Kodwa ngokukhawuleza umhlaba washiya phantsi kweenyawo. Ihlabathi liyaphela. Umntu ozithandayo utshintshile. Oku kwenzeka ntoni kuwe. Emva koko, ukuzithemba kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini kwakungenakunyakaziswa. Uthini umntu ogqithisiweyo? Ngaphandle koko, awukwazi ukubiza ukungcatsha. Ubuhlungu, intlungu engenakulibala, ephuma kwi nutria. Intukuthelo, efana nengqungquthela ephazamisa amehlo. Unqwenela ukugubha ekhoneni, kwaye ungaboni okanye uve umntu. Hlala yedwa kunye nentlungu yakho, uze ukhale kude kube yinto yonke. Iingcamango ezinganiki ukuphumla kunye ne-buzz entloko. Yintoni na? Kutheni le nto yenzeke kum. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Kodwa kholwa kum, ngemibuzo ebonakala ngathi elula, awunakufumana iimpendulo. Ngenxa yokuba akusiyo iphoso lakho, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba iimeko ezibangele kwimiphumo emibi.
Isimo sengqondo apho umntu akwiimeko ezinjalo kakhulu. Ukuqwashisa ubuninzi boluntu kunye nokungafunyanwa kungabangela ukuba uzenze ukuzibulala. Abantu abomeleleyo kuphela abanobuchule obunelungelo lokudandatheka. Ngexesha elinjalo, umntu osondeleyo kufuneka abe khona, ubuncinci ukuncedisa uluntu kwaye ubonise ukuba awunabo kunye nehleko lakho.
Abafazi baqala yonke into ukususela ekuqaleni. Ekupheleni kwexesha, iingcamango ezinengqiqo zihamba phambili, lonke ulwazi luqala ukuvula ukusuka kwinqanaba elihlukile. Kwaye nangona zonke izikhalazo, kukho ukuzimisela ukuxolela. Kodwa ke indlela umntu asebenza ngayo, unokuxolela, kodwa awusoze ulibale. Ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo malunga ne-armistice, cinga yonke into kakuhle. Ukulungele ukuhlala kwaye ungesabi ukuba kuya kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona, ukuba yonke into xa indoda okanye umfazi ephuzile emsebenzini, uya kukhumbula ngeli xesha uloyiko oluye lwaba nalo. Kwaye ngoku awuyi kuba nelungelo lokuhlambalaza, kuba, emva kokubuyela kwintsapho, uyavuma ngokufihlakeleyo loo nto. Ukuba ugqiba ukubuyela, kwaye kuya kuqwalaselwa, umnqweno wokusindisa intsapho iya kuba ngaphezu kweengxabano ezimbi kunye nokusola. Ukuba ukuthembela kwakho kumntu akupheli, zama. Kwaye uThixo makakuvumeli ukuba oku kungeke kwenzeke kwakhona.
Okokuqala, cinga ngabantwana. Indlela eya kuba bhetele kubo, kodwa ungaphuli kwiminqweno yakho. Ukuba ukwenza isigqibo, xolela, ukhokelwa kuphela ngumdla wabantwana, ngoko kuya kuba ngumnikelo. Uya kuvuma umnikelo, kodwa kwiminyaka elishumi awuyi kubulelwa. Akuyi kubakho loo ntsapho idyll, induduzo. Abantwana baya kubona yonke into. Baya kuhlupheka. Yaye xa bekhula, abayi kukukhumbula.
Amadoda elula kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona kwinqanaba lokuziphatha, kodwa kwizinto eziphathekayo. Akudingeki ukuba bahlale kunye nabantwana, kwaye bacinge ngendlela yokwabela uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ukwenzela ukuba yanele yonke into. Kuphi ukubeka abantwana ngexesha lomsebenzi? Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abaninzi abantu, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bakholelwa ukuba ukuhlawula ngexesha lokugcinwa kwexesha, kuyincedo ephakamileyo ekukhuliseni abantwana. Ngokuyinene, abapapa bayakhohlwa ukuba banomdla kwimpilo kunye neemfuno zabantwana babo.
Naluphi na isigqibo osithathayo, yonke into incike kuwe, kuba nganye imeko ihamba yedwa, ikhokelwa yi-intuition yakho, umnqweno kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ufunde ukuxolela. Nangona ungekho ndawonye, abantwana abaqhelekileyo banamathele ngonaphakade, ngoko ke ukuthetha kwakho akunakwenzeka. Emva kwakho konke, kanye, wathandana, ngoko ngokwenene ngoku awukwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo.