Ngaba akuyi kwenzeka ukuba yethu ithembekileyo ininzi kakhulu ekuhambeni, kwaye kungekhona nje ukuba, kodwa isebenza kwicala! Ndiyavuma, oku akuyinto emnandi kakhulu, kodwa kusekhona umbuzo nokuba uvumele umyeni ukuba atshintshe? Futhi ngokumangalisayo, akukho mpendulo ecacileyo kulo mbuzo.
Kule nqaku siza kuzama ukukhangela lo mbuzo kwiindawo ezimbini zokujonga, ukwenzela ukukunika umfanekiso ogqithiseleyo. Kodwa kusadingeka uphendule, kuba akukho sisombululo esisinye kwisingxaki. Ngoko, masihlahlele ukuhlolisisa.
Iingxabano zokuvumela ukukhohlisa.
Nangona ekuqalekeni, awukwazi ukuvumela okanye ukuxolela ukuxolela, kodwa kukho imeko apho kungenakwenzeka, iya kuba yinto enokwenzeka.
Nawe ungekho isono.
Ngokomzekelo, wena ngokwakho unayo inoveli ngasecaleni, ngelixa wena kunye nomyeni wakho nifuna ukuqhawula umtshato (kule meko kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi, ukuqala ngabantwana, ukuphela, ngokungenangqiqo, kunye nothando olungapheliyo). Kule meko, unokwenza isigqibo sokuba "umnqophiso", wonke umntu unelungelo lokuhlambalaza, kwaye akukho mntu uya kuhlwayelwa nantoni na ukuba akayi kuzisa ingxaki kumlingani wakhe. Okumangalisayo kukuba, izibini ezitshatileyo zikhona, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba zithetha ngakumbi, zivuyisana.
Awukwazi ukumnika oko akufunayo.
Okanye kwenye imeko, indoda yakho ifuna ngesondo into ongenakuyenza okanye ayifuni, apha asiyi kucinga ukuba yintoni kanye. Inyaniso ibalulekile kuthi, kulo mzekelo, mhlawumbi, kunengqiqo ukumvumela ukuba abe nombambano kwicala ukuze anelise iimfuno zakhe zesondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, apha, kufuneka ukuba uxoxisane neemeko kwangaphambili, ngaphandle koko indoda inokuziva inkululeko kwaye ikhuphe i-leash.
Ingxabano yokugqibela.
Ekugqibeleni, ngamanye amaxesha esi sigqibo sinokukunceda ukuba usindise umtshato wakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kunzima kwaye kunzima kakhulu, kodwa ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ngaphandle kwalowo mntu awukwazi ukuhlala (iimvakalelo, izizathu eziphathekayo), mhlawumbi mhlawumbi le nyathelo iyimfuneko uya kugqiba. Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba rhoqo kwaye kuzo zonke iimeko, isigqibo sokugqibela senu kwaye unelungelo lokuzikhethela wena.
Kodwa kuzo zonke iimeko, ndigxininisa kwakhona, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubeka iimeko kunye nemida. Awukwazi ukutsho nje, hamba uguqule ngakwesokunene nangasekhohlo, nokuba uhlaselo kufuneka lube nemida.
Iingxabano zokungavumeli ukuhlaselwa.
Ewe, apha, ngokuqhelekileyo, yonke into ilula, kodwa kunjalo, akuyi kuba yinto engathandekiyo ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ukunyaniseka, nokuba uvela kwicala lakho okanye kwicala lomyeni, luphawu lokuba into engalunganga kulwalamano. Kwaye mhlawumbi kufuneka uguqule into ethile. Ubuqhetseba, ngokuqinisekileyo, utshintsho olufanayo, kodwa lukhulu kakhulu kunye nekhadikhadi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubudlelwane obukhululekile buya kufanana nanamhlanje, kodwa ukugqiba malunga nabo, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo kumyeni wakho, nakuwe nangemvakalelo yakho. Ngaphandle koko, kunokukhokelela ekugqibeleni!
Ukuba sithetha ngezinto ezikufuphi kum, njengombhali wenqaku, ngoko mna ndingayi kunika imvume enjalo kumyeni wam. Kodwa ndiyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba phakathi kwam obaziyo kukho imibhangqwana apho ukunyaniseka kungabonwa njengolwaphulo-mthetho, yaye bayavuya. Kule meko, ke, kufuneka uqonde ukuba awuvumeli ukuba umyeni wakho ahlasele, ukuba ufuna, uya kutshintsha.
Kukho konke oku ngasentla, sinokugqiba ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko apho ukuvumela ukungcatshiswa kumyeni wakhe kuyindlela yokuphuma kunye neyona nto ingaphantsi kwezinto ezimbi, kodwa nangona kunjalo, awukwazi ukwenza oku ngaphandle kweemeko ezongezelelweyo! Ngokufanayo, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukuvinjelwa kwakho akukabikho i-panacea yokukrexeza.