Uninazala nomalokazana-ulwalamano - ubudlelwane phakathi kwabasetyhini ababini abahlala bekhula ngendlela engcono. Ngaphandle kobugcisa bendoda, umzekelo, kwiingcamango kunye namazwi, olu dlelwane ludibeneyo (umama-mkhwenkwe kwisitofu, ukuba inja ekhoneni, okanye-ukusuka kumamazala kambe uya kuphazamisa iinyembezi) apho umkhwenyana uhlala emele khona.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwizigaba zokuqala zobomi bentsapho bentwana kunenani elaneleyo leengxabano kunye noninazala. Maxa wambi iimbambano aziyekanga iminyaka emininzi. Kunzima umalokazana ukuba asindise uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo luka-mkhwenkwe wakhe, owathi, ukusuka ekuphakameni kwamava akhe okuphila, ubona ukuba unokuphazamisa ebomini kwintsapho eselula. Ukongezelela, ukuphikisana phakathi komkhwekazana nomkhwekazi kubangelwa ukungabikho kokuguqulwa kweembono malunga nokulima, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana kunye nokunye okuninzi. Kwaye, ngokusemthethweni, simele sikhumbule inyaniso eyaziwayo - akukho bantu abafanayo kwihlabathi, ngoko ke iimbono ezifanayo.
Ewe, akulula ukuba ngumkhwekazi, kodwa kuphela xa ungayeki umona kumfazi wakhe. Kodwa yonke into inokuyenza kakuhle xa utshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kumkhwenyana wakho. Ewe, kunzima, kodwa unkosikazi uze ungene endlwini, kwintsapho yakho umntu omtsha. Indlela oyakha ngayo ubudlelwane ukususela ekuqaleni, kuya kuba. Thatha lo mfazi njengokuba uya kuba, njengoko unomntwana wakho. Uyamthanda - ulungile kunye naye kwaye uyavuya. Yaye yintoni enye into umama ayifunayo lonwabo, njengokuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uyavuya. Yenza umalokazana intombi, kwaye uya kuhlala uqaphela zonke iziganeko kwaye akaze ashiywe yodwa. Emva kwakho konke, sele unesithakazelo esifanayo - kukunyamekela kwonyana wakho, intsapho yakhe inhlalakahle.
Indlela yokulungisa ingxabano phakathi komfazi noninazala? Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba ukungavumelani phakathi kwentombi nomkhwekazi banxulumene nenkcaso rhoqo - mna. Nantoni na umalokazana wakhe, uninazala akanjalo. I-washing machine ihlamba iphosakeleyo, ayiyikuyicima, ngelizwi elinye into yonke imbi. Amantombazana kunye nomalokazana nabo baphosakele xa bezama ukukhupha umkhwekazi wabo, kwaye nangomdla wokubonisa inzondelelo. Ukuziphatha okungahambi kakuhle xa umama-mkhwekazi nomalokazana beqala ukukhononda kumyeni wabo-ndoda. Akuyi kubakho nantoni na.
Ukuba uphulaphule abafazi abaye baphila iminyaka engaphezu kweyishumi emtshatweni, kuyacaca ukuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana iresiphi ngqo yolwalamano lwakho. Simele sizame ukuthanda umama-mkhwenkwe, simhlonele - nguye ozala waza wakhulisa indoda yakho ethandekayo.
Ingxaki inzima kakhulu ukuba kukho imibuzo engaphezulu kuneempendulo. Kuzo zonke iintsapho, yonke into iyagqitywa ngendlela yayo. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba umalokazana ukuba angene endlwini kwaye athathe indawo yakhe, kwaye uninazala uya kunzima ukudibanisa nale meko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kulungile ukuhlala ngokwahlukileyo. Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kungekhona njalo, kuqhubeka, ukugcina ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo. Kwaye ukuba intsapho iya kuhlala phantsi kophahla olufanayo nabazali babo, ke kukho ingxaki yabasetyhini ababini kwikhikhini enye. Kwaye kwintsapho enjalo kukho umbuzo wokuseka imithetho emitsha yokuziphatha, kwaye oku akulula.
