Watshintsha. Point. Yintoni enokuyenza - intloko iyahamba. Andikwazi ukuxolela inkohlakalo - indlela yokuphila? .. Ewe, indlela yokwenza (ukuphindezela, inxalenye okanye ukuxolela), kukufikelela kuwe. Kule nqaku, iindidi ezininzi zokuphuhliswa kweemeko ziqwalaselwa, kwaye iingcali zengqondo zentsapho ziphawula ngamabali abathathu abaqhelekileyo besetyhini.
Kwaye itafile yombhede phakathi kweethedi.
"Ndagqiba ekubeni ndifake umtshato, xa ndifumanisa ukuba uVolodya wanditshintshana okwesibini ," kusho uKatyya, oneminyaka engama-32. - Omnye umntu wandixelele: umntu unokuhlala enika ithuba lesibini, kodwa akakho-wesithathu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba le nto iphakame kangakanani, kodwa xa kwenzeka okokuqala ngqa, sasincoko enkulu. Kodwa konke kwenzeka kwakhona. Kungcono ukuhlala wedwa kunomntu ongathembekanga! "
"Ukwahlukana ngenye yeengcinezelo ezinkulu," kusho u-Anna Kashina, isazi sengqondo seentsapho. - Yaye unokugqiba isigqibo esinjalo kwisigqibo esinjalo, kuphela ukulinganisa zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki. Njengoko kubonakala kwimbali, uCatherine wafika kwindawo apho kungekho nto ingathethi malunga nokuqhubeka kobudlelwane. Ewe, eli lilungelo lakhe kunye nokukhetha kwakhe. Into yokuqala ndiyilumkisa abathengi bam ukuvumela ukuhlambalaza. Kulula ukuphilisa ukuphikisa nokuqhawula umtshato. Ngenxa yoko, kukho uqeqesho olulula - cinga ngawe. Ngenye into. Le nyaniso. Ngoko yintoni. Wena-into enhle kakhulu, kunye nabahlobo bakho, umsebenzi kunye neemfuno - zahlala zifana! Khumbula oku kwaye uze ubuyele kwimeko leyo, uphonononge iinjongo zomyeni wakho, iimvakalelo zakho kunye nethemba. Ungesabi ukucinga okusebenzayo. Yenza ngendlela oziva ukhululekile, kulula kwaye enenzuzo ngakumbi. Musa ukucinga rhoqo malunga noko abanye baya kuthetha. "
Isiteji sokubuyela.
"Ndandinokukhulelwa okunzima, kwaye ndalala esibhedlele ixesha elide. Umyeni wayehlala ezisa izipho, kodwa uhlala apho ngokukhawuleza. Emva koko andinamathanga naluphi na ukubaluleka kulo, kodwa xa ndaya ekhaya kunye nosana, ndafumana utshintsho oluninzi kwigumbi , - iAllisa eneminyaka engama-35 ubudala. - Izitya zilungiswa kwakhona, isikhwama sam esithambiso siyacaca singenanto, kunye ne-shampoo yokuhlamba ne-chamomile yeenwele ezikhanyayo. Ngaphambi kweenyaniso ezinjalo, umyeni wam wavuma ukuba xa engekho, wayekhokela amantombazana ahlukeneyo. Ndandithukuthele kakhulu ndaza ndathumela isithombeni sakhe kwiwebhsayithi. Emva koko kwakumhle, kodwa ngoku am izenzo zam zibonakala zingamncinci kum . "
"Ngomzuzu wokuqala, wonke umntu ufuna ukwenza into yokuphindezela. Kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo! - u-Anna Kashina. "Ukuhlambalaza ukuba uziva buhlungu kwaye uqale ucinga ngokucaphukisa umyeni wakho okanye umchasi wakho, okanye uqale ukuya kwimbi." Kodwa, njengoko ibali likaLarisa libonisa ngokucacileyo, oku akukhokelela kukho nantoni na. Ukuze wenze isigqibo esibalulekileyo, sebenzisa isiluleko sezilumko zaseMpuma uze uphulaphule ukuphefumla kwakho. Ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emi-5 yiva ukuphefumla kwakho-ukuqonda okuya kubuyela kuwe. Impindezelo yindlela yokumelana nokuzikhusela, kodwa ukwaneliseka kwento eyenziweyo kulandelwa yintliziyo yecala. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuba uzigwebe kule nto? "
Ngetyeyile ecocekileyo.
