Izinja zifumaneka kwidolophu yonke indawo, kwaye abaninzi bayabayika. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunengqiqo. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uyothuka nangona i-chihuahua encinci. Le yimiba. Njani ukuba ngabazali? Yintoni enokuyenza xa umntwana eyika izinja - bona impendulo engezantsi.
Kukho iingcamango ezahlukeneyo zemvelaphi yokutya. Abanye abantu be-psychoanalyst bathi ukukoyika kwenzeka nakwixesha lokuzalwa. Ukongezelela, loloyiko luneengcambu zokuziphendukela kwemvelo - imemori yeengwebe ezinamahlombe angama-saber azinzile kwiijenge zethu. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo abantu baqala ukwesaba iinja ngenxa yokuba bamethusa ebuntwaneni.
Umntwana kunye nenja
Ukwesaba okunamandla kunokwenziwa kwaye kwaguquke kuba yi-neurosis, ukuba isiganeko esinoyikisayo senzeke ebomini komntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka engama-7 ubudala. Kule minyaka, ngamanye amaxesha kunokwanela ukubona inja enkulu enkulu, umzekelo okanye inja okanye i-Doberman, ukuba uveke. Nokuba ukukhwaza okukhulu kubantwana kungasongela, kungakhankanywa ukuba kukho, ngeenhlanhla, izinja ezingabathandiyo kwaye zizilume ngaphandle kokucaphukisa.
Umsila neendlebe azikho kwimidlalo
Kodwa into enye iyethusa, kwaye ukulungisa ukwesaba phambi kweenja kuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Izinja aziyithandi ukutsalwa emva kweendlebe kunye nomsila. Yaye bayayithiya xa bethabatha ithambo labo elithandayo. Kule meko, banokuluma kakhulu umxhaphazi. Abantu abadala kufuneka baxelele umntwana ukuba kuyimfuneko ukugcina imida ekunxibelelana nesilwanyana.
Ngokubanzi abazali banokwenza okuninzi ukumisa umntwana kwizinja eziyikayo. Ukususela esemncinci, kufuneka ubonise imifanekiso eninzi kunye namafilimu kunye neenja ezihle kunye nezintle, zakha iindaba zeenkcazo, apho izinja ezinqwenelekayo zisebenza khona. Ekugqibeleni, kufuneka uqalise ngokukhawuleza umntwana wakho kwizinja, okokuqala - ngokumnandi nangomusa. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, ngexesha lomquzulwano umntwana kunye nenja ayilwi namaqhinga. Ukuziphatha okungonelanelekanga kwabazali oko kubangelwa ukuba abantwana bakwazi ukulungisa ukwesaba.
Ukutyhafa emehlweni enja
Mbi, xa ebona inja umntwana uwela entlweni. Kodwa ngakumbi nakakhulu, ukuba le meko, phantsi kokuphelelwa amandla, ifika ngcamango eyodwa malunga nenja okanye ukujonga umfanekiso wayo. Ezi zihlandlo zivame ukuphakama kumntu oxhalabileyo kumntu ogcinwe kwindawo yokugcina impahla kwaye zidibana neemeko ezenzeka kwangoko. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana odlala kwi-sandbox, unqonkqoza aze agxothwe emhlabathini. Emva kwalolu daba oluphawulekayo, umntwana wakhula ukwesaba: Ekuqaleni wayeyesaba kuphela inja ezinkulu, kwaye ke loloyiko lwasasazeka kuzo zonke izinja.
Ukuphathwa ...
Yintoni enokuyenza xa ukwesaba umntwana inja kumvimbela ukuba aphile kwaye ahlakulele uxolo? I-Phobias ijwayele ukuphathwa ngeendlela ezidala kunye neengqinisiso zokuchithwa kwemisebenzi. Kwimeko yokuzola, umntwana uchazwa okokuqala ukuba akukho mfuneko yokwesaba izinja. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo yena uyazi. Emva koko uziswa kwindawo yokuphumla kwaye ubonisa imifanekiso yenja. Oogqirha bayaqinisekisa ukuba akayixhala ngexesha elifanayo. Xa umntwana esetyenziswe kulo mfanekiso, uvumelekile ukuba azuze imifanekiso ecacileyo nebalabala yezinja ezivulekileyo ngomlomo. Emva koko bonise ama-movie kunye neenja. Emva koko baholele izinja ezintle ezintle kwiofisi, kwaye baqale bawaqaphele, kodwa ke umntu uqala ukuyityelela. Ekugqibeleni, ukuze ugqitywe ekugqibeleni, isigulane sisondelelana nenja enkulu yentsapho eyoyikisayo; ngeli thuba ekugqibeleni uyalibala malunga ne-phobia; uloyiko lwafa. Olu lwati ludla ngokuthatha ezimbini ukuya kweeveki ezintathu.
I-Phobias iphinde iphathwe nge-hypnosis, iphoqa isigulane kwisimo sengqondo sokubuyela kwisimo sengqondo se-psychotraumatic esasibangela ukwesaba okukhulu. Umntu udlala kwakhona amava kwaye ngoko ke inkumbulo yobusuku ilahlekelwa yimpumelelo yayo yangaphambili. Kuphela unyango olufanayo kunye nokuqhayisa okubangelwa ukwesaba kweenja.
Neurosis njengoko kunjalo
Kwiimeko ezide kakhulu kubalulekile ukunyanga ukwesaba okodwa, kodwa i-neurosis ngokwayo. Ngaphandle koko, umntu ophilisiwe ukwesaba omnye okanye omnye uya kuqala ukuphazamiseka ekuboneni into okanye omnye umntu. Ukunyanga i-neurosis, iingcali zisebenzisa iindlela ezizodwa. Musa nje ukucinga ukuba kulungele umntwana ukuba achaze ukuba abo bayesabayo - izidalwa ezingenakubungozi nezilwanyana, waphiliswa ngokukhawuleza. Oku akukwenzekayo, kuba ukwesaba akukho engqondweni, kodwa kwiindawo ezinzulu zokungazi, kwaye ungavumeli iinkolelo ezinengqiqo.