Mhlawumbi imeko eqhelekileyo. Umntu wokuqala uhlala emncinane, kwaye umama onakekelayo uhlala elawula isinyathelo ngasinye. Iminqweno yakhe iya kwinto yonke-impilo, apho baya kuphumla baze baye kumbala wephepha lodonga. Kwaye ukuba umama onjalo ehlala nabantu abancinci kwindlu enye, uya kuhlala engena egumbini lakho kwaye angenza nantoni na ayifunayo. Sula uthuli, gubungela umbhede uze uphinde ukhubeke, ukuba akukho mntu uyayixabisa. Iingcebiso eziphambili kumkhwenyana-mkhwenkwe kule meko akuyi kuhamba isikhalazo kumyeni wakhe ngunina. Thetha naye uze uvakalise uluvo lwakho.
Indoda ayinakukwazi ukulungisa ingxabano phakathi kwabasetyhini ababini ngunina nomfazi wakhe, yiyo inyaniso. Kule meko, ilungu elenzakalisekileyo, elijongene nokukhetha. Uya kuba neentloni, kodwa akayi kukhetha. Yaye ukuba ukhetho luya kubaleka, umtshato uya kulahla.
Iingcali zengqondo zithi - umntu akufanele angene kwiingxaki kwiintsapho ngokwemigaqo yelungelo kunye netyala. Makhe sizame ukuqonda, ngenxa yeemeko zobomi zinengxaki ebudlelwaneni phakathi komalokazana nomkhwekazi.
Abafazi ababini bokuqala bahlula indoda enye kunye nesibini - indawo kwintsapho, ukuhanjiswa kweendima, kukho umona kunye nomnqweno wokuqeda umchasi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo kubalulekile ukuba uvumelane kwaye uqonde ukuba yeyiphi indawo ehlala kuyo. Kunzima, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Nazi ezinye iingcebiso kumamazala, indlela yokuphepha iingxabano. Hlonipha ukhetho lwenyana, uyavuya nomfazi kwaye kufuneka umthabathe ukuba ngubani. Zama ukunika iingcebiso zakho kuphela xa ucelwa ukuba wenze njalo. Nika ithuba kumntu omncedayo ukuba ayenze, uya kuqhubeka ecinezela ngombono wakhe, kwaye ingxabano iya kuphepheka. Ungalokothi ukhalaze ngeentombi zomntwana wakho. Sombulula bonke kunye nentombi-mkhwenkwe, yena emva kwayo yonke inqanaba kunye nawe unelungelo lokuvota kwintsapho. Yaye xa abazukulu bevela, ufumana isikhundla sikakhulukazi. Le nto ixanduva, kodwa ayikuniki ilungelo lokuthatha imisebenzi yomama. Zama ukuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha umama onomntwana. Emva kokuba uMarlene Dietrich wathi: "Ukuba uziva unamaphiko emva kwamagxa akho, unako umama-mkhwenkwe omuhle" Kunzima ukuba umninawazana wakho unombono ofanayo.
Kwaye kufuneka ukuba umalokazana enze ntoni, ukuze ubudlelwane noninazala bathatheke. Kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba ungena kwintsapho apho kukho inkosikazi, kunye nemithetho ethile yasekhaya, kwaye kufuneka ufunde indlela yokubahlonela. Ngexesha lempikiswano, gcina umlinganiselo womphefumlo kunye nokunyamezela. Musa ukukhononda kumyeni wakho ngomamazala wakho, oku kudla ngokukhokelela ekugqibeleni imeko. Sombulula ingxabano ngokwakho kwaye ungabandakanyi umyeni kuwo.
Musa ukuxoxa nomamazala wakho ubuhlobo phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakho. Musa ukutyhola umkhwe wakho ukuba akhulise kakubi umlingane wakho. Yakha ubuhlobo bakho naye, wakhetha. Hlonipha amava obomi bomama-mkhwenkwe ngenhlonipho. Iseluleko sakhe ekwenzeni ishishini sinokukunceda kuwe. Kwaye ekuzalweni komntwana, khawuleza ubeke indawo yokuqala kwindawo yokukhulisa umntwana. Futhi ungalibali ngokuhlonipha umntu omdala.
Indlela yokulungisa ingxabano phakathi komfazi noninazala? Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungakhohlwa ukuxolela nokucela ukuxolelwa. Ngubani ozilumko ukwenza okokuqala. Uxolo endlwini luyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yolonwabo lwabesetyhini.