Ukunganeliseki kwengqondo okanye ngokwesini kumtshato kunokukhokelela ekungathembeki. Oku kuya kwenzeka kuyo yonke intsapho, kwaye oku kuxhomekeke kwimeko yendoda nomfazi, ubudlelwane babo kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi. Nangona kunjalo, zonke iingcali zeengqondo ziyavuma ukuba ukungathembeki kwabasetyhini kuyimeko ekhethekileyo. Ngoko, yintoni ukutshatyalaliswa kowesifazane - impazamo okanye ukungcatsha, kwaye kuya kuxutyushwa ngezantsi.
Abanye abantu baxolelana ngokungathembeki kwabafazi babo, ngoxa abanye baphatha kakubi kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda akancinci ngokukhawuleza abone indlela abathandekayo babo batshintsha ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo iyakuthintela ize idibise, ibenyuke kwaye ibabangele. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imigaqo ngokubanzi yokungathembeki kwabasetyhini. Abazali be-Sexologists bakholelwa ukuba umfazi (ngokungafaniyo, ngendlela, evela kumntu) akaze atshintshe ngesizathu, kungekho sizathu. Ngokuqhelekileyo bafuna kwiqabane elitsha ukuba yintoni indoda esemthethweni engenako.
Ngokungafani namadoda avame ukugxila kwiintlobano zesini, abafazi bafuna, ngaphezu kwabo bonke, uthando, inhlonipho, ukunyaniseka, abangazange bakuve kumyeni wabo ixesha elide. Bafuna ukuvuselela amandla okuthanda nokuvakalelwa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awanelisekile emtshatweni, isondo sezocansi sinomdla kubo.
Emva kokuseka ubudlelwane nomthandi, abanye abafazi banamathele ngakumbi kubayeni babo, abantwana, benza yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya, bahleleke ngokubanzi emsebenzini wabo. Isizathu salo ngumqondo wecala abafumanayo, okhuthaza ukuba ngandlela-thile bahlawule ukuthengwa kwabo kunye nokulungisa impazamo yabo. Kwabanye besetyhini, ukuthanda uthando kwicala luqhelekileyo. Loo mfazi unzima kakhulu ukubonisa, njengoko wenza konke ngokucokisekileyo, ngokucokisekileyo nangokucwangcisekileyo. Kubo, ukugwenxa ngumdlalo othakazelisayo nombi kakhulu, kunye nomngcipheko kunye nesiqhwithi somsindo. Umfazi onjalo awunalusizo ukuhlazeka kwaye ufundise kwakhona. Ukhohlakele kuye yindlela yokuphila, into eyenyulwa ngokungenakwenzeka. Ngendlela, ngenxa yowesifazane, abafazi abanjalo bazolile, abayi kukhwaza umyeni wakhe kunye nokuxela ngokufihlakeleyo emapokothini akhe. Ngexesha elifanayo banokumthanda ngokwenene umyeni wabo, imitshato kunye nabo ihlala iminyaka emininzi.
Kukho a mabhinqa apho ubudlelwane ababhekiselele kwicala ngokuqhelekileyo abayicongi ibhedi. Bathanda ukudlala ngothando, kubangele ukuqhuma kweemvakalelo kubalulekile, xa kubonakala kwintliziyo iyayeka, xa yonke into ibilisa ngaphakathi kwaye ufuna ukuhleka, yakhala. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungenjalo akunakuchukumisa kubo. Ngokukhawuleza ekufikeni kobudlelwane obusondelene nabo - baqhawula ubudlelwane. Abayicingi ngothando lwabo lokungcatsha, ukuphosakela okanye ukungcatsha. Nangona eqinisweni, oku akukho ukuzizonwabisa okungenakubungozi. Kungaba yingozi, okokuqala, kumfazi lowo. Ulwalamano olunjalo lunokuhlala lude kwaye luhendwe, luguqula ubomi bomthandi onobungozi bokudlala ngothando.
