Oku kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye kuhlambalaza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kusishukumisela ukuba senze izinto ezahlukeneyo ngandlela-thile sinciphise intlungu kunye nentukuthelo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuxabana kunye nama-scandals, ngamanye amaxesha uxinzelelo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uhlaselo, yiloo nto esiza kuthetha ngayo.
Ngoko yintoni ukungcatshiswa komfazi emva komtshato, kwaye ziziphi izizathu ezinokwenzeka? Okokuqala, asiyi kugweba okanye ukuxhasa ukukhohlakala apha, kuba le yinto nje yabantu abathathu, kungekhona ihlabathi lonke. Kwakhona asiyiqwalasele iimeko xa umfazi engachulumanga (umyeni wakhe unotywala, ulwaphulo, uyaba ekhaya). Senza nje ukuzama ukuqonda izizathu eziqhelekileyo nezona ziqhelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba umntu angasindisa okanye vice.
Ngoko, makhe siqwalasele ngezansi ezimbalwa izizathu eziphambili, ngenxa yokuba ngabafazi basombulule ukuhlaselwa, emva komtshato obonakala uphumelele.
Kwimeko yokuqala. Ndifuna ukuvuya.
Umtshato, kwaye, ngokubanzi, ubomi bentsapho, imeko yinto ehle kakhulu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu kwaye kunzima. Yintoni enokuyenza kumfazi ongena kwinethwekhi yobomi, nokuba ngaba lo bomi kunye nendoda ethandekayo? Emva kwayo yonke imihla, iintshukumo ezifanayo, ukupheka, ukuhlamba, umsebenzi omnye, ubusuku kunye nomyeni wakhe phambi kweTV. Eqhelekileyo - ngelizwi elinye. Akumangalisi ukuba kule meko ibhinqa kakhulu lifuna ukuqonda okubukhali, kwaye ikuphi ukufumana? I-Skydiving ne-diving ayisoloko ifanelekileyo, kwaye umlenze omhle, onomdla kunye onomtsalane uvela kumama wesifazane. Ukukhululwa ngokukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline egazini, kwaye ngoku bangeniswa ngokukrakra kokukrexeza. Ukungcatshiswa okokuqala, okokuqala, akuyi kunika uxhaso ngokwesondo, kodwa kunomngcipheko. Akukho uthando phakathi kwabathandwayo, kodwa unomdla omkhulu. Nangona kunjalo kunzima ukuyiqonda, kulolu hlobo lwenkohlakalo, inzwa yokuba ubomi bakho bentsapho abukhange. Ukuze ugweme ukutshatyalaliswa, kufuneka udibanise iindawo ezinomdla kwintsapho yakho
Kwimeko yesibini. Ukunakekelwa okwaneleyo kunye nothando.
Khawucinge ngoloo mfanekiso, intombazana yonke yaqala ukuthobeka, intanda, ukuthandana, oku kuhamba kakuhle, lo busuku obude bothando. Yaye wenza iziphakamiso, ewe, uthi "ewe", kwaye yonke into ibonakala ilungile. Kodwa nantsi iminyaka embalwa, kwaye sibona ntoni? Yonke indlela efanayo yobomi, kodwa umyeni sele sele engowakhe, akukho nweleyo ngokwaneleyo kunye nomdla wangaphambili, ngelixa kungenakutsho ukuba indoda yakhe ayithandi. Uthandayo, kodwa akufani nokokuqala. Kule meko, loo mfazi uqala ngokungakhange akhangele ukungabikho komdla kunye nokunyamekela, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kubandakanyeka amaqabane asekudala ebomini engatshatanga. Ukuze ugweme ukungcatshiswa okunjalo, kufuneka uzame ukuzisa ubomi bakho bentsapho emfudumeni omtsha, imidlalo yokuzonwabisa, amakhandlela njalonjalo.
Kwimeko yesithathu. Umsebenzi wam umyeni usekuqaleni.
Le meko ifana neyokudlulileyo, kodwa nanko isizathu asikona nje ukunciphisa ukunyamezela nokuthandana nomyeni, apha isizathu silula kwaye siyinkimbinkimbi ngexesha elinye. Lo ngumsebenzi wakhe oyintandokazi kwaye ubiza kakhulu! Umdla kumyeni wakhe unako, kwaye awukhupheli, kodwa ngoku uqondiswe kwiingxelo zonyaka kwaye uhlola izilwanyana. Umfazi wakhe akanalo ixesha, kwaye ngoku, ephuma kwimeko enokuphelelwa lithemba, umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokungcatsha, uyaneliseka nje ngezidingo zomzimba. Kule meko, njengomthetho, yonke into ibonakala impi-icacile, ihlelwe kwaye ikhutshwe. Indawo, amaphasiwedi kunye nexesha, yonke into ixoxwa kwaye ilandelwe! Gwema oku kungcatshiswa, unokuthi kuphela ukuba loo mntu ngokwakhe uyeke umsebenzi wakhe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, zonke izizathu ezingentla zingezona zodwa, kwaye kuhlaselo olulodwa kufuneka luthathwe ngokwahlukileyo, kodwa ke le ngenye yezona zinto zikhuthazayo.