Ebomini, phantse nantoni na eyenzekayo, kodwa izinto ezimbalwa zibetha kakhulu ngaphezu kokungcatsha komntu othandekayo. Ukunyanzelisa umntu kudidekile kwiqabane lakhe lomtshato, umtshato, njl. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuthiwa kwimeko apho umntu akanako ukukhuseleka ngokupheleleyo kulo. Nangona kunjalo, ukutshatyalaliswa komtshato kunokuphetshwa.
Njani? Kulo mbuzo, ngelishwa, akukho ngcebiso eyodwa kunye nechanileyo eqinisekisiwe ukukunceda ukugcina umtshato nokukhusela utshintsho. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iingcebiso ezininzi apho unokunciphisa umngcipheko ubuncinane.
Okokuqala, susa iiglasi ezipinki emehlweni akho. Thanda umlingane wakho, ingcamango yakhe. Uthande oko ngokwenene, akunakulungile, ngaphandle kwenye imini iimbono zakho ezintle malunga nayo zingonakaliswa ngokukhawuleza. Ungalindelanga ukuba ubomi obudibeneyo buya kuba lula kwaye bukhathalele, ngaphandle kokungavumelani kunye nokuxabana, okanye unokudumala kakhulu.
Hlukanisa kwisiqingatha, novuyo, kunye nentlungu phakathi kwabo. Zama ukwenjenjalo ukuba ube neqabane lakho lilonke, jonga ihlabathi ukusuka kwelinye ngcamango, ukwenzela ukuba iinjongo zakho zihambelane - kwaye uya kukwazi ukunqoba ngokukhawuleza zonke iintlungu kunye neentshutshiso. Musa ukwabelana ngolwalamano no "Mina" kunye "HE", zama ukucinga "WE".
Kuyaziwa ukuba umntu akafanele angene emtshatweni ngaphandle kokwamkela esi sigqibo ngokuqinileyo kwaye engayilungiselele kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Oku kuyinyani, kuba umtshato ngumsebenzi onzima imihla yonke ukugcina intsapho. Musa ukuvumela iimvakalelo nokuthanda intuthu yakho intloko - kunjalo, kuyafuneka, nangona kunjalo, isigqibo esinzulu malunga nendlela yokutshata okanye akunjalo, kukulungele ukwenza ukucinga ngokuzithemba nangokuzithoba. Khumbula ukuba ukuba ukhawuleza kunye nesigqibo, ngoko uxanduva ongazilungele ngalo, luya kukuchoboza nje.
Iingxabano nokungavumelani nazo ziyinxalenye yobomi bentsapho. Nangona kunjalo, qaphela, ama-scandals kunye ne-boycotts yesiqingatha sesibini azifakiwe kule nxalenye. Emtshatweni, akuvumelekile ukuhlambalaza iqabane lakho, ngoko ke uzama ukwenza izicelo ezinamandla kwidilesi yakhe. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukufaka i-epithet engabonakaliyo okanye ulwimi olungcolileyo kumlingane, luma ulwimi lwakho ukuba ufuna ukugcina umtshato! Nangona emva koko uxolisa - kusekho i-sediment ihlala kwaye iya kukhula ngokukhawuleza, ekugqibeleni iqhutywe kwiinguqu kunye nokuphazamiseka. Ukuba awuvumelani neqabane lakho ngandlela-thile - xelele ngokuzenzekelayo ngaye. Cinga ukuba ngaba iqabane lakho liya kuzama ukubuyela ekhaya ngokukhawuleza, ukuba uyazi ukuba xa ufika ekhaya uya kuhlasela ngokukhawuleza ngamabango kunye neepazamo?
Imvume kunye nentsebenziswano - yiloo nto ifanele ibe yinjongo yokugqibela yobudlelwane bakho, bobabini obusondeleyo kunye nokuzilungisa. Ukuba oko akunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho liza kuthatha isigqibo sokufumana into engenayo, kwindawo ethile kwicala nomntu ongaphandle. Ukuvuleka kunye nokuthembela, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bubalulekile.
Yiba yintliziyo. Kwaye yonke into. Ukuba kukho ingxaki, khankanya ukungavumelani kwakho ngokukhawuleza, ungazigcineli. Kwakhona, oku kusebenza kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, nangokwesondo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba ucebile ingxaki - oku akunjalo, eqinisweni, uye wandisa. Kwimeko apho ufuna ukuba yedwa umlingane wakho othandekayo, kufuneka ufunde ukumthemba ngokupheleleyo kwaye uyamthemba.
Ungalibali ukuzijonga, ukuhlakulela rhoqo nokuphucula, kokubili ngaphandle nangokomoya. Ukuphinda uphumelele iqabane lakho - oku kuya kukunceda ukhangele kunye kunye nomtsalane.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, into ephambili. Zonke ezi ngasentla kufuneka zisetyenziswe rhoqo, kwaye kungekuphela nje xa ucinga ngokucokisekileyo ngokuqhawula umtshato, ngaphandle koko awukwazi ukuba nexesha lokugcina ulwalamano!