Phantse onke amabhinqa ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva abhekane nengxaki enjengobudlelwane bendoda kwaye engaziqhelwanga ukulandelelana. Akunandaba nantoni na ukuba uhlala kunye neplumber, umprogram okanye umntu oshishino ophumelelayo-umphumo ungenye: ukunyanzelana ngenxa yento ebenokubonakala iyingqungquthela kwaye ibonakala ihlekisayo.
Ngaba akuyinyani, ukugcina indlu, xa umphathi wakho ehlela i-ashtrays kunye neengqayi ze-cigaret, ama-mugs anesityalo esithe sinyama, apho umphefumlo unqwenela khona, iisokhe zitholakala kwindawo engalindelekanga, iifake ezihlambulukileyo zixutywe kwaye zihlanjwe kwaye zenziwe zikhuni kakhulu. Imibuzo engathandabuzekiyo yindoda: "Ndiyayithanda, uyayikhumbula apho ndibeka khona igalofu yam emnyama ngezolo kwaye ngaba ndinayo iisokisi ezihlambulukileyo kunye neengqungquthela?" Ukuba uhambela le mihla ngehlazo, ukhumbule i-anecdote apho umyeni, xa elungiselela umboniso, akakwazi ukufumana i-suit kunye neempumlo ebhokisini eneenenjini ekukhangela ubuncwane. Kuloo nto umfazi wayezibuza ukuba kutheni wayegqoke i-panties kwaye loo ndlela yindlela yokubonisa abathembekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukusuka ngaphandle kubonakala buhle, kodwa apha uhlala ujikelezwe ngama-socks alahlekileyo, amaqhekeza ebhedini kunye ne-gorgryaznoy izitya, abambalwa baya kufumana ukuzonwabisa.
Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Unokuba uhlekisayo kule ngxaki uninzi njengoko uthanda, kodwa makhe sibone ukuba kutheni le nto yenzeka.
Ukuba siyakuqwalasela ukuba sonke sivela kwizilwanyana, kuyacaca ukuba nayiphi na into, ingaba ikhompyutha, igumbi, imoto okanye indlu, ummeli wesigxina esisisiseko sabantu uhlola njengepropati yabo. Ukuba sikhumbula ukuba kwindalo, amadoda, ngandlela-thile, bhala indawo yabo kwaye babhale ukufanisa, kuyacaca ukuba iisokisi zashiya ngaphantsi kwefa, inkomfa engahlambulukanga ecaleni kwekhompyutheni nezinye izinto ayikho enye into yokuba umzamo wokumakisha ummandla wayo kwaye ubonise intshaba ngubani umphathi wale meko.
Kodwa abafazi, bengayiqondi kakuhle imeko, cinga ukuba umntu usasaza izinto zakhe, kuba akayikuyixabisa intuthuzelo kunye nokucoceka esiqingatha sesibini esilandelayo.
Kwiingqungquthela ezininzi zamabhinqa apho le ngxaki ixoxwa khona, abathathi-nxaxheba kwingxoxo-ngcibiliko kunye ne-semi-bongoza bathetha ukuba bayeke ukucoca endlwini, ukuba bangahlamba izitya, ukuba baqoke iisoksi phantsi kunye nezinye izinto ezincinci ezilungele kule ndawo, izitya ezingatshitshiweyo ziza kutshintshwa kwisiqingatha setafile yokutya. Iseluleko esinokuphosakela singabandakanywa kwisinconywa sokuphosa izinto ezingezodwa, ngqo kwiwindow.
Ngaba ulungele ukuphulaphula ezi ngcebiso eziphosa? Akukhuthazwa, kuba umntu akanakukuxabisa amalinge akho okudala, uya kukhubeka okanye ayeke ukuthetha nawe nonke.
Indlela yokusombulula ingxaki?
