Uthando luni na? Ukuba ukholelwa ukuba uthando luphezu kwezulu elingenasiplanga, akukho cala kunye nethuba lokungaze licele ukuxolelwa omnye komnye, ngoko ulahlekile kakhulu.
Uthando kunye nokuxolelwa akunakuhlukana. Kodwa, ukuba umyeni wakho okanye umfana, umzekelo, ukhohliwe ukuvuyisa umama wakho ngosuku lokuzalwa, okanye akazange athenge i-bar bhotile, oye wabuza yonke imini, le nto enye. Ngenxa yezinto ezinjalo, kuyisono sokungaxoleli.
Kodwa, njani ukuxolela ukungcatsha kwendoda okanye umyeni? Ubuqhetseba bukhohlisayo. Ngokwemvelo, kukho iingcamango zokuba ukuthembela kulo mntu akayi kubuya; ukuba amathuba okuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ayinakuphela.
Ukukholisa umntu isisombululo sakhe kule ngxaki asiziqondi. Kodwa, ukugcina ulwalamano, kwaye, mhlawumbi, baya kuphucula, emva kokunyaniseka - unako.
Ukuxolela ukuthengwa komntu, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba yintoni isizathu salo msebenzi.
Ukuba umfana wakho akayenawo uluhlu "lweeKatatshi", ngoko uhlaselo lubonisa ubukho beengxaki kulwalamano. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu othandayo kwaye uyakuxabisa, akayi kukulimaza.
Ukuba awunandaba nomfana, kulungile ukuzama ukuqonda izizathu zokungcatsha kwakhe, ukuze alondoloze ubudlelwane.
Ufuna incoko, apho ungayiqonda ukuba yintoni engafanelekanga kumntu wakho. Musa ukumgxeka, musa ukunyusa imeko. Khumbula ukuba iphoso lakhe, kunjalo, lilo. Kodwa, nawe, unetyala le nto, ngenxa yokuba awuzange uyayiqonda ngexesha eliye lavela phakathi kwakho.
Abantu abatshatileyo, kodwa baye bafumana amandla okuxolela nokugcina ulwalamano, bavame ukuvuma ukuba ubomi babo kunye bube ngcono. Emva koko, kwaziwa ukuba iingxaki neengxaki esizihlangene kunye, kuxhasana, zisondele ngakumbi. Ukuxolela le nkwenkwana, kodwa, ukucacisa ukuba okwesibini ukubethelwa kwakho awuyi kuphila, uya kuqala ukukuxabisa ngakumbi nokuthanda ukuzithemba kuye.
Ukuxolela ukungcatsha komntu, khumbula ixesha othe wavuya ngayo. Hlaziya yonke into, ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda lo mntu, wayehlala ekulungele ukuthanda kwakho.
Unokuxolela, kodwa uya kufuna amandla kwaye usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye nemizwa yakho. Xa ubuxoki buya kwaziwa kuwe, into yokuqala uvakalelwa kukuba ngumsindo nomnqweno wokuphosa zonke iimvakalelo zomsindo. Kodwa ukuze ungazisoli, kufuneka uzinike ixesha lokuvumela ukunyaniseka emphefumlweni wakho ukuba ulale.
Xa uzinqabile kwaye ukulungele ukuthetha nentombazana, akufanele ufunde iinkcukacha zobuqu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unomdla gqitha. "Uyazi ngaphantsi, ulala bhetele."
Zama ukwenza loo nto ivule kuwe kwaye ikuxelele ukuba kutheni ukutshintshile.
Emva kwengxoxo kunye nokuguquka kwendoda yakho, uya kusenokwenzeka kwaye ungathembeli lakho iqabane. Oku kuqondakalayo, kodwa, khumbula ukuba wayeguquka waza waqonda zonke izono zakhe. Kwaye, ekubeni unqume ukwakha nokudala ulwalamano lwakho kwasekuqaleni, gcina uhlala ezandleni.
Isikhumbuzo esiqhubekayo sokungcatsha kwakhe kwaye ukuthetha intukuthelo yakho kuya kubangela ukuxabana okukhulu. Kunzima ukulibala, kodwa ukuxolela ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda, ukuba, phakathi kwakho, kukho uvakalelo luthando, mhlawumbi lunikezelwa ukuba uya kuncedana.
Omnye umzuzu onzima wengqondo owawufumana umfazi emva kokungcatsha iingxaki zesini. Njalo xa ulala nomntu wakho, uya khumbula ukuba omnye umfazi. Oku kunokukhokelela ekubeni ungekho ngaphakathi kwakho, kwaye, ukukhululwa kwakho nokuzithemba, kuya kulahleka.
Kodwa, hayi, ingxaki, ukuxhaswa kunye nokunyamekela iqabane lakho kuya kunceda ukuhlangabezana nazo zonke iingxaki. Kwaye, ekuhambeni kwexesha, ubuhlobo bakho, obusandul 'ukuvela kwiindawo zokuhlala, luya kukomelela kwaye luza kukuzisa kunye nolonwabo.