Kakade ke, umntwana ngamnye uhlukile kwaye kwimimandla yobudala ibonakalisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Utshintsho kwintsapho nganye lunokwenzeka, lugxininiswa ngokukodwa ngeminyaka yobudala phakathi kwabantwana. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umahluko uneminyaka emibini ukuya kwimithathu, ngoko ngamnye wabo usekufuphi kumzekelo womntwana omdala kunye omncinci kunokubahluko phakathi kweminyaka eyisibhozo ukuya kweyishumi, apho bobabini baya kubonisa iimpawu zomntwana wokuqala nomntwana kuphela.
Omkhulu, ophakathi, omncinane
Umntwana wokuqala uxoxisana kakhulu nabantu abadala kunabantwana. Ngoko ke, bafumana ezininzi iindlela zokuziphatha kwabazali babo kwaye ngokukhawuleza bakhula ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngabazala bahlala kwindlu enye okanye bahlala nogogo ixesha elide, apho okokuqala kungabi ngowokuqala kodwa okwesibini okanye okwesithathu, ngoko impawu zomntwana wokuqala zingabonakali kangako. Umntwana wokuqala akafumani nje kuphela ingqwalasela yabazali, kodwa zonke izithemba zabo zinikezelwe kuye. Xa umntwana wesibini ezalwa, umdala unokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumzali okanye umlinganiselo wokuziqwalasela. Ezi zimpawu zenkcubeko kufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngabazali, zizama ukuziphatha ukuze umntwana angaboni ukuhla kweengqalelo.
Umzekelo, umama uyondla umntwana omncinci xa efunda incwadi kumdala. Ngelixa umncinci ulele, unina unesinyithi, ngelixa ekhumbula umzobo womdala kwaye echaza ngayo. Utata uyahamba kunye nabantwana bobabini, kwaye ngelixa umncinci elele ngokuthula ngesitulo sabakhubazekile, uguqula ukuguquka komdala. Umntwana wesibini uhlala eziphatha ngokuchasene nomdala. Ukuzama ukufumana umdala, udla ngokugqithisa kwizikolo zesikolo. Uyabona ukuba umzalwana omdala okanye udade ufana nesinyathelo esiphakathi kwakhe nabazali bakhe, olingisa abazali kwaye ufuna ukukhula.
Umntwana wesibini akahlali esona sincinci, kuba kukho umntwana wesithathu. Umntwana wesibini kunye nomntwana osemyingeni ngokuqhelekileyo uyafana. EmaNtshonalanga, intsapho enezingane ezintathu okanye ezine zifana nje ngokuba sinesibini. Umyinge ophakathi ukhula kancinci njengomntwana omncinci, xa ngokukhawuleza kuba ngumyinge. Umntwana wokuqala ukusuka kwedwa kuphela ukuba abe mdala kunzima kunokuba owesibini oselula ukuba abe phakathi. Umdala uvakalelwa njengomncedisi kubazali, igunya, okokuqala kunye nethemba elikhulu kuye, kwaye izicatshulwa kunye nezigaba zakhethwa kuqala kuye, kwaye "okokuqala kwiklasi yokuqala" nabazali bakhe bamkhokelela. Omncinci usengumngcipheko ongenakunceda onqwenela ukunakwa kwabazali abaninzi. Iyiphi indima indima edlalayo kulolu hlobo? Abazali kufuneka baqwalasele le ngqalelo kwaye kwimeko enikwe ixesha elide. Vumelana ukuba umntu omdala ulula, unamava okusebenzisa umncinci, kuba nguye, ukuthetha, inqanaba elidlulileyo. Ewe, ukuba kukho ithuba lokuphela kweveki ukuthatha umntwana oqhelekileyo ukuba atyelele ugogo wakhe oyintandane okanye unina, apho unokuziva ukuba nguye kuphela, ufumane yonke ingqalelo kuye. Ukuba oku akunakwenzeka, cinga ngenye into. Umama ekhaya kunye nosana - utata kunye nabaphakamileyo abaya kubaloba. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana badinga umama. Yiya epakini ikhethwayo kuyo yonke intsapho, apho umntwana angakwazi ukulala phantsi kolawulo lwabapapa, ngoko-moms, kunye nabanye abantwana - bayonwabe baze bathethe nabazali bobabini.
Umyinge osemyingeni akanalo uxhulumano olunjalo nabazali bakhe, njengomdala. Ngendlela, wahlukana nabazali bakhe ngokulula, kwaye uguqulela kwi-kindergarten ngokukhawuleza. Omnye uza kuba ngumama wabazali, ngoko baqhuba izifundo zabo nabadala, bahlambe umncinci, i-swaddle, bafake ipensile esandleni sakhe-hamba uze upende. Umamakazi e-kindergarten uya kubonisa ukuba uyayifumana ntoni, kwaye uncede, kwaye kwakhona kumboniso wemidwebo izothunyelwa. Ukungabikho kwengqwalasela kumntwana osemyingeni, kwintsapho yabadala nabancinci, ngokungafihlayo ufumana ngaphezulu, kwaye uvuselele ukuziphatha ngendlela enjalo ukutsala ingqalelo.
Abantwana abancinci akufanele bakhathazeke ngokungabikho kwengqalelo kubo, kunoko-malunga nokugqithisa. Umncinci kulula ukukhula ngokuzingca xa udala "iimeko zokutyalela" kuye. Abantu abaselula bayasetyenziselwa ukubonisana nabadala nakwizinto ezincinci, nangona umncinci uneminyaka engama-50, kunye nomdala ngowama-53.
Umntwana ongabodwa
Umntwana kuphela omnye umqondo, okhe, ngelanga, akuqhelekanga kwilizwe lethu. Esinye sezizathu - ukuqhawula umtshato, xa isibini "siqala" asizange sibe nexesha. Isizathu sesibini kukuba kungcono ukunika yonke into kunokuba uyinike ezimbalwa. Imbali iyayazi imizekelo emininzi yokuba kunzima kangakanani ukutshintshela "ubomi obutsha" bodwa abantwana bazali abangenakubhalisa abazimisele ngokunika "bonke" kubantwana baze bawashiya bengenanto. Kodwa asikathethi ngoku ngoku. Iimpawu zabantwana, kuphela kwintsapho, ngeendlela ezininzi ezifana nabantwana abadala. Ukusebenzisana rhoqo kunye nabantu abadala kubenza bakhule ngokweenzululwazi, kodwa ukungaqiniseki ngokomzwelo. Ubuhlobo obuqinileyo nabazali banokuxhasa nokukhuthaza ukuzithemba, kwaye kunokukhokelela ekubeni ukwesaba ukuxhwala. Abantwana kuphela kwixesha lokuqala bazama ukuhlukana nabazali babo kwaye bahlala ngokuzimela, bezaliswe "ne-hyperopeak" yabo.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Izindlela ezifanelekileyo zokukhulisana zinganqoba zombini izinto ezichasayo zobuncwane, kunye neemfuneko ezingekho phantsi kwabadala, abaphakathi, abancinci nabangatshatanga. Ungakulibali ukuba ndiyisixhenxe, nokuba ungekho ezisixhenxe, kodwa ezintlanu, ezine okanye ezintathu. Siyathemba ukuba olu lwazi luyakunceda ukuba uqonde ngakumbi iimpawu zeeminyaka zabantwana, ziqonde kunye nokufundisa abantwana bakho ngendlela engcono.