Into yokuqala yokukhumbula kukuba indoda yakho ayinayo amandla omlingo ne-telepathic, kwaye oku kuthetha ukuba ukuze aqonde oko akuhambelani ngokukodwa, kufuneka umxelele ngqo ngoku. Yazi ukuba umntu onobuqili akanakucingela ukuba kutheni uthetha naye ngelizwi. Inketho ebalulekileyo kulo mzekelo unokuba yisigqibo esilandelayo: bonisa isangqa sakho ozithandayo, phantsi apho ungabona khona i-rest of tea kunye kwaye ubuze ukuba kuyonwaba ukubona oku kuhlazo. Ukuba akukho mnqweno wokusela itiye kwisangqa esifanayo, akavuki kwakhona, mcele ukuba ahlambe izitya aze azibeke emzimbeni. Le ndoda, ukukhwaza kancinci, yazalisekisa isicelo sakho? Musa ukulibala ukudumisa wakho othembekileyo ngenxa yezinto ezilungileyo.
Kulula kakhulu ukusombulula ingxaki yokuhlula ukuhlamba okuhlambulukileyo. Ekugqibeleni kuyimfuneko ukwabela ibhasikidi okanye ibhokisi, apho ungathumela khona iisokisi ezingcolileyo, i-T-shirts, i-sweaters. Buza umntu wakho ukuba athumele zonke iimpahla ezifuna ukuhlamba, ngqo kummandla owabiwe. Chaza ukuba ngenye indlela awuyi kuba nako ukugqiba ukuba kusekho iisokisi ezicocekileyo nokuba ngaba uya kukwazi ukubeka ishati esitsha kusasa.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bayakhalaza ukuba abanakufumana enye yesibini kwiqela ngalinye. Kule meko, kukho isisombululo esilula, kodwa esingaphantsi kwesisombululo: yabela inani elithengileyo kwaye uthenge amasokisi amnyama angama-15-20 kuwo. Le ngqokelela inokuhlanjululwa ngee-2-3 zibini zeesokisi zombala ohlukileyo, umzekelo, i-gray. Khawucinge ukuba kuya kuba lula kangakanani "ukutshabalalisa" iisokisi - ngoku awukuze ufune ukuba yeyiphi na into ekunene, kwaye ngubani-ngakwesobunxele. Kodwa ukwenzela ukuba indoda yonke intsasa ingafuni ukuba ikhangele iisokisi, yabela ilahleko eyahlukileyo kubo kwisifuba sabadwebi.
Njengama-T-shirts angcolileyo, i-T-shirts, i-panties, kuyimfuneko ukufundisa indoda ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye ukubeka iimpahla ezingcolileyo kwindawo kwaye emva kokubonisa ukubeka izinto ezintsha. Kuyafana nakweemikhati kunye neengqimba. Ukuze bangabi kuhlamba imihla ngemihla, fundisa othandekayo wakho ukuba agqoke i-sweater, i-turtleneck okanye ihembe kwi-Maika.
Kodwa ukuba kwakungekho mpikiswano kumhlaba wasemakhaya, imisebenzi yemveli yendlu kufuneka ihlulwe phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Umzekelo, umyeni wakhe unokuhlawuliswa ngokuhlamba izitya, uthabatha udoti kwaye usebenze kunye nococa umcoco. Ukuze indlu ibe yinkqubo epheleleyo, unokucoca ukucocwa ngokubambisana ngeeveki. Ukongezelela, ukuba izindlu zakho ziya kukhanya, vyeshche uze usondele ngakumbi kubathembekile bakho, kuba umsebenzi odibeneyo, njengokuba uyazi, ngaphandle kokuba intsimi inelisekile.
Ukuba umyeni wakho ulungele ukulandela le mithetho elula, kodwa esebenzayo, kwaye ungasithandi into ethile, khumbula ukuba kunabantu abambalwa abalungileyo kwihlabathi. Ngaba ungowabo kunye nomntu wakho akuzange afune ukukuxolela isiphoso esincinci sakho kungekhona isithunywa sezulu? Hlonipha omnye nomnye, kwaye umthando uya kuhlala ngonaphakade kwikhaya lakho.