Ngokufanayo, ebomini, kwimeko enokuthula, enoxolo kunye nobudlelwane, akukho nto ingqubuzana, ukungaqondi kunye nokuthuka. Kwaye, ke, ezi zikhalazo zishiya amanxeba, ngamanye amaxesha azinzulu, ngamanye amaxesha abulalayo. Kwaye kula manxeba kunye namaphutha kukhona elinye iyeza, oku kukuxolelwa. Kwaye njengoko uyazi, uThixo akavumelani ukuxolela. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukwenza, ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi. Ngoko makhe sizame ukuqwalasela indlela yokuxolela ukutshutshiswa komntu othandekayo.
Inombolo yesenzo 1. Ukuqonda, nokuba kunokwenzeka yini ukuxolela ngokubanzi isithandwa.
Ngaphambi, into enokuyenza, cingisisa malunga nokuba le nyathelo ifanelekile umzamo. Ukukhokelwa ngumthetho onjalo, kufuneka sixazulule zonke iingxaki kwihlabathi elisijikelezayo. Kule nto, qalisa ukucinga malunga nezinto ozithandayo ezichaphazela iimvakalelo zakho. Kwezinye iindawo ezingaqhelekanga, kodwa izinto ezincinane ezihlambalazayo, okanye into enzulu. Kwaye kuphela ngesiseko salo, sigqibo sokuba ingaxolelwa kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo.
Inombolo yesenzo 2. Khangela ukuba kukho isizathu sokuphosa kwakho.
Le nto ibaluleke kakhulu, ngamanye amaxesha siyacaphukiswa kakhulu ngamadoda ethu, kuba bona ngokwabo ngenye indlela okanye enye inomsindo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba thina siyazi ukuba sinamakhilogremu angaphezulu, kodwa ngelo xesha sifuna intanda ukuba bahlala nathi. Kwaye emva kokuphendula kwakhe ngokunyanisekileyo, waphoswa isizathu sokuba engathethi. Ngokwenene wenza into eyiyo, wasitshela inyaniso, kodwa isicasula. Yena ngokwakhe, akaqhelekanga. Ukuba emva kokuhlalutya, sibona ukuba kukho iwayini emva kwethu, ngoko uxolele umhlobo wakho ngokulula.
Inombolo yesenzo 3. Khumbula konke okusemgangathweni.
Ngokomzekelo, wenza amanyathelo amabini okuqala waza waqonda ukuba umthetho owenziwe kuwe, ngokuqhelekileyo, awuyikufa, kodwa iphoso lakho kuyo ngokubanzi ayikho. (ezinye azizona zibi kakhulu malunga nokungcatsha) Ngoko ke, yintoni elandelayo, ukuyibeka kuwe okanye ngokubanzi kwaye ayikwazi ukulibala. Ukuhlambalaza, ukuba sele kwenziwe, kuya kuxolelwa ngo kwenene, kungenjalo kuya kukutshabalalisa ngaphakathi, ngoko khumbula zonke izinto ezilungileyo ezidibanisa kunye nabathandekayo bakho, kwaye ke, ndiqinisekile, eli cala liyakubonakala lincinci kwaye lingabalulekanga, kwaye ukugwenxa akubi kakhulu . Yaye unokumxolela ngokulula.
Inombolo yesenzo 4. kuthetha nentliziyo yakho intanda.
Ukunyathela kwisigqibo esifanayo, le yithethe yesiRashiya endala, kodwa siya kuzama ukuyiphepha. Ngenxa yoko, emva kokuhlalutya, kwaye uxolele ukuzithuka (oko kukuthi akusayi kukukhathaza kwakhona, kwaye ungakulibala ngokwenene), lixesha lokuba incoko ethembekileyo. Chaza kumntu othandayo ngokunyanisekileyo, kwaye ngaphandle kokushiya oko wakucaphukisa ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, ngamanye amaxesha, umntu unokukhubekisa kakhulu, nangaphandle kokungazi. Emva koko, mcele ukuba angaphinda ayenze kwakhona, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ukuba umntu uyakuthanda ngokwenene, uya kuqonda ukukhathazeka kwakho, kwaye awukhumbuli malunga nale mpikiswano.
Ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukongeza ukuba isiseko esiyinhloko sokuxolelwa luyintando yonyani, engayithobeli ingathembeki, kodwa ke, nangona uthando olunamandla kunabo bonke, lunokutshabalalisa ukuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza ukuba axolelwe, kodwa igcinwa ngokwayo. Kule meko baya kukutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza, njengokuba isidumbu sinobuthi. Ngoko ke, ndiphinda, ungagcini intukuthelo ngaphakathi kwakho, enethemba lokuba zona ziya kudlula, akukho. Izibhengezo mazixolelwe, okanye into enokuyenza kunye nolwalamano, i-alas, kwaye, okwesithathu ayinikiweyo.