyo kwaye enomdla. Yibambelele, yenza ingqalelo, bonisa ukuba akayi kuba naphi na ehlabathini efanelekileyo kwaye ekhululekile njengoko esondele kuwe. Wena ngokwakho ngeke uqaphele ukuba oku kuya kutyuntsanisa njani ubomi bakho kunye, kwenze kube mnandi, buyele kumntu, kwaye kuya kuqinisa ubuhlobo bakho.

Ukuba umntu uvuma ukuba unomnye, kodwa nangaphantsi kwengcinezelo, cinga ukuba unokwenza okunye. Ukuqhayisa, ukuxabana apha akuyi kunceda, isigqibo esisodwa kuphela esifanelekileyo sifumanisa isizathu sokwenza loo nto kunye nokukhetha. Ukuba ungumvelisi, akukho nto enokuyenza malunga nayo. Musa ukutshiya indlu yakhe kwinqaba, ungammanga kwisihlalo, ngoko akabaleki ekukhangekeni kwe-adventure. Siza kufuneka sithathe, okanye sitshilo kuyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani. Kwaye ukuba ungeyibambe umntu wakho, baneliswe ngumyalelo, okanye ufumene lowo wayehlala ekhangela kwaye akazange abone ngaphakathi kuwe. Emva koko ungamxineli, umcengele ukuba angamthinteli ikamva kunye naye ongenakukubona. Hayi, ewe, unokuzama ukuyibuyisela, kubonakala kungcono, uqonde uhlobo lunikazi eliyidingayo kwaye abe njalo. Kodwa kuya kuba ngumdlalo, kwaye awukwazi ukudlala le nxaxheba kuyo yonke impilo yakho, ukuze umgcine esondele. Ngexesha elithile, ukuguquka kuya kwenzeka, kwaye ngoko awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, kufuneka ubeke imiphumo. Kwihleko lomnye umntu, ulonwabo alunakuze lwakhiwe. Ngoko mhlawumbi kungcono ukuba ungazitholi, kwaye uzenzele ngoku ngoku, ukuze uqhubeke ufumane unonwabo lokwenene?

Yaye, ukuba phantsi kwengcinezelo umntu uyavuma ukuba abe nomnye-into enokuyenza kuthi, akhohlisiwe? Eqinisile, melana neemeko uze uhambe. Into eyona nto ayiyikuba yintlungu yokuxinezeleka, ayincedi nabani na, kodwa yandisa nje imeko. Yenza le meko ingabi buhlungu kuwe, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, ujonge. Emva kwakho konke, ngaphambi kokuba uvule i-horizons entsha. Ngoku unayo ihora elitsha. Okokugqibela unokuziqonda ukuba awunayo ngaphambili. Ukhululekile kwaye unokwenza enye into, zama into entsha. Ihlabathi lonke livulekile kuwe. Yazi, ufanelwe okulungileyo kunye neyona nto ikulungele phambili, kunye nomntu ongakuthandiyo kwaye akayikukuxabisa, ngoko akazange alwe nawe kwaye akwenzanga lula. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, akusiyo yonke loo nto, umkhuseli wakho kunye nokumkani ngokuthe ngqo. Yilungiselele utshintsho oluthile, utshintshe isitayela, umfanekiso, isangqa soqhagamshelwano, indawo yokuphumla, ubhalisele uqeqesho oluthile, iikhosi ziya kunceda umdlalo omtsha, okanye mhlawumbi ufunde incwadi entsha apho izandla ezingazange zifike khona. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu kufuneka afunde indlela yokuzithandayo, ngoko lo thando luyakudonsela uthando olutsha kuwe. Ngoko ke, into engenziwanga ebomini, yonke into eyenziwa kuphela ngenzuzo yekamva lethu.