Kukho abafazi abakhohlisayo umyeni wabo, basebenzisa onke amathuba. Ngokuqhelekileyo aba bafazi banesifo esincinci, uhlobo lwesifo sengqondo. Baqala ukutshatana ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngokomoya abanako ukuqhubeka nothando. Abazivumiyo ngokwabo imvakalelo yokubeleka engumama, abayikunyamekela abantwana babo. Umtshato kunye nomfazi onjalo yintlekele indoda, ngakumbi ukuba intsapho inabantwana. Amanye amadoda ahlupheka kwaye ahlupheka ngenxa yokungcatshiswa kwabafazi abanjalo kuphela kubantwana, kuba abanako ukuzinikela kumama onjalo onobubele. Ba novelwano kuphela. Ngethamsanqa, olu hlobo lwabasetyhini aluqabile, bambalwa kunye nentsapho abayibonakalisa kakhulu.
Ngamanye amaxesha ubudlelwane bezesondo obuphambukayo kwicala labasetyhini bubangelwa yintlungu yecala. Ukuba ngaba abazali beentombazana bamkhupha ngobudlelwane, ukuba wayetyathwa ngumbono wokuthi kufuneka abe ngumsulwa ngaphambi komtshato, kodwa ulahlekelwa ubuntombi bakhe ngaphambili, ngoku uziva enetyala. Oku kwenzeka kwinqanaba elincinci, kunzima ukuba ibhinqa lilwa nalo. Abafazi abanjalo abanako kwaye abanqweneli ukuyeka isondo, bathatha inxaxheba kwiziganeko eziqhubekayo, njengoko bezama ukuzijezisa ngenxa yokulahleka kobuthathaka kunye nokomeleza uluvo lwabo ngokwabo ukuba baziphatha kakubi, bahlaselwe kwaye banelungelo lobomi obunjalo kuphela.
Abafazi abaqhelekileyo abatshatileyo bajonga ukuba ukuziphatha ubomi obini kubangalunganga, kuba ixesha elilahlekileyo xa lithandana nomthandi libiwe kubantwana kunye nomyeni wakhe. Ngako oko, ukuhlala nokungathembeki kwamfazi kubangela iingxaki kwiintsapho zobudlelwane. Ngomzamo wokulondoloza umtshato wakhe, umfazi otshatileyo akanakuhlala esonwabile nomthandi wakhe, kuba indlu yakhe, abantwana kunye noxanduva lwakhe lweentsapho balindele. Ukongezelela, akakwazi ukuthethelela ukulibaziseka kwakhe rhoqo ngezo mpikiswano, njengokuba umntu esenza njalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthethwa ngumthandi wakhe, ukhathala kwiintlanganiso ezinqabileyo kunye nesondo, usenokugqiba ukuqhawula umtshato.
Inyaniso yokuba abafazi bahlala bekhohlisa ngaphantsi kwamadoda bachazwa ngento yokuba banamathuba amaninzi okukhohliswa. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo kumagxa amabhinqa asebenzayo, intsapho, abantwana, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo zilala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, imigaqo yakhe yokuziphatha ayikuvumeli ukuba uqale ukuthandana nomyeni wentombi yakho okanye osebenza kunye naye. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umfazi otshatileyo akanakho ukhetho. Kwaye xa umntu ebonisa umdla kuye - uyaphendula ngokudlala ngothando kwaye uyaqhubeka emngcatsha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantu abakhohlisayo, nokuba ngabafazi okanye ngabafazi, abavumelani nokuba isiqingatha sesibini sinokungcatsha nokutshintsha. Xa umfazi edibana nomthandi wakhe, umzekelo, ukholelwa ukuba ngoku umfazi wakhe usemsebenzini, kunye nomhlobo okanye nabazali bakhe, nangona kunjalo ayikho. Ngokuyinene, iingcamango zokuqala zengoma zothando ziyabantu. Ibhinqa liyakubonisa umdla, liphendule ngokuthandana kwayo, kodwa inxaxheba ebalulekileyo isadlalwa ngumntu. Yingakho amadoda aqheleke akhohlise abafazi bawo kunabesifazane - amadoda abo.
