Xa uqala ukuhlala kuwe, uhlala ufuna ukuba indlu igcwale abahlobo. Ukuzonwabisa kwemikhosi kunye namaqela anomsindo aqala ukubanjelwa ekhayeni lakho ngokwemihla ngemihla. Kwaye konke kwakuya kuba kuhle, ukuba nje emva kokuba isenzo sonke kusasa akufuneki ukuhlamba iinqwelo zamaraka, hlamba iintaba zezonkwa kwaye uxolise kubamelwane. Ukuthintela oku kungenzeki, kufuneka ukhawuleze ufunde abahlobo bakho ukuba bahlele ekhaya.
Izaziso
Ukuba awufuni ukuba abamelwane bakho banqamle emnyango ngehora lesithathu ekuseni baze babize amapolisa phakathi kweqela ngalinye - ngokukhawuleza baqhelane nabahlobo bakho kwizinto ezingafakiyo phakathi kobusuku. Yaye khumbula ukuba ukuba uvale amehlo akho ekuziphatheni kwabo, baya kuqala ukuziphatha rhoqo. Ngoko ke, xa kufika ubusuku, khawuleza unciphise isandi seziko lomculo (ikhompyutheni) kwaye ulumkise wonke umntu ukuba ufuna ukuzithulisa endlwini. Unokuza nebali malunga nommelwane onobuqili olungele ukukhupha iingcango aze abuze amapolisa ukuba eze. Kodwa ufuna ukuqokelela kule ndlu ngaphezu kweyodwa, akunjalo? Ngoko ke, emva kweyure leshumi elinanye, kufuneka uhlalise. Nangona umntu efunga, makungafunge ngokuthula. Ngaphandle koko, kufuneka umise yonke into, kunye neendwendwe eziphuma kwigumbi. Thetha ngale nto kubahlobo ukuze baqonde - awuyikuhleka. Nangona ekuqaleni abantu bakho abasondeleyo baqala ukuthukuthela kwaye bathi kufuneka uphumule kwaye ungenzi iingxaki-zime wena. Emva kwexesha, baya kufundiswa kulo mgaqo, kwaye baya kuziphatha njengoko ubatsho kubo. Ungalokothi wenze izivumelwano, kungekubo kubo, nakuwe. Khumbula ukuba wenza isandi, njengabanye abantu, ngoko uziphatha njengoko ufunayo kwiindwendwe.
Ucoceko kunye nokuhlelwa
Umntu akaze acinge kanzima malunga nomyalelo aze afune ukumkhokela. Ngako oko, ukuba ufuna ukuba abahlobo bakho bangaphalazeli ubhiya kwiqhekeza kwaye ungafaki iipoti phantsi, bafundise ukuba bahlambuluke emva kwabo. Uthe wathululela ubhiya - uya kuhlamba, uthatha i-detergent, i-rag kwaye uhlambulule uze ufumanise ukuba indawo iphuma. Enyanisweni, ekuqaleni, abantu abaninzi banomsindo, bezama ukwenza into-njengaye, kodwa ukuba uhlala ungqongqo ngokukhawuleza, ekugqibeleni, uyanelisekile kangangokuba baya kubanyanzela abantu abatsha endlwini yakho ukuba bahlambulule baze bathuke xa beqala ukukhwaza.
Okufanayo kuya kwiitya. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba umfazi wendlu uyavuka ekuseni, uye ekhitshini aze awele ngokusemthethweni kwi-swoon ebusweni bombhobho kwiikomityi, amacwecwe kunye neziglasi. Ngoko ukuba akumele uhlambe rhoqo nge-zipper, faka enye yemithetho endlwini yakho. Iindwendwe zakho ziyakucoca emva kwazo (kwaye kulula, ukuhlamba iiplati ezimbalwa, wonke umntu uvila), okanye, ukugqiba "ukuxhoma" kuwe, thatha i-tableware yexesha elilodwa ngeziphuzo kunye nokutya. Aphantsi kwaye akuyi kuba neengxaki zokuhlamba. Ewe, kukho into enandi kakhulu ukusela kule ndawo, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubuvila bomntu kusenza sihlale singaphantsi, nje ukuba singenzi nto inqabileyo.
