Enyanisweni, ubukho bobuhlobo bokwenene kwihlabathi elithengileyo liyimfihlelo kubantu abaninzi, ukuba bavuke ekuseni, baqale ukuba baqhube amazinyo abo, kodwa vula ikhompyutha. Kubantu abanjalo, ulwalamano lwangempela luqala ukunciphisa imiyalezo "KwiNxibelelwano" nakwiiblogi, imimiselo kunye namanqaku "Ndiyathanda". Kodwa ngaba ulwalamano esikuqonda ngale ndlela eqinisweni, okanye ingenye into ephosakeleyo yendawo.
Ngoko, okokuqala sifuna ukuchonga ukuba sisiphi ubudlelwane esisithethayo. Inyaniso kukuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane obunyanisekileyo. Banako, umzekelo, ukubizwa ngokuba: ukuhambelana nokunyaniseka, ukungahambelani ngokukodwa kunye nokunyaniseka, okungahambelani ngokupheleleyo.
Uthini umahluko, kwaye ngubani na ongabonwa njengokwenene?
Ubudlelwane obuhlobene nokunyaniseka. Kule nqanaba, sibheka ukunxibelelana nabo bantu abangaziwa nje kuphela, kodwa nakwihlabathi langempela. Ngokomzekelo, sinabo bahlobo esibaxoxela nabo ngaphezu konyaka omnye, kodwa ke ubomi basasazeka kwiidolophu ezahlukeneyo. Kule meko, unxibelelwano kufuneka luxhaswe nge-intanethi, i-Skype okanye i-ICQ. Kodwa, ukuthetha nomntu, ngokusebenzisa iileta kunye nempawu, siyazi ukuba unemvakalelo yangempela xa efunda umyalezo. Kithina, abantu abanjalo abakhona nje kuphela kwifom yee-avatars. Siyakhumbula kwihlabathi lenene, siyazi indlela abahleka ngayo, indlela abacaphukisa ngayo, indlela abazonwabisa ngayo. Oko kukuthi, ngamanye amazwi, bangokoqobo, abathathu-ntathu. Ukuqhagamshelana nabo, akudingeki sicinge nantoni na ukudala ingcamango, kuba sele sineenkcukacha ezaneleyo. Ukunxibelelana nabahlobo abanjalo kwihlabathi elithe tye kubaluleke kakhulu kunomnqweno. Akunakukwazi ukudibana nabo kwilizwe lokwenyaniso ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ngoko ke, iileta, izityumfa kunye neefoto zisinceda silahlekelwe ngantoni naxa sihlukaniswe ngamakhulu kunye namawaka amakhilomitha. Ulwalamano olunjalo olunokwenene lunokuthiwa luyinyani. Ukongezelela, azinjalo ngokwenene, kuba zivela kwixesha elide loqhagamshelwano.
Ubudlelwane obuhlobene ngokukodwa kunye nenyaniso. Eli candelo libandakanya amatyala apho abantu baqhelana nabo kwihlabathi lenene, kodwa abanxibelelwano ixesha elide, kwaye ke, baqhubeka bexhulumana ngokukodwa. Ngokomzekelo, oku kwenzekayo xa abantu beqhelana nabaqeqeshi, kwiikonkethi, kwiindawo zokuphumla, bafumana iimfuno eziqhelekileyo, kwaye batshintshe iidilesi zabo kunye namanani. Ngeemeko ezinjalo, sinokuthi sitsho ukuba sinomdla wokwenene kumntu, kodwa asikwazi ukuthetha ukuba siyazi le nto okanye loo mntu. Ngenxa yoko, xa sithetha kwi-Intanethi, sithembele kwiimkumbulo zethu zomntu size sizame ukubonisa indlela abaphendula ngayo nokuziphatha. Ewe, kulo mzekelo kukho kakade ukukholelwa. Sekunzima ukufunda nokuqonda umntu kwiiveki ezimbalwa, okanye iintsuku ezimbalwa. Konke kuxho mekeke kangakanani kumntu onyanisekileyo kwaye evulekileyo kubonxibelelwano olufanelekileyo. Ukuba uziphatha ngendlela efanayo, ngoko, ngokusekelwe kwiingxelo zakhe, umntu unokufumana izigqibo ezichanekileyo ngokuthe ngqo malunga nokuba ungubani umntu. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba kwi-correspondence umntu uvala, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uziphatha ngokukhululekile, kunokuba ebomini. Kule meko, kufuneka sizenzele ngokwenene ukuba yinyani kwaye ingaba kukufanelekile ukukholwa yonke into ebhalwe ngulo mntu.
Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho amaxesha apho umntu eziphatha ngokufanayo nakwihlabathi eliyinyani kunye neyona nyaniso. Kuyabonakala ngento kunye nendlela abhala ngayo, indlela aphendula ngayo kwiibinzana zakho kunye namazwi. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungumhlobo nomntu onjalo, ngoko ulwalamano, oluninzi, lunokuthiwa yinyani. Into ephambili, ungaze uzame ukusungula umfanekiso kunye nomnqweno wokudibanisa. Ukuba uyazi kakuhle ngokwaneleyo ngexesha loqhagamshelwano lokwenene, ungalibali malunga nalo kwaye ungamhluli umntu onomntu othetha naye kwi-intanethi.
Ubudlelwane obungahambelani ngokupheleleyo kunye nenyaniso. Olu hlobo lunokuthi lubekwe ngqo kwiimeko apho abantu abangabonakali ebomini ngexesha elilodwa, baqhelane kwiinkonzo zentlalo kwaye baqhagamshelane. Ngaba ulwalamano olunjalo luyinyani? Mhlawumbi kwenzeka, kodwa kungekhona rhoqo njengoko sifuna. Inyaniso kukuba ngokumazi umntu onokuthi, ungumfanekiso nje kuthi, singakwazi ukuxolelana nayo ngoko, sicinga kuye oko sifuna ukuba kuyimfuneko. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku, okwenyani, akunjalo. Kodwa, ihlabathi elona li sinceda senze ulwalamano lobuhlobo kunye nokuthanda ubudlelwane, apho abo banqongophala bokwenene benxibelelwano abafuni ukuphula.
Ngenxa yoko, ngokuqhelekileyo abantu abaqhelana nabo kwaye banxibelelana kuphela kwi-virtual, ngokupheleleyo abahambelani nomfanekiso osungulwe. I-intanethi ibancedisa ukuba babe bhetele, bahle kwaye banokuzithemba ngakumbi. Kunqabile kakhulu xa umntu engazami ukubonakala ngomnye umntu ukukholisa umnxibelelwano okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukubonakalisa amandla abo nobukhulu.
Ukuba sithetha ngothando oluthile, ke le ntliziyo inokuthiwa yinyani kuphela kwiimeko ezizimeleyo. Vumelana, ukuba ucingisisa ngoku, umntu omdala okwaneleyo akanakukuthanda kuphela umfanekiso. Ufuna ukuziva umntu, jonga iimvakalelo zakhe, uzive uthanda. Ngelishwa, iifoto "VKontakte" azikwazi ukusinika le mvakalelo. Ngako oko, ukuthetha ngothando olungqinileyo, sitsho nje ngamaphupha ethu kunye neengcamango, esingaziqondi ebomini bethu.