Amadoda nabasetyhini babekade bebekwa kwiindawo ezingafaniyo. Ngaloo ndlela, kude kube ngoku abaninzi abafazi abanako ukukwazi ukudibana nomntu, umzekelo, kwindawo kawonkewonke, esitalatweni okanye kwi-cafe. Uninzi lwabafazi banamahloni ukubonisa umdla wabo njengendoda kwimeko eqhelekileyo yabahlobo. Ngoko, ekudaleni intsapho, umfazi uyalibala ngokukhanga kwakhe, ukukwazi kwakhe ukuthanda nokuthandwa. Ubuqhetseba obunjalo bhinqa bubunzima kodwa buyimfuneko njengomoya. Ngoko loo mfazi ukhumbuza ngokwakhe ukuba usaphila. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ubudlelwane bubonakala ngaye njengephutha okanye ukungcatsha, uyazifihla, kodwa, kamva kamva, waphinde wangena echibini lomnqweno onqatshelwe.
Ngelishwa, uluvo lukawonkewonke luyehlisa ukunyaniseka kwamadoda kunabesifazane. Ukutshintsha umntu kuthiwa igama elihle "kazanova". Kwaye njengoko bebiza ngokuba ngumfazi oguqukayo? Ukuqhubeka akuyimfuneko. Abantu baye badala inkolelo yokuba umntu unokutshintshwa, kodwa umfazi akanako. Kukholelwa ukuba indoda engumfazi ohlakaniphile, omhle kunye noqoqosho uyasoze ayitshintshe. Kodwa oku akunjalo! Njengoko kunjalo, umyeni omangalisayo, onobuqili kunye onenkathalo unokutshintsha umfazi wakhe.
Ukuba uya kuqala ulwalamano olude nendoda ecaleni, ngoko uyazi ukuba abafihleli nje uvuyo oluhle ngokulindela umhla ozayo, kodwa nezinto ezininzi ezimbi! Uya kufuneka ulale kwaye ufihle kule ntla nganiso, "ufihla imimiselo", ubuya emva kokudibana nomthandi wakho. Kuya kufuneka ukhangele amehlo enuyeni, uthethe naye, ukufihla umdla kunye nesifiso sokuvuma nokuguquka kuyo yonke into. Ngaba unesiqiniseko sokuthi ukunyaniseka akuyi kukulimaza ulwalamano lwakho nomyeni wakho, ukuba oku akuyi kubachaphazela abantwana bakho xa beqala ukugcina indawo yomona ngaphakathi kwendlu kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane obwenzekayo phambi kwamehlo abo? Ekungcatsha umyeni wakhe, abaninzi abafazi babona kuphela ukuphunyuka kwinkqubo yentsapho, kodwa ke, ngokugqithiseleyo, bawela kwisicupho apho bangakwazi ukuphuma khona.
Ukuba unenjongo yokugcina umtshato wabo ubuncinci kubantwana, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba ngaba baya kuvuya xa omnye umntu ebonakala ebomini bakho. Nangona uhlaselo kunye nokungcatsha kudla ngokuqhelekileyo, bahlala bexeka ngakumbi kunokuba baneliseke kumfazi otshatileyo. Yonke into ingaqala kakuhle - ubuhlobo, ingqwalasela komnye umntu kunye nomdla wokudla. Kodwa ke ubunzima neengxaki ziqala. Abanye abafazi abatshatileyo bayazivumela ukugcina ubudlelwane bexesha elide ngasecaleni kumyeni wakhe. Into engafanelekanga nokuba akukho ukukrexeza kukwenza ukuba ucinge ngobudlelwane beentsapho, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha lo nxu lumano luya kuphazamisa loo ntokazi, ukuzisa intlungu kunye nentlungu. Ukungathethi umva wecala lokungcatsha, ukuphutha kunye nokungcatsha.