Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba "ibhokhwe" yethu ifumana umngane "ibhokhwe" kwicala. Oku, akunjalo, ayikwazi ukufanelana nathi. Yintoni enokuyenza ngolu hlobo kunye nomyeni wakhe, lo mbandela ohlukeneyo, kwaye ndicinga ukuba unokwenza wena ngokwakho, kodwa ungayiphatha njani inkosikazi yomyeni wakho? Ekuboneni kokuqala, into elula, ukutshisa kwindawo, kodwa, okokuqala, kukuchasene nomthetho, kwaye, okwesibini, akunakwenzeka. Ngoko ke, ndinokuthabatha iinketho ezininzi malunga nendlela yokuphatha ngayo, indlela yokuziphatha kunye nento enokuyenza ngayo nenkosikazi yomyeni wakhe, ukuze kungabikho iingxaki ezinjalo. Kwaye akunandaba nomyeni okanye omnye.
Okokuqala, masithi masinyane ukuba intsapho yaseSweden ayiyi kubahlobo kwaye iphile. Oku kungathathwa njengokungavumelekanga, ngoko sicinga imeko xa singamazi inkosikazi yomyeni wakhe (oko kukuthi, akusiyo umhlobo wakho okanye uThixo akavumelekanga umhlobo). Ngoko, makhe sibone indlela ehambelana ngayo nenkosikazi kunye nento enokuyenza ukuze uphephe iimeko ezinje ukususela ngoku.
Utshaba lwethu! Yonakalise!
Inzondo yomchasi, lo ngowokuqala kwaye mhlawumbi unengqondo yendalo. Mhlawumbi kuvela kuqala, emva kokuba sifunde ukuba indoda inenkosikazi. Yaye ukuba umyeni usoloko ekwazi ukuxolela, ngoko-razluchnitsu akakho! Ngokukhawuleza emva kokufika kokuphikisa okukhulu, kunomnqweno wokubetha inkosikazi yakho, into enzima kwaye ibe ngcono ngempumelelo! Le mfuno kufuneka ikhutshwe, enyanisweni, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukutshabalalisa le ntombazana emehlweni endoda yakhe, kubalulekile ukubonakalisa ngokugqithiseleyo ukungaphumeleli kwayo, kunye nenyaniso yokuba ayiyiyo ibini. Kule meko, njengoko bethetha, "kwimfazwe, njengemfazwe" yonke into inokuya kudlala, abahlobo, oogxa nabo, izalamane, into eyona nto ukuyibeka kumaphiko omyeni kwaye uyiphathe ngokufanelekileyo.
Hlola oku! Funda kwiimpazamo!
Njengoko akuzisoli ukuvuma, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha inyaniso yokubonakala kwenkosikazi yiphutha lokuziphatha kwethu kunye nesiphumo sokusilela kwethu. Umfazi oqinileyo unokuhlala evuma kuye, kwiingxaki zakhe. Kule meko, yiphathe inkosikazi yakho njengemouse yovavanyo okanye njengoluvavanyo. Hlaziya imeko kunye namandla ayo, kunokuba wayekwazi ukutsala umyeni wakhe, into enokuyifunda kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, thatha izifundo kwaye ungaphinda uphinde uphendule iimpazamo zakudala, kwaye ubomi bakho buya kuba ngcono!
Ubundlobongela kunye nokudeka njengeqhwaba!
Amaqhinga alo mbono kwikosikazi inzima, akusikho into enqwenelekayo, kodwa ukuqonda okubandayo kwamandla. Kwaye ukuba ungcono kuzo zonke iziganeko! Oku kunjalo ufuna ukuba ube ngu-100% oqinisekileyo kuwe, kulo mlinganiso uxhasa umchasi wakho ngokuziphatha, ngokungakhange uqaphele, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo unike umyeni wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba ulunge ngakumbi. Kwaye ukuba unobungqina bokuba ungcono, ke yena ngokwakhe uya kuqonda iimpazamo zakhe kwaye afune ukuxolisa ngamadolo akhe, kodwa ndiphinda, kufuneka ukubala ngokucacileyo amandla akho kwaye uqonde amandla akho. Emva kwakho konke, impazamo ngale ndlela ingakhokelela kwimiphumo ebulalayo! Kodwa kwimeko yokuphumelela kweso simo sengqondo, uya kukhula ngamandla emehlweni akho kunye nomyeni wakho.
Nazi ezinye zeempawu zengqondo kunye nokuziphatha kunye nenkosikazi yomyeni wakhe. Ziyakwazi ukudibaniswa ngokuzenzekelayo, zengeze into yazo, ngokwentetho kunye neemeko. Into ephambili kukuqonda ngokucacileyo oko ufuna ukufezekisa.
Ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukongeza loo nto, kungakhathaliseki ukuba akuthandi kangakanani inkosikazi, kufuneka umbulele ukuba wavula amehlo akho kwiimpazamo zomyeni wakhe. Kwaye emva kokuba "uyifumane", kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba wenze ntoni emva komyeni wakho kunye nalapho ubuhlobo bakho buya khona. Ngoko, ndifuna ukunqwenela ngamandla amakhulu okomoya, bathandekayo bafazi.