"Xa uPetya eqala ukuhlala, ndicinga ukuba kukho into engalunganga kwaye wenza uvavanyo ," u-Xenia oneminyaka engu-25 ubudala. - Into yokuqala ndiyenyuka kwi fowuni kwaye ndafumana ngokukhawuleza i- SMS engaqhelekanga . Omnye uVolodya wabhala kuye: "Ndiyamanga." Emva koko ndathatha iphasiwedi yeposi yakhe kwaye ... Inyaniso yayicacile. Ukuze ndingabi ngudangele, ndagqiba kwelokuba ndithathe ikhefu kwaye ndaya kuhlala kunye nentombi yam. Kwiiveki ezimbini ndagqiba ekubeni ndixolele uPetya ngenxa yokunyanzela. Kwiminyaka emithathu ngoku siphila umphefumlo emphefumlweni, andiyikhumbuli nantoni na . "
"Ukuba uyathanda - uya kuxolela! Kule nto kukho inyaniso inyaniso, - u-Anna Kashina uthi. - Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba unako kwaye ufanele uyenze, makube njalo. Into ephambili - libale ngokunyaniseka kwaye uqale yonke into ukususela ekuqaleni! Okubizwa ngokuba yindlela yokuxolela iqulethwe ngamanyathelo athile. Okokuqala, kukho ukukhanyela ukunyaniseka ("akunakwenzeka"), ke umsindo ("Ndimthiyile!"), Emva kokukhupha ("andiyikhumbuli nto") kwaye kuphela ukuqonda ("Ewe, kwenzeka") kwaye ngokwenene ukuxolelwa. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ayinakuyeka nayiphi na inqanaba, kodwa ukuhamba yonke indlela. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba awukwazi ukuxolela ukunyelisa - indlela yokuphila? Intukuthelo ayiyi kukuphumla (kunye nomyeni wakho, omnye okanye umthandi omtsha). Abasetyhini abaza kum neengxaki ezifanayo, ndincoma amabini alula kakhulu. Into yokuqala ofuna ukuyisebenzisa kukuba uthi kuwe "yima." Xa uqala ukuziva uxolo - tshintshela kwenye into. Ekugqibeleni, ukufunda indlela yokulawula iimvakalelo zakho kunceda kakhulu. Ewe, into yesibili yokwenza ukuxolela umzuzu. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uya kuthanda inkululeko yenkululeko kangangokuba umzuzu uya kuhlala ngonaphakade. "
I-Typology ye "traitor".
Hunter
Isiqubulo sakhe silula: abafazi abaninzi bahle kwaye bahluke! Umzingeli akwanele omnye umfazi, unqwenela ulwahlulo kwaye akagcini ukunyaniseka, nokuba uthanda umlingane wakhe osemthethweni. Akunakuncedo ukubhenela isazela sakhe kwaye uzama ukuzisola. Nokuba uyamkela njengoko kunjalo, okanye ubaleke.
Umntwana ohluphekileyo
"Kwaye kwenzeka njengaye-andingazi, andingazi ... andiyikhumbuli nantoni na. Uhleli, kakuhle, ndisela, andinakukunceda "- zezi zizathu zokuba umntu onjalo. "Ewe, ndiyakuthanda, mntanami!" Uya kukuxelela aze abuye "ashiye." Ukuqhubeka nokuhlala nomntu onjalo, ungalibali ukuba kuya kuba nokusela okuninzi kokuselayo ebomini bakhe. Ngaba uya kuba nako "ukubamba" ngexesha elizayo?
Umyeni onobuhlungu
Utshatile ixesha elide kwaye ngoko ukhatywe bubabini ubudlelwane kunye nomfazi wakhe. Ubuqhetseba buya kubakho ubuninzi bexesha elilodwa, kodwa kungenakwenzeka. Kule meko, kungcono ukukhathala, uzibeke ngokwakho, uthenge ingubo yokulinganisa kwaye uphinde ubambe iqabane lakho. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ungadluli. Emva kwakho konke, wakho othembekileyo unokugqiba ekubeni ufumene indawo esikhundleni sakhe. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuqala konke kunzima.
Umntwana osemtsha
Unentsapho, umsebenzi ophezulu, indlu enkulu kunye nemoto. Kodwa oku akwaneleyo. Njengomntu oshishino ophumelelayo, inkosikazi imiselwe kuye. Ngaba uyavumelana nale miqathango? Yintoni enokuhlawula intlungu? Kwimeko nayiphi na, zama ukugxila ebomini bakho. Yenze ikhanyise kwaye izaliswe.
Iingcebiso zengcali.
Ukhohlakele ngenye yezona zibonakaliso ezintle kakhulu kwiingxaki ezinxulumene. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abasetyhini bemi kwindawo yokuba "bonke abantu bayatshintsha," kwaye uzame ngazo zonke iindlela zokuphelisa ukucaphuka, intlungu, ukudana. Esi simo sengqondo kumntu esimthandayo - kunye neemfuneko ezingaphantsi-kubonisa ukungabi nantoni. Uxolele okanye ungamxoleli? Akukho ziphakamiso ezingabonakaliyo. Kodwa kukho amanqaku amaninzi ukuphawula:
1. Kungcono ukuqala ngenxa yezizathu zobugovu: kwimeko apho uza kuzilimala kakhulu - ukuba ulwahlukileyo okanye ukuba ugcina ubudlelwane?
2. Musa ukukhokelwa ziinjongo ezilandelayo: "Andiyi kufumana umntu olungcono kunabo", "ofuna undi-20, 25, 30+", "apho ndiza kufumana khona umnotho."
3. Musa ukuzigxeka ngenxa yokungcatsha kwakhe.
4. Musa ukutshintsha isityholo somthandane wakho komnye umfazi: bathi, nguye okhohlisayo, unqabile, uyanyanzeliswa.
5. Awudingi ukugcina intsapho yakho ngenxa yabantwana. Abantwana abayidingi intsapho apho uyise nomama belula, ungathethi uze uzame ukulala ngexesha lamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
6. Musa ukuguqula ukuphindezela, "ukuze aqonde indlela endandiziva ngayo."
7. Ukukhathazeka malunga nokungcatshiswa, ukuzola: kuhle ukuba kwenzeke ngoku, kungekudala. Ubudlelwane bexesha elide kunye neqela labantwana, amafulethi kunye neemoto kunzima kunzima ukulidiliza.
8. Ungalibali ukukholwa ngothando! Awuthatanga ngokuhambelana nokubala?