Ngoko indlela yokuphatha ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakhe? Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezininzi ezinokwenzeka - ukulungelelanisa iziganeko ezixhatshazayo, okanye ukunyamekela ukucinga isicwangciso sokuziphatha.
Ukuhlala ulungelelanisa abahlaziyileyo abanakuyicombulula ingxaki, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, imeko engenakuxhatshazelwa kwintsapho iya kumshukumisela umyeni kwi-razluchnitse. Kule meko, awuyi kubandezeleka wena kuphela, kodwa nabantwana, kwaye nokuba ngumyeni, ukuba ngubani, mhlawumbi, kwakungekho uhlaselo, kodwa nje yinto enqabileyo.
Ukuba ufuna ukugcina intsapho yakho, vumela ezinye ukungathembeki kwendoda yakho kwaye ulondoloze isimo sengqondo esivamile kwintsapho yakho, kufuneka ucingisise ngokuziphatha kwakho. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela iingcebiso ezimbalwa.
Okokuqala, simele sikhumbule ukuba uhlobo lomntu lumxoshe ukuba afune into enomdla, umnqweno wokuzama into eyahlukileyo, kunye nokubonisa ubungqina bakhe "bamadoda". Kwezinye iimeko, ukugwenxa ngumzamo wendoda yokubonisa ukuba, ngandlela-thile, umntu okhululekile kwaye unelungelo kwizigqibo zakhe nezenzo (imeko enjalo ifumaneka ukuba umyeni unomuva wokuthi inkululeko yakhe namalungelo ayaphula). Ngaloo ndlela, umntu uzama ukuzimela.
Okwesibini, ubungqina benkcazo buqinisekisa ubungqina bokuba amadoda angama-90% abayeni atshintsha abafazi, kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, amadoda athetha ngokugwenxa njengolonwabo lwexesha elilodwa, angayi kuqhubeka nalo lonke. Ukuba indoda iyatshintsha ngabasetyhini abahlukeneyo, nangona ithe yenza njalo ngexesha eliqhelekileyo, le nto ayithethi ukuba uye waqhaqhazela kuwe, ukuba into ephosakeleyo kuwe. Eli qabane elithembekileyo libona ngokukhohlisa into eqhubekayo, kwaye indoda enothando xa ibuyela ekhaya iya kuyilibala ngokuzonwabisa kwakhe kwicala kwaye iya kuvuya ngokuthandana nomfazi wakhe othandekayo. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu ubhekisela ekuphandeni, njengalowo nawuphi umntu kumbewu okanye kwi-chips - ukuba uzame kanye, uhlale ufuna ukuqhubeka. Mhlawumbi eli qiniso liya kukuvumela ukuba unyamekele ukutshatyalaliswa komyeni wakho ngokukhululekileyo.
Okwesithathu, kubalulekile ukufumanisa isizathu sokukhohlakele. Ukuxhaphazwa nokuziphatha ngokuthembekileyo njengendoda yamadoda okanye inja akuyi kunceda ukufumana indlela engcono yokuphuma. Kubonakala ukuba, imbangela yokukhohlakala yayingenelwane oluhambelanayo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Mhlawumbi intsapho ayinakekelwa ngokwaneleyo okanye ingqalelo kwiminqweno kunye nezinto ezithandwayo zomlingane, okanye into engekho kwiintlobano zesini. Kubalulekile ukuhlalutya ubomi bentsapho kwaye kufumane izikhewu kunye nokungaphumeleli kwintsapho.
Okwesine, ekuhloleni isimo sakho sengqondo ekungcatshweni kwendoda yakho, zama ukufumana ukuxhamla kunye nokuxhalaba kule meko. Umzekelo, ukuba umtshato womlingane uncinci kakhulu kunoko kunye nomyeni wakho, ke kukho inzala-nxaxheba kwi-razluchnitsa (uthando lwangempela alufanekiyo apha). Ukuba ngeminyaka wena kunye nenkosikazi yomyeni wakho lilingana, ngoko kubonakala ukuba ayikho bhetele kunoko kwaye kufuneka uzinakekele kwaye umbonise umfazi ukuba ulahlekelwa lukhulu ngokuthetha naye, kungekhona nawe.
Ngokwahlukileyo, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kukho ukukhohlisa ngesivumelwano. Okokuthi, indoda kunye nomfazi bavuma ukuba zeziphi iimeko kwaye phantsi kweyiphi imeko ihlazo liyakwenzeka. Ngoko, isivumelwano esinjalo sinokwenzeka, ukuba abantu batshatile ixesha elide, baye banamathela komnye nomnye kwaye umnqweno uphelile. Kodwa kukho abantwana, kukho ukuqonda ngokuvisisana, kunokubakho ibhizinisi elidibeneyo - ngelizwi, kunenzuzo ukuba abatshatileyo bahlale kunye kwaye abafuni ukuphula umyalelo.
Kwezinye iimeko, abatshatileyo bayayichaphazela ukunyaniseka. Kuthetha ukuba ngokutshintshela ezinye iinkonzo okanye ukunyanzelisa, umlingane unethuba lokumisela ngokupheleleyo iindwendwe. Ngokukodwa, ithuba lokuhamba ngakwesobunxele lingaba sisiseko somtshato.
Ngaphandle kwazo zonke iingcebiso, nawuphi na umfazi, ojongene nokungathembeki kwindoda ethandekayo, usoloko ebuza indlela yokuphatha ukunyeliswa kwendoda yakhe nendlela yokusombulula le ngxaki ngokulahlekelwa okungakumbi kuye kunye nentsapho yakhe.