Kuyabonakala ngendlela ekhangele ngayo, nokuzama ukufihla amehlo akhe kwaye kubonakale engenandaba. Oku kungabonakala kwimisebenzi yakhe, xa ephosakele okanye ebonakalayo, ngokukratshi, uyathinta isandla sakhe. Oku kubonakala kwiimeko zakhe ezilahlekileyo zokufihlakeleka, xa umfazi ephuma ezandleni zakhe. Enyanisweni, ukuba indoda ifuna ukuba sisondele kumfazi, uhlala efuna ukufumana uvakalelo kunye nentlungu. I-Psychology kunye nomtsalane wezinto eziphathekayo kusenza sizame ukuthetha nabo bathetha kakhulu kunathi. Indoda inokuhlala ilahlela imvakalelo yakhe, ithi umfazi uyamcaphukisa, kodwa iimpawu ezingathethiyo zithetha ngokungafaniyo. Umzekelo, xa umntu ethanda umfazi, uzama ukuthatha indawo engekude naye. Kodwa ukuba abanye bangaziqondi iimvakalelo zakhe, uthatha indawo engekho ngaphaya kwayo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, ukuba wayebonakala. Indoda ifuna ukubheka umthandi wayo. Oku akumangalisi, kuba umthandayo uhlala ekholisa iliso. Kodwa, ukuba ubukele lo mntu, uzama ukufihla amehlo akhe, ukuze kungabikho mntu uqikelele ngothando. Ngako oko, umfana ubonakala ngathi ephuma kwi-podsteshka, kwaye xa umntu ebeka ingqalelo kuye, uzama ukubheka ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abaselula bacinga ukuba banokuzifihla iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa baqhubeka bezimela. Kubalulekile ukuba ngumntu onentsimbi kunye nesithintelo sokujonga rhoqo imizwa yabo. Akunamadoda amaninzi akwaziyo oku, ngenhlanhla, okanye ngelanga.
Ukuba unemibuzo enjalo, ngoko ufuna ukuqonda isimo sengqondo somfana othile okanye enye intombazana. Ngokuzibonakalisa izinto ezahlukeneyo kunye nesibonakaliso sobuso, isazi sengqondo seengqondo singakwazi ngokukhawuleza ukucacisa iimvakalelo zomntu, nokuba uyazifihla ngokucophelela. Ukuba uyakrokrela ukuba uthanda umntu okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, enye intombazana ithanda intombi yakho, jonga indlela eziphatha ngayo kwinkampani yendodakazi. Oku akuthethi ukuba umfana uza kwenza konke ukuze aphe izipho aze adibanise ngasemva kwakhe, kodwa, akuyiyo imbono, uya kuzibonakalisa.
Okokuqala, qaphela ukuba kaninzi ukhangele intombazana emehlweni kwaye uchaze le ngcamango nayiphi na imizwa. Abathandayo bazame ukubheka kude, kuba emehlweni abo iimvakalelo zovuyo zifundwa ngokucacileyo, xa zijonge umntu othandekayo. Ukuba umntu kunye nenjongo yakhe yokuhamba ehamba esitalatweni, uzama ukusondeza kuye, kodwa angasondeli, ekholelwa ukuba iya kutyhila iimvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba intombazana icela into ethile, loo mntu, ngokuqhelekileyo, uzenza ngathi akafuni ukuthanda ukuzalisekisa isicelo, kodwa ke, yonke into isenza njalo. Uyilandela ngokukhawuleza ukuziphatha kwamanye amadoda, okubonakalayo ukusuka ekuziphatheni nangokuzijonga, kodwa uhlala ethule. Ukuba umfana uyaqaphela ukuba intombazana ibonisa iimpawu zengqalelo kwelinye, akayikuyixabisa kwaye ikhangele kude, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ijonge ngenyameko, ngaphandle kokukhupha amehlo. Kwakhona, unokubona ukuba uyabamba amaqatha okanye alahle amazinyo akhe. Kuyo yonke imibuzo, abantu abaselula kwiimeko ezinjalo, baphendule kuphela ngamahlaya okanye bacele ukuba bangawunaki, ngokuzenzekelayo bazenzela ukuba konke kulungile. Mhlawumbi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, kule meko, indoda inika umnqweno wokungabi nandaba. Uzama kanzima ukudlala indima yakhe, ngoko izenzo zakhe zibukeka zingekho ngokwemvelo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, iyakwazi ukuphawulwa ngabo baziyo kakuhle okanye bajonge ngokugqithiseleyo.
Kwiimeko ezinje, abantu abaselula abazange babizelwe ukuba babone amantombazana, kodwa bazama ukulinganisa imeko ukwenzela ukuba le nxaxheba iwele kubo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, loo mfana akayithathi ibhinqa ngesandla kwaye akayi kuthetha naye malunga nantoni na ebusondeleyo. Uzama ukuziphatha ngokuzimeleyo okanye ukunganaki, ezenza ngathi ufuna ukubuyela kwenkampani ngokukhawuleza. Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukugweba iimvakalelo, kodwa kunokwenzeka, umzekelo, ngethuba, ukucebisa ukuba uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Kungenzeka ukuba uyavuma ngaphandle kokuthabatha, kodwa uya kuhlala kunye nentombazana njengoko ayifunayo kwaye akayi kubonisa igama okanye isenzo sokuba unomnqweno omncinane wokushiya. Amadoda asinamandla ngokomoya njengoko ezama ukubonakala. Ngokuchasene noko, abafana banobuthakathaka kunamantombazana. Abazi indlela yokulwa neemvakalelo zabo ngasemva kwento yokububula, ubuncinane ngelixa intombazana icela into ethile okanye inika into ethile. Kude, abafana banokuthetha ngenzondo enzulu abavakalelwa ngayo le ntombazana, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo, xa bezitholana ngokubhekelana, bathetha ngokuchaseneyo. Kungenxa yokungahambisani nokuziphatha komntu ukuba kulula ukuqiqa ngokunyanisekileyo, iimvakalelo kunye namava okwenyaniso.
Kungenxa yoko, ukuba indoda ifuna ukuba sisondele kwindodakazi, ke kukufanelekile ukuba sijonge nantoni na into ayithethayo kwaye yenzayo. Namazwi kunye nemibandela echazwa yile mfana inokumngcatsha. Inyani kukuba umfana uzama ukuthobela ingqalelo intombazana. Uziphatha kakuhle ukuze axabise ezinye zezinga eliphezulu. Nangona ukuba i-swagg, kodwa le nsizwa iyayiqwalasela into yayo, uya kuyinyamekela.
Ukufihla uthando, ngokwenene, buhlungu kakhulu kwaye bunzima. Yingakho, nangona xa bekunye nebhinqa abathandayo, abafana bahlala bexhala kwaye bekrakra. Kuthetha nje ukuba iimvakalelo zifikelela kumda ophezulu kwaye azikwazi ukujamelana nazo. Oku kubangela ukuba abanye bacinga ukuba intsha iphatha intombazana kakhulu. Enyanisweni, uyazonda, kodwa kungekhona yena, kodwa yena ngokwakhe. Yaye makabe esetyenzisile yonke into efika engqondweni yakhe, iimvakalelo zangempela zihlala zifundwa kwiimbono kunye nezenzo, kuloo mvakalelo ephosa ebusweni bakhe. Ukuba indoda ifuna ukuba sisondele kumfazi, ngoko uyayifuna.