Ewe, ukunyeliswa komntu osondelene nawe kukuxhalabisa kakhulu. Ulwalamano lwakho lugxininiswe kwaye awukwazi ukumthemba, njengangaphambili, kodwa ukuba njani? Ukubuyisela yonke into oyifunayo ixesha kunye nengqalelo yakhe.
Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ukholo, kwaye wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo, uzenzele uxolo lwengqondo. Yiya kwimidlalo, hamba uhambo, uye kusebenza nentloko yakho. Kwaye kuphela xa unokufumana ukulinganisela kwangaphakathi unokuvavanya ingxaki evele phambi kwakho.
Musa ukwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza kwiimeko ezichaphazelayo. Ukugqiba indlela yokwenza oko kufuneka kube yithuba elide kakhulu. Kule meko, kukho ukuphuma ezininzi. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuphula ulwalamano ngokukhawuleza, akusona indlela kuphela yokuphuma kwinkinga enzima.
Ukuba uyayithanda indoda yakho, yenza njalo. Yenza imizamo yakho yokuzonwabisa. Shintsha umfanekiso wakho, izenzo zakho. Zama ukugcina ibini lakho. Yiba ngumntu ozimeleyo, ngoko unako ukutsala umntu wakho ongalunganga. Yaye ubuhlobo bakho buya kuphinda lube namandla.
Yiba yimfihlakalo kuye. Zithembele kuwe nakwizinto ozenzayo. Hlangana, njengokuba kunqabile kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kwaye emva kokubonakala ngokukhawuleza kwaye wenze uthando. Kuye kuya kuba yimvakalelo emva, emva koko uya kuziva enetyala kwaye uya kuqala ukuzisola ngokuba utshintshile. Uya kudla ngokucinga ngawe, uya kuphupha ukuhlangana kunye nokuba uya kumxolela. Kwaye ngaloo mzuzu uya kuqonda ukuba ibhinqa ayeyilindele ixesha elide lihlala li kufuphi naye.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ukukhohlakeleka kukulahlekelwa yithemba, ukulahlekelwa yothando, ukunyaniseka. Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luqinile, ngoko ngexesha uya kuxolelana. Ukuba iimvakalelo zingenamandla, musa ukuzibamba, njengengca yomanzi.
Ubuqhetseba buba ngowokuphela kobudlelwane bakho, kunye nokuqala. Okukhethiweyo kukukho.