Kutheni oku kwenzeka kuwe? Ngaba kukho na iimpazamo kule nto? Indlela yokuziphatha ukuba ungathembeki kwakhona? Imibuzo emininzi, mhlawumbi, ijikeleza entloko yakho, kwaye ke impendulo embalwa kubo. Xa uhlala ngobusuku obulandelayo kwaye ulila ngothando lwakho olunyathelisiweyo, kunzima kakhulu ukujonga izinto ngokufanelekileyo kwaye uhlalutye imeko yangoku. Kodwa, ndikholelwe, kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kufuneka uyenze, kuba awufuni ukuphindaphinda imeko ebuhlungu? Ngoku khawuqwalasele umbuzo: "Kutheni amadoda atshintsha?". Siza kungena kwi-psychology yomuntu.
Ewe, into yokuqala efika engqondweni yintetho ebhaliweyo yokuba bonke abantu batyityana ngokwemvelo. Ndikholelwe, bafazi, oku nje kukukhohlisa okugxininiswe kwiingcinga zamawaka amadoda kunye nabasetyhini abasebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo ukusebenzisa oku ukulungisa iimpazamo zabo. Akunakuphikiswa ukuba ookhokho bethu bamandulo, okhokho basendulo babenengqondo eyahlukileyo kunabantu banamhlanje. Ukuziphatha kwendoda yasendulo yayisisiseko, ubukhulu bobudlelwane bezentlalo buphantsi kangangokuba abantu basendulo baqhuba ubomi babo ngokwemithetho yendalo. Umntu - unobundlobongela, kufuneka avikele ilungelo lakhe ebomini, umgcini wesondlo, kunye nomzuli wentsapho. Umsebenzi wakhe kukuvelisa ezininzi ezinokuthi zifane naye, ngokulandelanayo, omncinci kunye nempilweni yowesifazane, ngcono, kwaye ukuba kukho ezininzi, ngoko oku kuyindlela efanelekileyo. Kodwa, uya kuvuma, ihlabathi lanamhlanje liye laphuma kude kuluntu oludala. Indoda, njengangaphambili, kufuneka ibonise ubungqina bakhe kunye negunya, igcine intsapho, kodwa imfuneko yokuba abaninzi abantu abanjalo baye balahleka. Yingakho ngoku umntu akahlali ngokwemvelo, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kwimilinganiselo yoluntu kunye nemigangatho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kusekho abesilisa abathandekayo abafuna ama-more and more females, kwaye xa ubanjwe njengale, akusiyo iphoso lakho, unenhlanhla ukuba wakushiya waza wayeka ukutshabalalisa ubomi bakho.
Esinye isizathu esinokwenzeka kukuba yinkathazo. Kwiengqondo, kukho into enjengeenkathazo, oku kuthetha ukutshintshela kwimeko elitsha yokufaneleka, ukuphuka kwimiba engaphambili kunye nexabiso. Mhlawumbi wakho wangaphambili uye wafumana ubunzima obunjalo. Ewe, ewe, kubantu abadala, akunjalo nje kubantu abaselula. Kubonakala ukuba abantu bakho bokuqala babelana ngombono, bekukho uhlobo oluthile lokungquzulana kwangaphakathi, uxinzelelo kunye nokungcatsha - oku kulukhuni. Inokwenzeka ukuba, umntu uya kuzisola kamva, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba ngumkhwa.
Xa bebudala, abanye abantu banokuzithemba, oku kuzwakala ngathi akuqhelekanga, kuba sisetyenziswe ukuba abafazi basoloko bexhala malunga nokuguquka kwexesha, kodwa njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, amadoda ahlala esondele kwixesha elide. Mhlawumbi, kubonakala ngathi akayinto enhle, kwaye impilo yezocansi ayiphumeleli, kwaye ukuzibonakalisa ukuba "kusekho umfutho kwimflasks", loo ndoda iyahamba. Kule meko, ayikhutshwanga iposheni yowesifazane owayesondele kwaye akazange akhuthaze indoda yakhe ngexesha.
Ngombulelo wophando lwezesengqondweni, kwavela ukuba amadoda ayesaba ukugwenxa, kunye nabasetyhini bomoya. Kungenzeka ukuba indoda yakho isithandane, kuba yonke iminyaka iyathobela ukuthanda. Ngaphantsi kwefuthe le-oxytocin, ekhutshwa xa ethanda, akakwazi ukuvavanya loo meko, ngoko inguqu ephosakeleyo, engaqapheli ukuba akulungile kumfazi ongeyithandi.
Esinye isizathu sivuyisi. Cinga, kodwa akazange akunike izizathu zokukholelwa ukuba wena ngokwakho awunakuguqula ukutshintsha umyeni wakhe. Mhlawumbi uhlambulukile kwaye unyanisekile phambi kokuthembeka, kodwa ukuziphatha kwakho kwezinye iimeko kwenza isizathu sokucinga ukuba utshintshe umntu. Yaye ngubani ofuna ukukhohliswa, yingakho kungumcimbi wozuko, oko kukuthi, into yokuphindezela. Kwaye kuphelile ukufumana izizathu. Le ndoda yaziva ikhohlisiwe kwaye yagqiba isigqibo sokubuyisela ubulungisa.
Izizathu zisenkulu. Wonke umntu, njengoko athethayo, uneenkonyane zakhe ... Kodwa ukuba uziva ukuba wena ubeka ityala kwizinto ezenzekile, ngoko kufuneka ufumane izigqibo. Mhlawumbi u "zapilili" indoda yakhe, okanye ayihlawulwanga, ingabonakali okanye ibanda. Khawucinge ngoku, ngako-ke ukuza kuthi amadoda akho aya kuhlala ehleli nawe.