1. "Ndiyabonga, ndithandekayo, ukuba ufuna ukundinceda ndihlambuluke, kodwa ndiya kwenza ngokukhawuleza kunoko ..."
Ibhinqa eliqeshwe kumveliso okanye isiko kunzima ukuhlambulula indlu. Eli li shishini elixakekayo, ezama ukuyenza yonke into ngokukhawuleza, akusibulumko ukuchitha amandla ayo. Akuyimfuneko ukugatya uncedo lomntu xa ufuna ukuba ngandlela-thile uncede, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungathandabuzeki amandla akhe okukwenza ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa umntu unokucinga ukuba akahambisani nawe ngandlela-thile, kwaye ukugatya kwakho akuxeleli oko. Kungcono ukumnika into ethile kwiindawo zakho ezixakekileyo, musa ukuma emphefumlweni wakhe, kwaye usebenzise ixesha lokukhulula lokulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa. Kodwa qiniseka ukubulela umntu wakho ngenxa yesi sifiso ukukunceda.
2. "Ndiyilula, ukuba uyakwazi ukulungisa umbhobho ovuzayo."
Ngandlela-thile ungabonakalisa ukuphazamiseka kwakho xa wayenako ukwenza into yendlu ngaphandle koxhaswa ngumcebisi othe wamenywa. UDkt Casey uthi ukutshatyalaliswa kwakho kuya kubangela ukubetha okubonakalayo ekuthandeni kwakhe. Amadoda ayifuni ukuba abafazi bawo baqiniseke ukuba babo "abathandanayo." Baya kuvuyela ukuva: "Unomhle kwaye unengqiqo, kunye nejack yazo zonke izinto. Ndiyabona ukuba ndiyatshatile kakhulu. "Ukuncoma kwakho kobuninzi bakhe buza kubonisa ukuba akahlali nje elele embhedeni.
3. "Nguwe kuphela umntu onokuthetha naye."
Umntu akafuni ukuba ngumntu oyedwa umhlobo wakho, umama u -tratra. Musa ukumxanduva ngeemithwalo ezixinekileyo zengqondo: "Ukuba yinkqubo yodwa yokuxhaswa yinto enengcinezelo enkulu kuye," uthi umlingani womtshato onikwe ilayisenisi kunye nodokotela wentsapho uKarinGoldstein. Ngenxa yempembelelo enamandla, akwanele ukusho ukuba ungumntu oyithandayo. Zama ukumqinisekisa ukuba nangona unethuba lokuthetha nomama kunye nabahlobo nanini na, nguye umphulaphuli obalaseleyo. Kuyamnandi ukuthetha naye. Umnqweno wakhe wokuba luncedo ukudlala kunye namazwi akho, ukuba uyayixabisa kakhulu imbono yakhe.
4. "Esi sipho asikho kwintetho yam, kodwa ndiya kufumana isicelo sayo."
Ndiyabulela ngokunyamekela. Kodwa ungazami ukuzithumela kuye unina isipho sakhe sokugcina - umxokelelo awakhethile kwiDyusyasvyatogo Valentine. Indoda iya kutshatyalaza kwaye ithi ayiyazi indlela yokukrazula. Uthi: "Kuya kuba yinto ebomvu ebusweni," kusho uGoldstein. "Akayi kuzama ukukunika nayiphi na ixesha elizayo." Memezela ububele bomntu wakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unxibe umnikelo wakhe. Ngaphambi kwimeko ekhethekileyo elandelayo, unobtrusively utshele ivenkile into ongathanda ukuyifumana.
5. "Ndiyathanda isisu sakho kunye ne vyalyemuskuly."
Kodwa ukuba indoda yindoda yangeve izova inzondelelo yakho yee cubes zenkampani yokushicilela kaRyan Gosling, udibanisa kwiimvakalelo kwaye akayi kukwazi, ukuqinisekisa. UDkt. Brochet ukumema ukuba utshele iqabane lakho ukuba ungumlingani omele wena kunye nobaba onomdla wabantwana, kwaye ukuba naye akukho nto ithelekisa "ukuphosa" kunye nezihlunu ezinkulu, egxile kuye ngokwakhe. Oku kuya kumvumela ukuba aqonde into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe, ukuba iyahambelana nokuthanda kwakho.
6. "Wena ungcono kakhulu ..."
Indoda ilungile kunye nawe embhedeni, kodwa akafuni ukwazi malunga namaqabane akho angaphambili. Ngokukhawuleza ukhumbule bonke aba bantu uze uqale ukuthelekisa. Ukuzibonakalisa ngokucacileyo ngokwabo embhedeni, zihambelane namava athile ezesondo, abanjwe naye. UDkt Broch uncoma ukuthetha ukuba uyavuya xa evakalelwa. Ukugxininiswa kulwalamano lwenziwa kumlingani, kungekhona ngokuthelekiswa okuqhelekileyo.