Iindwendwe zokutyelela ebusuku
Ukuba ngabahlobo bakho bathanda ukuhamba kwindawo ethile kude kube semkhatsini wobusuku, uze wenze isigqibo sokuza kwindlu yakho, ukukhupha iingcango nokukubiza ngee-intanethi ezingapheliyo, oku kuthetha ukuba ufanele ulwe. Okokuqala, unako ukuxelela wonke umntu ngokobugcisa ukuba ufanele ubize kwaye ulumkise ngawo ngaphambi kokuba ufike endlwini yakho kwieyure ezimbini. Kwaye ukuba akukho mntu uthatha ityhubhu, ngoko ulala kwaye akafuni ukuvuswa. Ngako oko, akudingeki uqhubeke ubiza kunye nokungena kwi-intercom. Kwimeko xa abantu bengenzi kubantu bakho, unokuqala ukukhubeka. Uzele ngokufanelekileyo ukuthetha nabahlobo abaphule ukuphumla kwakho. Kakade, kuya kuba kubi ngabo. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, baya kuqonda ukuba izinto ezingathandekiyo ukutyelela zingalindelekanga kwaye ziyeke ukuziphatha ngale ndlela. Ukuba abantu abaqapheli nantoni na, ithetha ukuba banokuzikhukhumeza, kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuba ngabahlobo kunye nabantu abanjalo, okanye bengakufumani njengomhlobo nonke, bafuna indlu apho banokuzonwabisa xa kushushu, endaweni yokusela i-vodka kwiibhentshisi ngeqhwa elibandayo. Kwaye abantu banjalo bafuna ukukhula ukhula ngaphandle kweengqungquthela zabahlobo ngaphandle kokujonga.
Ukuphindaphinda ngumama wokufundisa
Xa siza kuphumla, ngoko nayiphi na imithetho ikhunjulwa kakhulu. Yingakho ungaba neentloni zokuphinda ubuye bakho abahlobo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha ekhaya lakho. Ukuba umntu akenzanga into efanelekileyo, musa ukulungisa yonke into. Shayela umntu kwaye umxelele ukuba alungise iphutha lakhe. Yaye makuthiwa uzalwe ngamawaka amawaka, kodwa akufanele uhlawule imali eyongezelelweyo yamanzi, kuba umntu akanalo umkhwa oqhelekileyo wokuguqula itompu okanye umbane, kuba umntu uthanda ukukhanyisa yonke indawo. Ewe, akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukumemeza ngabahlobo lonke ixesha. Zibakhumbuze nje, kwaye xa imeko ingapheli ngokupheleleyo, unokuphakamisa ilizwi lakho. Kwakhona, ukwenzela ukuba abantu bakhumbule into oyifunayo, sebenzisa oko umqeqeshi asetyenziswe kwizixhobo ezibonakalayo ezikolweni. Yintoni esiyithethayo? Ngokomzekelo, ukuba ngabahlobo bakho abafuni ngokwenene ukunciphisa isiqwenga sezindlu zangasese, nangona usichazile ngaphezu kweyodwa ukuba iphunga elivela kumjelo awuyilo elona lifanelekileyo lokuhlambela kwakho, qiniseka ukuba isikhumbuzi sasihamba phambi kwabo - jongela iphosta. Bhala malunga nento oyifunayo ngaphambi kokuba ushiye indlu yokuhlambela, uyihombe iphosta eneemifanekiso ezifanelekileyo, amahlaya, uqondakala kubahlobo bakho. Qiniseka ukuba xa ubujonge le "ubugcisa" abathandekayo bakho abayi kuyenza lula umyalelo, kodwa sa nwabisa. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kuphakamisa umoya wabantu, kunokubacaphukisa ngenxa yokulibala. Ukuvuya kunye neyokuqala, baya kuhlekisa ngeendwendwe baze bakukhumbuze ngemimiselo ekufuneka idibene kuyo ukuze ungacasuli inkosikazi.
Bunch of chickpeas kwaye ... masidle
Ewe, into yokugqibela omele uyikhumbule yimveliso. Ukuba iindwendwe zakho zinomkhuba wokuya ekhitshini kwaye zidla yonke into efika emehlweni abo. Ngaphezu koko, ngelo xesha izihlobo ngezizathu ezithile azikhathalele ukuba unayo imali yokuthenga isabelo esitsha sokutya nokuba ingaba ulambile. Ngoko emva kokuba uhleli kunye nabahlobo akudingeki ukhangele imouse exhomeke kwifriji, khawuleza ulumkise wonke umntu ukuba unikezelo lwemveliso engapheliyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu evela kwirobhothi elambileyo, makumxelele uze uzame ukuza nento ethile. Kodwa kwimeko xa ungenayo i-reserves eyaneleyo yokuphila kumvuzo wakho, awudingi ukukhubekiswa kwaye utyholwa ukuhaha. Sonke abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba nayiphi na umntu akahlali exhala ngabanye. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka afune ukucinga ngaye.
Ukuba ufaka le myalelo endlwini yakho, awuyi kuba neengxaki kwaye abahlobo bakho baya kufunda ukuhlonela umsebenzi wakho kwaye baqonde zakho izicelo.