Izizathu eziphambili zokungcatshiswa komntu kukuba iimvakalelo ziyahamba ngexesha, kunye nokuqhotyoshela iminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye kunye. Izizathu zenguqu zihlukeneyo kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha akunakwenzeka ukuqonda oko amadoda afuna. Ubuqhetseba bamadoda yisona sizathu esibalulekileyo sokuwa kweentsapho, njengokuba abafazi batshintsha kakhulu.
Indoda, njengomntwana, idinga ixesha elininzi kunye neengqalelo, ukunyamezela nokuthanda, ukuqonda kwaye ukuba akayikufumana oku kuwe ukufikelela kwindlela ayifunayo, uya kukhangeleka, uqala ukutshintsha.
Ukukhohlakeleka komntu kunokuphindezela. Xa efumana umfazi wakhe embhedeni nomnye, ngokukhawuleza ugijimela ukwenza okufanayo, ebubini bomthandi wakhe. Lo msebenzi awukho ngamabomu kwaye uyimpindiselo kuphela.
Isizathu sinokuba kwaye imeko enjalo ebomini kwanoma yimuphi umfazi, njengokukhulelwa. Ngamanye amaxesha ngeli xesha, ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlobo obusondeleyo buvunyelwe, ukugcina ubomi, umntwana ozayo kunye nomama oselula. Kwaye abanye abantu bayabaleka ukuze banelise omnye umfazi.
Amadoda abonakaliswa ngokungcatsha kunye nangomntu oqolileyo, nangona ubudala. Ekubeni umfazi ngenxa yobudala bakhe okanye sele ekhona ngenxa yempilo yakhe ayikwazi ukuwanelisa umphefumlo wakhe.
Xa uthumela umyeni kwihambo elide okanye usebenza kwelinye ilizwe, qaphela. Ukuhlukaniswa ixesha elide kwiimeko ezininzi kwenza umsebenzi kunye namadoda, befuna ukuzithokozisa kude nabafazi babo, baye kwisenzo esinjalo. Ngelo xesha, beza ekhaya, bafunga ngothando olungapheliyo kwisiqingatha sabo sesibini. Enoba ngubani ngamnye ojongene nalo uya kukwazi ukuhlala nomntu onjalo.
Kukho uhlobo lwabaphangi abangenazo izenzo ezintle nje egazini labo. Bathanda omnye omnye, kodwa abayekanga ukukhangela nokufuna amanye amantombazana. Kwabo, oku akukho ukukhohlisa ngokomoya, kodwa nje ngesondo esitsha.
Kukho amadoda anjalo anokukwazi ukuxhasa umfazi kunye nenkosikazi, okanye enye. Ukuhlala nomntu onjalo kuphela ngenxa yokuphila kwintlalo.
Esinye isizathu sinokuthiwa yinyaniso yokuba kukho iimeko xa indoda yakhe ingabi ngesondo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umfazi akazibukeli, uthabatha amaninzi amaninzi emva kokubeleka, ukulahlekelwa yinto ebonakalayo enhle, ekhangele indoda yakhe ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho iirekhodi ezisemthethweni kunye neemeko apho abafazi ngokwabo baphoqeleka kwaye bahlaselwa (kukho into enjalo!) Kubantu, kwaye, nabo, abanako ukumelana nokulwa nesilingo.
Kwaye ke, ubonile izizathu eziphambili zokungcatsha komntu kwaye sonke siyaqonda ukuba injongo yokungcatsha kwabo bonke, kakuhle, okanye phantse konke, ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe zomntu.
Kwaye izizathu eziphambili zokungcatsha, ukuba ukhangele phantse yonke into kuxhomekeke kuthi thina besifazane kunye nokuziphatha kwethu, isimo sengqondo kubantu bethu abathandekayo.
Bobabini abasetyhini kunye namadoda kufuneka baqonde isabelo esipheleleyo sezenzo zabo kubanye, kubantwana babo abathandekayo, kubazali abathandekayo. Emva koko, ngenxa yezenzo zabo ezingenangqiqo, izenzo ezinokugqithiseleyo ziyaxhamla abantu abasondeleyo kunye nabomthonyama.
Naluphina ukuthengwa komntu ngokukhawuleza kuza kwaziwa kwesinye isiqingatha, kwaye umphumo wale nto yintliziyo ephukile yomfazi, ngamanye amaxesha ubomi bonke. Vukana nabantwana, kuba kuyimfuneko ukuqhekeka phakathi kwabazali, kuba wonke umntu uyasondela. Thandanani kunye kwaye kungekhona xa ungatshintshi!