Esinye sezizathu ezibalulekileyo kukuba ukungafani phakathi kwezinto esizilindeleyo kunye nento. Sithemba ukuba umntu othandayo uya kuziphatha njengoko sifisa, kodwa kuvela okuchaseneyo. Kwaye ke siyaqonda ukuba zethu iintlanzi ziphukile, esizidalileyo entloko yethu ixesha elide. Yingakho kukho ingqumbo.
Isizathu sesibini kukuba sizijonga ngathi siphelele, kwaye asinasiphene. "Ungathini na ukuba akhuphe umlomo kum!" - Lawa ngamazwi okuthukuthela okusenza sicaphuke ngothandekayo wethu. Kwaye kukho nentukuthelo enenjongo. Kulo xesha sifuna ukufumana inzuzo okanye ukwenza ityala kumntu othandekayo. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ukukhathala okusisenza sihlale sicasulwa ngumthandi wethu. Nawaphi na amagama athetha ngawo athatyathwa ngokungathandabuzekiyo aze enze ukucaphuka kunye nentukuthelo.
Isizathu esilandelayo sokuba nentukuthelo kukuqokelela iingxaki zobomi. Ngamanye amaxesha siyacaphuka, siphumeza injongo. Enye injongo enjalo ukuphathwa. Ukuphulukiswa kungekho sizathu sokunyanzela umntu obiza ukuba akhulume okanye enze oko sikufunayo.
Injongo elandelayo elandelwayo yi-blackmail. Ukuphulukisiwe, sinyanzelisa othandekayo ukuba ahlupheke kwaye ngoko ke sihlawule ngezenzo esingazithandiyo. Kwaye enye injongo kukuzilungisa. Ngokwephulo lethu, siyaziphelisa ngokwazo zonke iimbopheleleko zezinto ezenzekile kwaye akunakwenza into yokulungisa imeko. Emva kokuchitha zonke izizathu kunye neenjongo zecala, siya kukhangela impendulo kumbuzo othi: "Ukumisa njani, uhlale ucasulwa ngumntu othandekayo?"
Okokuqala, kufuneka uguqule okuncane. Oku kunzima ukukwenza, kodwa kusemandleni ethu, kuba umntu udala.
Okwesibini, khumbula ukuba intanda yakho inomntu onomdla, iimfuno kunye neemfuno zakhe. Maxa wambi uzibeka endaweni yakhe. Uziva konke akuvakalelwayo.
Ukuba imbangela yengqumbo yakho inokukhathala, uzama ukuphumla kakuhle, ujabule, okanye mhlawumbi ufunde incwadi enhle.
Ukuba uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba unobungozi ngamazwi omthandayo kwaye ukulungele ukukhubeka, yima kwaye ujonge le meko ngamehlo yento elandelayo kuwe kwaye ucinge ukuba ucinga ntoni ngawe nakuyo yonke le nto. Ndikholelwe, uya kuba ngcikivo. Eyona nto ingathandekiyo, xa ungaziqondi izizathu zezikhalazo zakho kumntu obiza okanye ungazi indlela yokujongana nalezi ziphoso, kufuneka uguqulele kwisazi sezengqondo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ukwenza oku, kulungele ukuba kuwe.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula into enye ngaphambi kokucaphukisa umntu obathandayo, cinga ukuba uya kuzisola emva kwexesha. Emva koko, ukuhlambalaza kuqukethe imibala emihlanu: umsindo okanye ukucaphuka; Yakho ntliziyo; ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo nothando; ukuzisola; uthando.
Emva koko, ininzi yethu konke sikhubekisa kumnye esimthandayo. Ukuba sisicatshulwa ngumntu othandekayo kwaye nangona ulwaphulaphulo lulungile, simnike ithuba lokuba achaze isizathu sokwenza kwakhe. Oku kuya kukunceda ugcine ubudlelwane bakho kwaye uqinise uthando lwakho.